Post traumatic stress disorder

I hope the big hug that your parents are going to give you is the start of your recovery.

What an honest post. We haven't really spoken before so hope you don't mind me replying. But I honestly think that a person who can understand the illness and the likely causes of it so well, has a great chance of becoming a happier and healthy person.

I hope you begin to feel better soon ?

Just to say that though I've not spoken to you on Hitched before, all the very best with this. I think you sound like an amazingly strong person who's been through a hell of a lot. And it takes strength to ask for help.

Just remember that you are not alone and that other people do understand, particularly in terms of certain lifestyles and being strong for other people and helping them. Sometimes you are forced (as I think you are now) to put yourself first for a change.

I hope that going home to Wales really helps a lot and I hope that you'll update Hitched on how you are. I am guessing, given by your post count on here that you have a lot of Hitcher friends to support you as well as IRL friends anyway.

Best,

SG45 x

Much much much love to you SLD. Be kind to yourself and feel better soon, lovely lady. I'm glad you're getting some help, and you know you can count on any number of people on here (myself included) if you want to sound off or have a wee cry at any point. Let me know if you fancy a weekend in Warry getting smashed and watching LOG Daaaaave xx

Oh honey, I've really missed you on here, FB and Twitter. I had no idea you were dealing with all this, although I was always aware that you'd been through a lot, it doesn't seem that long ago at all you broke up with your H

So glad you've had a doctor diagnose you, and you have your family to give you a big hug and help you start to sort stuff out for yourself.

Take care lovely, hope you'll be back with us when you're able to. Much love xxxxxxxxxxx

Oh SLD I've been very worried about you the past few months. You know that I am here if you need me.

Just wanted to wish you well over the coming days, weeks, months. It sounds as though you need some time out to work through the issues troubling you at the moment and find out who you are again. I'm sure you will get through this and come out the other side a stronger and more self assured person as a result. It's not going to be easy by any means but i'm sure your parents and friends will help you to find your way through x x

Oh SLD. Massive hugs and love.

I'm actually really pleased for you that you've found this out and you seem to be making some really positive steps to making it all good again. You will come out the other end.

What a fabulous family you have. Hope you can slowly rebuild and come back healthier and happier than ever.

Thinking of you xx

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SLD we've never really spoken but I follow your threads and you've not once come across as weak, tbh I always think of you as one of the cool sixth formers who I want to be my friend. Not because I think you necessarily have a wonderfully perfect life and everything goes right for you but because of the way you seem to be on here, the way you are with people, the things you say etc.

You've had a number of hugely stressful events in your life and there's no weakness in struggling a little bit to deal with that. It sounds like you're doing absolutely the right thing in getting help to deal with it, I know from experience it can creep back up on you and bite you on the arse otherwise.

I might not be the best person to talk to because when the going got tough for me I upped sticks and moved back home. I don't regret it though! Ah how I love Wales! (particularly South)

If ever you're back home and want some internet weirdy company I have references

SLD, we've not really 'spoken' much on here but I'll honestly miss you. You have often been the source of light on a dark thread and have made me laugh on many occasion.

I hope you're not away too long and that you are getting all the support you need. You are not weak, you just feel weight and pain like everybody else. Chin up and all that stuff. I'd move back to Wales any day of the week, you're doing the right thing.

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Thanks all, I really do appreciate your words. I went into shock when I was told and just couldn't get my head around it, although when I read the article it was a relief to know that it wasn't just me, it's something that plenty of people get because of bad situations. I do everything that's listed there.

I met SB the afternoon I was told - I wanted to tell him how relieved I was, but the more I spoke about it the more upset I got and ended up crying my eyes out and asking him to come home with me because I needed him. I've never told anyone in my whole life that I need them, no one at all. I miss him so much although we're still friends, he's got a lot on his plate so I can't lean on him, but he'soffered to lend me his car for this weekend which is lovely. I hope in time, when things are sorted that we can get back together. I still love him, I think he loves me too (he says maybe, he just doesn't know because his head is all over the place) and the attraction is definitely still there. He's a lovely person but I need to sort myself out if I'm ever to be a decent girlfriend to him. Keep your fingers crossed for me, for six months time.

I'm so sorry for worrying anyone - believe me I've only kept people at a distance because I felt guilty for worrying them and so wouldn't let them get very close, this applies to friends, family, everyone. I hadn't spoken to my Dad in over five months before this... despite his countless attempts to get in touch with me. I feel so bad for 'disappearing' but it was the only way I knew to behave, I couldn't tell anyone how I was feeling. I haven't leaned on anyone for emotional support since I was very young.

Thank you for everything that you've said, I really mean it. xxx

You have mail my lovely, 2 emails infact ? ?

SLD - you have nothing to be sorry for, you've done what you thought was best for everyone around you. The time has come to stop worrying about that and concentrate on you. From what I've read from your posts you're a bloody lovely person who has a lot of support from those you know about, and many you don't. I hope you manage to work through what you need to and remember that everyone here that offers you support does so on an unconditional basis.

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I really hope things work out for the absolute best

Now that your dad and SB know what's been at the root of things for you you don't need to feel bad for the lack of contact with dad or lack of, I don't know, emotional acceptance with SB.

You've got some hard work ahead but I abdolutely think that if anyone can come through the other side of something like this it's you.

All fingers, toes and eyes crossed for you.

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Blimey you're being so lovely to me - I really appreciate your support and your really sweet comments about me. You're all very kind and your confidence in me is so heartening, thank you from the bottom of my heart.

I feel extremely fortunate enough to have such caring people around me, both here and IRL, reading back over this thread is making me feel so humble. I am horribly afraid of being judged because I feel that everyone will feel I am stupid for getting into this mess – I don’t think anyone knows how hard this has been for me and for such a long time.

But on the lighter side, because I can't sleep (and if I'm honest I've not been able to sleep or eat properly for quite a while) I'm watching a real life ghost documentary on You Tube - in the dark too, see I am brave after all! [wry smile]

I'm another who hasn't 'spoken' to you much - although I know you're local to me and I think of you as an arty-interesting-type, and someone whose posts I always read.

I don't think anyone on here could think that you're in any way weak. Honestly. It's a cliche, but you've been so brave to recognise that you don't feel right and ask for help.

I hope this is a real turning point for you and that you can work towards being really happy in your life, work and relationships.

Don't feel like you have to stay away, though obviously if you think it'll help you then of course, Hitched will still be here when you get back

Random interweb weirdy hug ?

SLD I have had PTSD and come out the other side. The diagnosis, for me at least, was a shock. I remember saying to the Psychiatrist, 'but I haven't been in any war you know, no plane crashes or anything'. It seemed almost surreal that those words were being applied to me. But they were. And they were right. PTSD is fcuking awful to live with, but once you are rid of it you get your life back. And honestly, you will be with the right help. I am rambling a bit now as I'm rather tired, but I hope what I have said helps. I'll check the thread again tomorrow in case you want to ask anything because I don't think that pm works. Take care.

SLD - we've not spoken for ages and I thought it was because you were loving the new job you were so excited about.

I'm so sorry to hear about you and SB but it's great news that you have this diagnosis and such wondeful supportive parents. I've heard a lot of the same from my H - he gets bad depression and all he wants to do when he's most down is move back home to wales for a simpler life away from London. So I totally get what you're saying there.

I hope you can get the time and support to work through this and come out the other side, stronger & happier. And SB still sounds wonderful - I hope things can work out for you both in time.

Take care of yourself.x

Oh SLD, i've been wondering where you've been, I was only thinking the other day that we haven't had a good troll around for a while ?

Your dad sounds fab which is a great start. Go home, let them help you and enjoy your time, as much as you can, after all, it's Wales ? JOKE!

We're all here if you need us and you'll be missed x

Sorry to hear about that SLD and I hope the move back to Wales helps you get back to some sort of normality. Please let us know how you're getting on soon.

You'd better be back on Hitched by the time we get to the 6 Nations ?.

Lovely SLD, I'm so sorry to hear you've been having such a tough time of it. I haven't been around on OT much lately, so had no idea any of this was going on (although by the sound of it, most people wouldn't have).

You are brave for seeking help and admitting that things aren't as they should be - that's a tough thing to own up to. I really, really hope that some time out with your folks helps, and that you find true happiness on the other side of this. You deserve it, lovely, you really do.

Take care and be gentle with yourself.

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I know I don't 'know' you but I wish you a speedy recovery ?

Hi SLD,

Another one who hasn't really spoken to you - but I just wanted to say how sorry I am to hear you going through this, I am sure that you will come out this on the other side as a stonger person.

Your Dad sounds lovely and I hope that your time in Wales helps you to start the healing process. SB also sounds really lovely too - hope you can both work that one out soon...

Just as a ponder though - it is funny what life throws at you, there have been points in my life over the past couple of years where I have pushed people away and become really distant as a mechanism. I guess I forgot how much that hurts those that love you - but we all cope differenlty and you aren't to feel guilty for that.

You look after yourself!

I dip in and out of hitched now so had no idea you had gone through so much. that is so much for one person to deal with.

Much love and vibes to you to start on a road to recovery now.

You know, this weekend my vibes will be close by so work more too ?

Oh lovely girl, what a big step you're taking. You should be so proud of yourself for being brave enough to do something about how you were feeling.

Good luck and don't be a stranger.

It does sound like you're really at a low point - so, to quote Tony Blair "things can only get better"

Take very good care of yourself - you deserve to be happy and I hope this is the start of your complete recovery xx

SLD, please dont beat yourself up about not being able to cope. Stress and huge events affect everyone differently and you sound a bit like me 'a coper' except youve coped for so long because people expect you to, more stuff gets loaded onto you and this time its just too much. I broke down 2 years ago and have an idea as to what youre going through and thinking. I reckon youve made the right decision to stop, sit back and realise its just too much for you and take a break away from it all.

As Mwnci says, if you ever want to meet up with an internet wierdy whist in Wales then drop me a line, I havent made slippers for ages....?

Take care my lovely.x

Oh SLD - all the love and hugs physically possible coming your way ?

And don't even start to apologise for "disappearing" from here - it's soooo not important! Just take the time and get yourself well.

SLD just wanted to say that we'll all be here for you when you are ready to come back and we'll help to provide any support you need. I hope you begin to work through things and feel better soon. All my love xx

Lots and lots of best wishes from me. You're a wonderful person who helped me once when I was going through a very dark time and I'll never forget that. You deserve to be very happy and I hope you start to feel well again soon ?

SLD I'm so sorry to hear that you're going through this. With the support of your parents and your friends I hope that things can begin to look better for you.

Big hugs to you!

I wish you all the best in getting things back on track and recovering - and lots of happiness in the future. I am sure you will get there, you are so bright and articulate, you have the mental tools to fight this and be happy again, I'm sure.

Go easy on yourself. x

? SLD, well done for choosing to admit that you need a bit of time out and help. I'm sure your parents are absolutely thrilled to be having this time with you and it will do you so much good.