Past loves/crushes/flings - could they still affect you?

I hope you are normal because otherwise I'm not either.

I have someone who I first went out with when I was 14, then again when I was 19 when it was off and in due to him going to the States. We never fell out and it was definately a case of "if it doesn't end badly it doesn't end at all"

Three years ago he was at home and got my number of my granny (with permission from me first) and when he rang me It was the first time in over 10yrs that we had spoken and I could hardly hear him because my heart was going twently to the dozen. We had a few conversations which MrB knew about and had no problems with. I would imagine if I ever met him again I would turn into a silly teenager.

He's my trashy romance novel IYSWIM

I know for a fact that if I met this guy Rob, that I shared a hostel, and a lot of fun times with when backpacking Thailand, I would probably instantly orgasm.

We didn't actually 'do' anything, which I think adds to it all, but even the photo I have of the two of us cause people to ask what the chemistry was.

If any Bristol types know of a devestatingly good looking guy called Rob who did biomedical science at Oxford, I don't know how you contain yourselves.

I have one of these. I was shaking when I saw his friend request on FB. I'd already looked him up on there but not done anything.

I remember the minute I saw him when I was 16 and that was it. I only saw him the once and we didn't even speak. I didn't meet him til 3 years later when we went to uni in the same city (coincidentally, I didn't stalk him!) and we had a short, seriously passionate fling. 16 years later he still makes me feel the same way. He is marrying someone else in a couple of months. We've acknowledged this 'thing' and that we're happy with other people and that's it.

One of my friends explains it as there's not just one person in the whole world for you, which is a good thing as the chances of you finding them would be pretty slim!

Edited to add that this is the seriously condensed version ?

I married mine!

Cut a long story short - met at 16 and dated for a while, met again in 20's and dated for a year. Things didn't work out and he moved away, and I met my first husband.

I always had feelings for him and when me and first husband separated and he was also single again we met up - that was 7 years ago and we got married in December.

Oh God yes... he happens to now be a good friend (although I see him rarely) but there was a time when I'd have married him in a heartbeat. Then he met his wife, I met Mr G, and we all lived happily ever after with people who were right for us.

Luckily all my exes are gay. This makes things so much easier.

Two are amongst my absolute closest friends in the world. I nearly asked one to give me away when we got married (in the end I gave myself away ?).

I can still totally love them, and also be touchy-feely, with no question of it ever going anywhere or meaning anything, and no fear of hurting Mr R-A.

I thoroughly recommend it!

I have a guy like this, We went to school together and i liked him for about 3 years before we finally got together!

Then we kissed and he told me he had a g/f, ***.

I still cant speak to him! maybe some day i will but he was just such a let down!

Oh definitely - I really had my heart broken 17 years ago, and the pain (while it has faded) is still there if I think about it.

I also still have a silly schoolboy crush on a girl I knew when I was 8. I sent her a valentine's card every year for a decade, but never had the courage to say anything. ?

I haven't seen her for over 20 years, and she's probably married with kids, and nothing like I remember her - but there's still a tingle.

Yup I have one guy in particular who I was best of friends with years ago but there was always a spark between us. We tried to just remain friends (I was with H at the time) but it was obvious that we had a lot of chemistry. He tried to kiss me when we were on a night out once and we agreed that it would be best if we didn't see each other anymore. He's appeared in my list of people you may know on friends now.

I would never contact him again, I think he could still make me go all wibbly but I know that we would never have been any good for each other and ultimately me and my H are far better suited to each other and I love him more than I ever could have loved the other guy.

I've been told by two guys that I was there one that got away, bit uncomfortable really as one of them told me while his fiancee was in earshot that he'd settled when he hadn't found anyone like me.

Gosh, not remotely. I suppose my ex H does, but only in a negative way. Otherwise I think of my exes with fondness or not at all.

Yes! An ex of mine found me on Friends Reunited and I was blown away that he remembered me. It did give me a few butterflies.

We met on holiday (about 15 years ago), and saw each other for about 6 months after even though he was from the opposite end of the country. So it's not like I just popped up on his High School's list. I was very ? speaking to him again.

Yes. There is someone who I had a fling with who gives me a bit of an adrenaline rush. That said, I stopped talking to him a good while ago because he made it plain he wanted another fling, and was incapable of talking about anything else!

I'm slightly relieved that it seems a normal thing, thank you. The whole thing yesterday made me feel like a giggly school girl. MrW knows about him, but I think I played down a lot of what it was like. I've seen him twice in 17 years, so didn't really think there would still be those types of feelings.