Sister got engaged 2day, my wedding is in 3 weeks is wrong that i feel miffed??

It could have been worse - I've heard of pregancies and engagements being announced by guests butting in during the middle of the speeches at the reception, for example.

I completely understand how you feel...tbh most brides including myself would be feeling the same...yes its selfish but everyone has to the right to be selfish at some point in there life and when better than on your wedding day...its the biggest day of your life and its natural to want your friends and families attention on you and only you...

i felt the same as at my engagement party i had a friend turn up telling everyone she was pregnant...i was annoyed as i thought no this is my time ....

so dont beat yourself, dwelling on this will only make it worse just accept its happened its life xxxx

Bridezilla alert...

I can understand why you'd feel miffed if she'd announced it on the day, your hen do or at your open house... But give her the attention that she probably gave you when you got engaged ?

Sorry I think you're being very unreasonable. Its 3 weeks before, its not like its the same day! You can't seriously expect other people to put their lives on hold until you're married. If my sister got engaged I'd be made up for her, regardless of when it happened. (Only exception perhaps being if it was during our wedding in which case I think a bit of a grumble would be warranted).

Ok... I can understand your initial reaction... but you need to let it go.

Yes, your wedding is your world at the moment, but to the world around you it is still just one day.

Congratulate your sister, let others congratulate your sister. A wedding is a happy time for everyone, don't be selfish.

Exactly WSS...

It's not going to ruin your day, but I can understand you're a bit miffed at their timing.At least they didn't hijack your big day, and they have 3 weeks to show the ring off, so it will be old news by then anyway.

BUT that said my OH proposed a month before our friend's wedding, and the first time I saw most of my friends after he had proposed was at her hen night. I wore my ring but didn't say anything - one or two people commented but nobody made a big deal of it. The bride herself was OK with it.

Be happy for your sister, I'm sure she won't try and be an attention seeker at your wedding, people will just comment that she's next.

Yes, I think it's wrong.

I can see why you're miffed but really I would let it go.

We got engaged about 2 months before my brother and SIL's wedding and we kept it quiet until long after their wedding - to avoid this kind of situation.

Honestly ... I can understand why you feel a bit miffed .... BUT .... there is no way that you will not be the centre of attention on your wedding day ... you are the bride and so it is not actually possible for anyone to overshadow you so do not panic!!

What Lillibet said.... I think you're being quite unreasonable.

Hey, me and OH got engaged on Xmas day and he had the ring tucked away for all of December... My brother found out about our engagement and went out to Argos on boxing day and proposed to his missus, despite the fact he had been moaning on Xmas eve that he wanted to split up with her. Needless to say I was fuming.

Although your wedding is the most important thing in the world to you, it probably doesn't quite rank that highly to your sister (though I'm sure she's excited) and probably even less so for her fiancé when he was doing his proposal planning; it might not even have crossed his mind.

So yes, I think you are over-reacting a bit - let them enjoy their bit of the attention, it's not going to make your day any less special unless you allow it to.

Ah I wouldn't worry about it hun, be old news by the time your wedding day comes! I'd make full fuss of her for a week then let your wedding take over so to speak. As the others have said it could've been worse, they could've announced it on your wedding day - then we'd happily see you shove her face into your wedding cake :-)

I am afraid that I think that you are being bridezilla.

For a start, it would have never occurred to her fiance that he may be overshadowing your big day as, well, he is a man, and men don't think like this.

Most people at the wedding will know to make a fuss of you and not her anyway.

Are other people supposed to put their lives on hold until after your wedding? Could be worse, could have done it the day before, or worse, on the day.

Thanks for all your replies, i knew as i was typing my OP that i was being a bridezilla! I think that was just was my initial reaction. I am sure ur right it will all be old new by the time our wedding comes round. I didn't say i wasn't happy for her! I am delighted for her!! She is my bridesmaid at the wedding and she means the world to me and would never discuss this with her how i felt when i was first told.

Ours happend like this

OH got the ring

OH`s work freind proposed

OH waited 3 weeks (so his work freind could have the attention)

OH dident want to do it on xmas as he is shy and we were with all the family but was planing on doing it boxing day when we were alone

my sister got engaged on xmas day

OH had to wait again but this time desided to do it in a resturant on his bday 23rd jan but he was to shy infront of the whole resturant and when we were walking to the pictues after dinner he proposed in the middle of princes street (it was quite late and not to busy)

my sister started planing her wedding for 12th of aug

we desided two months ago to get married june/ july 2012 but it is comeing up to my sisters wedding only 15 days to go so we have not told eny of our family including my sister only one that knows is my mum (me and my sister have diffrent mums)

i think it is just respectful to give pepole time to have the attention on them and have everyone happy for them if you can

it sounds like your sister has been saying to her OH things about your wedding maybe saying she was gelious and her OH desided to propose before your wedding so when she it is your wedding day she can be looking forword to hers or maybe he just did not think

I got engaged last June and my sister got engaged last July! Her wedding is two months after mine. I can see your point, I am soooo happy for my sister but I still have a feeling of uncertainty about it all...guess it is just one of those things!

Maybe just a tad you should be happy for her after all shes your sister.. your wedding day is about you and your OH not your sister and her partner but peple will ask her about it but you should be happy for her... my MOH got engaged a few weeks over and im over the moon for her.. weve already started planning her wedding before ive even had mine and it dosent bother me.. im happy for her!!

Forget about it being three weeks before your wedding. The truth is most people just don't care that much, after the initial congratulations most people just get on with other stuff. Its not as if she's going to plan her wedding whilst she's at yours. On your wedding day you're going to be the centre of attention anyway so don't worry about it! No one is going to turn to face her engagement ring instead of you when you walk down the aisle!

Or maybe they're just in love and want to get married? Perhaps it was a special day for them in some way that no one else knew about? she doesn't have to be jealous or him not thinking about it.

I'm impressed that you managed to read that DWC! ?

OP, I can understand why you would feel a bit miffed at the timing, but I'd just be thankful that he didn't propose on your wedding day! As the others have said, the excitement about their engagement should have died down by the time your day comes along.

I couldnt! Didnt understand a word!

Also, how on earth did the poster get that name through the swear filter?

WSS.

My SiL and sister used to use their own versions of text speak, i'm seriously adept at translation!

I think you are over reacting to be honest. There are still 3 weeks till your wedding and no offence I doubt anyone is really thinking about that too much yet. guests and family have alot of other things going on in their own lives so they will congratualte your sister and then probably forget about it until she starts planning and sets a date. And as your day getscloser they will start getting excited for you.

I know 3 weeks doesnt seem like long to go when its your wedding but others dont see it like that (I never did as friends weddings got closer, but man when it was mine I swear I thought everything revloved around our day , and spent lots of time doing all the last minute bits)

Yes, I wondered that too. My first thought was troll!

Can I ask probably a silly question but what is a troll?