Rules and Regulations?

The only rule I had was no denim. I didnt tell anyone this though and it was just in my head.

Nobody wore denim...

Emmmmmm,no rules at all. I would like people to turn up on time ish though. Apart from that everyone i have invited are sensible and grown up enough to behave like the adults they are.

I don't think we'll have any rules apart from making sure everyone enjoys themselves

Apart from a straightforward request about not smoking on the side of the garden by our venue, we've not actually set any 'rules'.

There are certain expectations on the day, of course, such as arriving early enough to be seated before the ceremony starts - but those are common courtesy and aren't written down anywhere.

We have asked people to set their mobile phones and children to silent for the ceremony in the 'order of the day' booklet out of respect for the importance of the event, and suggested in the invitation that people might like to dress in autumnal colours to match our theme, and recommended in our confirmation of receipt of their rsvp that, due to taking photos outside on grass that more comfortable flat shoes for ladies instead of heels may be a good idea to bring, but if people choose to disregard our advice, that's up to them. We're only trying to make their lives easier by sharing our knowledge of the venue and our plans which, of course, they won't have.

Don't upstage the bride ?

Our only rule as such is that we're not inviting children. And that if my dad turns up, no one is to serve him drinks until after the main part of the day is out of the way, although i'm not sure how well that will be enforced. Or if we'll even stick to it.

Our only rule is that my FIL is kept the opposite end of the room from my MIL & preferably me too! That way he won't be able to upset either of us with his snide, obnoxious comments lol! I would prefer it if smokers were to stay away from the main guest areas but we have big enough grounds at the venue for this to not be a huge issue.

Surely the mobile phone and shoes 'helpful hints' come under common sense?

Not really. I'm sure we've all forgotten to switch our phones off at important times (meetings, doctors, flights, theatre etc) so a gentle reminder surely doesn't go amiss.

As for shoes, well I don't understand ladies footwear choices at the best of times anyway but again as many venues have gravel or paved areas which are used for photos, but ours will almost all be on grass - which, if it's rained in the morning or the day before could well be soft - again, just advice. People have asked us about it and have said things like "I was going to wear open toed shoes but perhaps I'd better find something else" when we've explained. Remember that it's the New Forest so it's not hard compacted soil and laid turf underfoot, everythings a bit soft and bouncy.

Why not? A good pair of heels can do wonders for your confidence and posture. There is no way I would rock up to a wedding in a fabulous dress with a pair of flat sensible shoes.

Surely Mrs AJ has some killer heels?

My only 'rule' was that anyone who turned up in an ivory lacy gown would be set on fire ?

And hell no! I would not wear sensible flat shoes to a wedding. I'm enough of a dwarf as it is. I neeeeeeeed heels!

We have a copper, a paramedic and OH who is not my Real Dad's biggest fan, so hopefully between them they can re-enforce it...

Back to OP - no denim and no macarena...

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Sure I have a pair although I don't wear them often, I'm just not wearing them on the day! I want to live longer than a few hours into my wedding day and as we are venturing into the forest for some of our photos I don't want to break my neck! They also don't really match our colours too well either.

I wish I could ban make up too.

I had one rule on the morning of my wedding and that was to my bridesmaids and my mum, they had to leave the room if they cried - I didnt want them setting me off, it didnt work haha!