Plus Ones

We're not having plus ones unless we know them and know them qwell. i'm not just having a mates current squeeze at my wedding paying £60 for a guy/girl i dont know and might not be around next week (this doesnt say a lto about my friends but its true!)

if i were you i'd stick to your guns. if you dont have room for plus 1s...you aint got room!

Eeek, rather presumptuous of them to assume they would be getting plus ones! We aren't allowing plus one's for the single people, we have a limited amount of 60 places which we have easily filled. The evening is more flexible and would allow plus 1's then but if it's for the whole day then I would just explain to them that numbers are limited so aren't allowing extras. Just be honest.

Couple of my friends are like this, On their invite I've just put their name and no plus one.

The way we saw it, was if they are single they dont have a plus one, and even if someone got a fella between invites and the wedding their new OH could come in the evening

No point filling a room of people youve never met, or people your friends have only known a week just so they dont have to go on their own

We've decided to only give plus ones to couples who are in relationships. There will be no plus ones for single people so they can bring a random person who we've probably never met and will never meet again, otherwise it gets out of hand and there are people you don't recognise at your own wedding. I may be wrong but I personally think it's also a bit rude for guests to assume that they'll be automatically getting a plus one!

Generally we aren't giving +1's to the day event with the exception of one guest who won't know anyone else and I didn't want to feel lonely! All the other singletons have friends there so I can't see why it's an issue. I was upfront with my friends from the off as I didn't want it to become an issue so I'd recommend nipping it in the bud asap!

My goodness that presumptuous.

No, you are well within your rights to not include plus ones for those that don't have partners.

To be honest, we haven't included existing partners if we've never met them (unless their married, have kids together, engaged or something similar).

Aaah I feel much better now!

We've got 70 spaces for during the day and after family and bridesmaids it doesnt give much space for friends so I was finding it really difficult!!

At night we have 120 so we could invite plus ones but our venue is an hour away from where we live, and 3 hours away from my H2Bs hometown so not sure if they would take us up on that.

I'm sure if we explained that it's £60 a head and that we're limited on numbers and want all of our close friends there it makes sense?!

I wouldn't even mention the money side. Just say to them that due to number restrictions we are unable to extend the invitation to a plus one. Mention that they are welcome to invite someone along to the evening though. It's up to them if they take you up on it - you've done your bit.

Please stick to your guns and dont invite plus ones. Why should you pay to feed and entertain people that you don't know and fiends have bought along 'just because'? That may sound harsh, but the single people I am inviting (admittedly not many) are not bringing a plus one. The invite will be to them only, I'm not spending my day with anybody that I don't know.

The evening is more flexible and would allow plus 1's then but if it's for the whole day then I would just explain to them that numbers are limited so aren't allowing extras. Just be honest.

This. But I'd only offer an exaplanation is they asked (which would be VERY cheeky). We didn't invite partners we didn't know, relationship or not. That actually included my Uncle's wife...

For our guests that are flying to Glasgow for the wedding, we gave them a plus one option as we felt it was only fair; for local people who are married or in long term (at least one year) relationships we gave them a plus one; for one or two guests who genuinely know nobody apart from me and H2B we gave them a plus one; all single people who live local and have mutual friends/family attending were invited alone.

I tell a lie. We DID invite one partner I didn't know (although Boy had met once), as the necessary travel would have precluded an evening invitation. He didn't accept anyway...

I don’t think people totally realise how hard it is to keep numbers down until you are in the situation. We are looking at 130-150 to the day time, and even then that’s just with my girlfriends, no plus ones, husbands, boyfriends, children just them. I’d rather be able to have all my girls there then just a select few so I can have there other half! Plus we don’t really do the whole couples get together that often. BUT they are more than welcome to come on the evening. OH is having couples mainly because we do socialise in couples with his friends, and he doesn’t have as big a circle as me.

At the end of the day it’s your wedding, don’t feel pressure to keep people happy because it’s impossible, you will upset someone at some point.

Put your foot down quick! One of my friends nagged me into giving her a plus-one which I didn't want to do as she knew people there and I'd even invited her mum and stepdad.

Her boyfriend didn't show up anyway and they split up soon after (not down to anything to do with my wedding I hasten to add!).

We had no plus ones who we didn't know, unless they were married. The only time I would have considered it would be if there was someone who literally didn't know anyone else there.

I imagine possibly a few eyebrows were raised behind closed doors (my parents wanted us to invite all our cousins' partners), but nothing was said to us. I did have one couple who were both invited split up before the wedding, so the guy didn't come; one of our other friends asked if she could bring her new ( months) bf in his place but I said no, because there were other partners who had been together much longer who weren't coming. She took it ok. ?

No you don't have to invite plus one's, and I think it's really rude to people to assume you might! It's not just a party, everyone you have there costs money!

We only invited long term partners. One of my friends did ask me if she could bring a date, I said no!

You don't have to give any reasons why either, it's up to you who you invite.

Noway that's rude! were having a '6 months and over rule' for partners only...no plus ones that we don't know...you might end up with them bringing a friend instead of a partner if you just say plus one...IMO it's not a night out!! fair enough a long term partner that you haven't met or don't know that well but just putting plus one means they can bring anyone...stick to your guns and don't invite them unless it's a partner! x

I'd tell them not to be so cheeky presuming they're having plus ones and tell them how much it costs per serson! I certainly won't be having any strangers at my wedding. I don't want to look back on my photos and see a collegues old boyfriend of a few months.

Just tell them straight!

I'd tell them not to be so cheeky presuming they're having plus ones and tell them how much it costs per serson! I certainly won't be having any strangers at my wedding. I don't want to look back on my photos and see a collegues old boyfriend of a few months.

Just tell them straight!

We are only having couples who are long term or married. The only single guest who is getting a plus one is one guest who won't know anyone except OH. Even both my adult children who are currently single have been told that if they aren't in long term relationships by the time we send out invites (in about 16 months) they wont be getting a plus one either.

We are also having this.

Most of our guests are couples anyway, we will have a few guests who are partners of friends who we don't really know which I am not too pleased about. I originally wanted to have only people I knew there, not random strangers watching me say my vows just cos they happen to be bumping uglies with a friend of ours.

One friend's partner we have never met but they have been together nearly a year so I think for politeness people like that really have to have an invite. However a friend of a friend who was going to be playing music during our drinks and nibbles (and now may not be) just asked me if he can have a plus one... as he has been chatting to a guy online FOR A WEEK and wants to invite him ? I laughed it off and distracted him with questions about his new boytoy.

People are very presumptious that if you're planning a wedding everyone should get to go, I don't think they understand about the cost and the importance of the actual day at all. Stick to your guns if you can, you have over a year anyway to see how your friends go with relationships and so on.