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Beginner November 2013

Rant about Bridesmaid!!

katiemoulton87, 12 November, 2012 at 20:44

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I do apologise but i need a good rant!!!! Getting married 16/11/13 and have just confirmed venues and what we are having etc, i asked my bridesmaids a couple of months ago to be part of our day. I have 3 adults and a 4 year old flower girl. I am trying to organise all 3 adults plus me to go dress...

I do apologise but i need a good rant!!!!

Getting married 16/11/13 and have just confirmed venues and what we are having etc, i asked my bridesmaids a couple of months ago to be part of our day.

I have 3 adults and a 4 year old flower girl.

I am trying to organise all 3 adults plus me to go dress shopping and it's proving a difficult task. I actually live in Hull, but i'm from Leicestershire and having the wedding there. 1 of my bridesmaids lives in Scunthorpe and the the other 2 are also from Leicestershire.

BM1 - My Cousin - More like a big sister has been great, just freeing up time as and when i ask. She's a a size 12-14 dress.

BM2 - My Childhood friend - She's been there for me alot and shes amazing. She's a police officer so her time off is precious but has really odd shifts so am trying my best to work around her. She is a pretty little thing and a size 6/8

BM3 - This is where my problems lie. BM3 is our mutual friend and actually me and H2b came to know each other because of her. She is being awkward about everything!!!!! She is a larger lady a size 24 and conscious of how she looks. Being a plus size myself i totally understand how she feels about wanting to look nice and not ridiculous. BM3 Lives in Scunthorpe.

The BM's are paying for their dresses themselves so i can appreciate they want to keep costs low so i have been lenient in terms of design as long as all their colours match. Because of the variation in dress size a high street shop is out of the question really. I have seen a gorgeous dress that i think will suit all 3 of them lovely and its £130 and i know they go right up to a size 32. I have arranged for all my BM's to go see the dress over the next couple of weeks and to get BM3 enthusiastic i decided to show her the design i saw. In the shop they actually have it in the colour we are having (yellow). I thought she would be really positive but got nothing but negative vibes from her and she's really put me on a downer. She likes the dress but is being picky about this that and the other. I even flashed her my dress and again she has just been negative. We went for a look round some shops together and i tried dresses on with her and now because i haven't ordered the one i tried on with her has got the hump.

She's now being elusive as to whether she will actually be coming on the day we arranged. I offered to pick her up and take her back on my route.

I obviously want them all to look lovely, but how do i take into account all 3 body shapes, personal preferences, location differences etc. It's just starting to get me down to the point where i just want to shout at BM3 and ask her if she actually still wants to be a BM!

Help what do i do for my sanity!?!?!

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  • Fergo
    Beginner December 2012
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    Unbelievably rude. I'm loving the fluff free...long may it continue.

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  • T
    Beginner February 2013
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    Hilarious thread!

    For what it's worth, I'm a size ten and I think I'd have a strop if someone tried to make me wear yellow. It's not a flattering colour on me at all. I'd purely reiterate what others have said in that it's really not worth falling out with friends over something as trivial as a dress. Some people will be really interested and want to come wedding / BM dress shopping, others will have reaosns why they can't / are less interested but if you're close enough to ask them in the first place then you're close enough to have a sensible conversation.

    I will have a pregnant BM. I cried when she told me. Because I was so flippin happy! (I may have told her I'll get her a big bunch of flowers Smiley winking) but seriously, is it going to spoil the 'look' of your wedding? Is she going to upstage you? Jeez.

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  • *gnashers*
    Beginner October 2013
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    I missed this all because of a pile of poxy ironing!

    I ❤️ Hitched

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  • *Mini*
    Beginner January 2012
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    I wish AmyLou would come back. I miss her well thought out arguments. [:'(]

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  • C
    Beginner March 2013
    Chedi ·
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    I wish I'd made a cuppa before I started reading this. Now feeling a bit parched and boggled at the same time at how a simple question turned into this!

    Nice to see some OM's over in WP ? Please pop by more often, we need more 'experienced' opinions ?

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  • FaeBelle13
    Beginner April 2013
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    This! But i think she may be a gonner

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  • Ali_G
    Beginner October 2012
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    His problem wasn't with unmarried pregnant ladies, it was just pregnant ladies in general. He thought their tummies looked weird.

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  • Missus S
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    >crying with ironic laughter icon<

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  • Arquard
    Beginner May 2011
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    He definitely had a thing about *coff* <looks over shoulder> pre-marital relations *coff*. Remember all the to-do about his fiancée's hen do & how he thought typical hen dos were for harlots & strumpets??

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  • Saisi
    Beginner June 2011
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    Didn't they want to have a family after the wedding? If she did get pregnant, I hope he didn't say any of this to her. I think I'd batter my H if he told me my pregnant belly was "weird" and should be hidden away!

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  • *Mini*
    Beginner January 2012
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    I know, I'm quite flattered! Little old me (with old being the operative word)

    All she found out was what's on my Hitched profile EF, don't worry.

    Where as a quick Google of amylou2007 brings up lots of info, I know her age, where she lives, and excitingly I can see many many pics of her norks, the classy chick! Seems she is one of those odious "high street honeys"

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  • T
    Beginner February 2013
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    Waaahh! Amazing

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  • ashlil
    Beginner February 2011
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    This is one of the best threads yet. Pipe down Karv ?

    total entertainment ?

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  • (Claire)
    Beginner July 2011
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    ?

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  • jojo2
    Beginner June 2012
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    Wannabe glamour model who stupidly doesn't think to use a different user name. Don't give up the day job as an administrator I don't think Playboy will be calling anytime soon ?

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  • Fergo
    Beginner December 2012
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    ? There's loads of them!

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  • SuperDuff
    Beginner November 2013
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    Katie, I am currently at size 22, and the idea of shopping for a dress brings me out in cold sweats, even worse if I had to go with other people. I can sympathise with your BM3 to a point on that front. I see you have over a year to go to the big day, so could you perhaps revisit it in 6 months time? I'd try and lose weight for a friend's wedding, especially if I was a BM, so perhaps back the pressure off for the time being if you are able to?

    With reference to Amylou - is this a contender for the Hitched Troll Awards? She's got to be up there with Mountain/Climbing Lady.

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  • AmnesiaCustard
    Beginner June 2011
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    I can't look, I can't, I can't.

    But am very grateful for other bitchers Hitchers for adequately (and no more, may I add) describing the scene for me.

    I haven't heard the phrase "pipe down" for many, many years.....

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  • kharv
    Beginner March 2012
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    I don't think I've ever been told to 'pipe down' on Hitched before. T'is very amusing.

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  • *Mini*
    Beginner January 2012
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    The fact that I know it should have been said in a brummy accent makes it even more amusing.

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  • AmnesiaCustard
    Beginner June 2011
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    Well, of course you are well known for your unreasonable shouty rantings and having utterly extreme views on wedding related things. Daily basis, I'd say.

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  • *Pugsley*
    Beginner March 2014
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    I feel sorry for the poor sod marrying that girl (who's now left the forum).

    Thank you guys and gals for keeping me entertained during my lunch break, keep up the good work ;-)

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  • kharv
    Beginner March 2012
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    Well precisely AC. Clearly my normal rants must be much more subtle.

    Or Amylou is some kind of insightful genius...

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  • ~Peanut~
    Beginner December 2012
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    Just when we thought Kharv and the Norks would be the landslide winner of Thread of the Year!

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  • OB
    Beginner January 2011
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    I looked.

    The nuts one made me want to scratch my eyes out.

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  • Purple*Sparkles
    Beginner June 2013
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    Well, that has kept me amused.....can't believe I missed it when it happened!! Just saw a 10 page thread which was only a couple of days old and thought hmmmm must have a read of that one! It was hilarious.......Arquard, keeps popping into my head and makes me chuckle!!! Thank you ladies for giving me some laughs on a grey autumnal day! You are fab!!

    I just ❤️ hitched!

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  • Purple*Sparkles
    Beginner June 2013
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    Couldn't resist....I looked too! Then clicked the link to her hitched profile and it says she joined today! But she posted yesterday!!! If she indeed rejoined today wouldn't you use a new username?? CONFUSEDDOTCOM!

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  • fluffymalone
    Beginner May 2011
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    Oh my giddy aunt!! I just had to look didn't i???!!! My eyes Smiley angry

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  • AmnesiaCustard
    Beginner June 2011
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    Nuts??? She has nuts as well???

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  • Pinky6
    Beginner June 2012
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    ?

    Oh I looked as well, nowt spesh.

    Did looking at the pictures make anyone else feel arquard or was it just me..?

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  • Knees
    VIP August 2012
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    Completely unrelated to the subject of the thread, but for those who never had the pleasure...

    http://www.ajdown.com/wedding/

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  • Tizzie
    Beginner June 2012
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    Oh. Wow.

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