The first year report

I can't remember back that far! ?

It was our 1st anniversary yesterday. We'd been living in sin for 7 years, so no shocks there! To be honest, as far as our relationship goes, not much has changed. In January we'll have been together 10 years.

The first month was a bit of a rollercoaster. The wedding itself was the bestday of my life so far and we had a wonderful honeymoon in Rome, which was cut short when we were called back because my Dad's condition had deteriorated. We got to the hospice 4 hours before he died, on my sister's birthday and three days before my birthday. Cancelled all the plans we'd had at home for my birthday (we were living over 200 miles from my parents at that stage) and stayed with Mum whilst sister and I did all the necessary ringing around to cancel and amend various things and arrange the funeral. H was a rock and I don't know what I'd have done without him.

Christmas was okay. We'd been with my parents the previous year and Mum insisted it was the ILs "turn" so, as H was on call at work, we had the ILs to us and Mum went to her brother. It was actually pretty nice and, because we've always alternated Christmas, it didn't feel as much as though Dad was missing IYKWIM. I think being the hostess also helped to keep my mind off things. Never done it before. Had to swap dining tables with a colleague as ours wouldn't take six people!

H and I also decided that we didn't want to stay in London. Partly because we want to get on the propery ladder and London is just too expensive and partly because we wanted to be closer to family. I started looking for new jobs in January and got the first one I applied for at the start of February. H secured a transfer to the Leeds office and the wheels for The Big Move were in motion.

In April we put down a deposit on our first house, a new build town house that should be ready around Christmas this year. We picked out kitchen and bathroom suites, tiles and floor coverings last Friday. Still doesn't quite feel real yet though, probably because there's no actual house to go and walk around!

A week ago today we moved north and set up camp in Mum's house. It's been okay so far, but I can sense that we're going to be glad to get out of here when the house is finally ready. Little things are already niggling. It was nice to get away this weekend; H had arranged a stay in a posh hotel so it was just the two of us for the anniversary and it was lovely.

Okay, that's enough ? for one post. Good idea geekypants. Maybe we should put a link to this thread on the WP forum?

We've been married 18 months now, although like Mel we lived together before we married so already knew what that was like.

it's been a tough 18 months though - the flat we rented was horrendous and we had to move to another rented flat as the @rse fell out the property market and as we weren't intending on staying in that city long term it would have been madness to try and buy. my job was awful, had the boss from hell, and H had a stressful boss too. then he was made redundant in march. on top of that we had a small car crashette which set off another bout of hypochondria in H (visiting doctors once or twice a week, every week for months) which followed earlier bouts of panic and worry about his health... i found it hard (and still do tbh) to support him how he wanted me to.

but!

through this toughness, we found that we can support each other. it was hard, really hard, to break through the preconceptions about how he thought i should support him and vice versa and find out what actually works. i honestly believe that we're stronger now than ever before and he's learning to toughen up about his health worries (eg a sore wrist does not = amputation) and i'm learning to toughen up about work situations. we both know that we can count on each other to take the slack and support the other one.

we've had some good news recently that will hopefully turn things round - H has just started a new job and i've been offered one. we're back with my parents temporarily till we find somewhere to rent, and we're closer to the majority of friends and most of my family, in a part of the country we love.

so it's been tough. but i think we've learnt a lot about each other and it's made our relationship stronger.

We've been married a little over 9 months, so not quite a year yet tho I'm confident we'll get there!

It's been a good 9 months. We were already living together so actually not that much really changed. We had a fabulous wedding day and then went to Wales for a minimoon for 5 days. I wish we could have had a proper honeymoon but it just didn't fit with work and also money.

I found it a bit tough coming back to everything after the wedding, precisely because nothing had changed - I struggled a bit with not being 'special' anymore! But it didn't take too long to get over it and I'm loving being married to H.

The first day back at school (I'm a teacher) was very strange, everyone had gone to great efforts to change my name on everything and make it really special - I found it very strange that suddenly my identity had changed, instead of being Miss R I was Mrs A and I didn't know who she was! It didn't take long to get used to though and I've quite enjoyed the way suddenly, upon being married, parents seem to regard me as someone worthy of a lot more respect!

We had a great Christmas skiing in Switzerland with the in-laws, although I did find it a bit of a struggle with MIL at times - we had to take 2 turkeys with us in our suitcases (for 6 people!) and therefore ended up eating Christmas dinner twice to use it all up. H and I had never been skiing together before so I enjoyed showing him that I am actually pretty proficient.

H has been retraining as a teacher this year so its been pretty tough at times, we haven't had a time where we've both been so busy and involved with our careers before. It's meant we've had to make a real effort to spend quality time together and that's been really good for both of us, less taking it for granted than we perhaps used to.

We've been really involved in other people's weddings this year - as best man and CBM - and that's been fun. We've had some great times with all our friends this year. H's band have recorded their album and have had a lot of gigs, so we've spent a lot of time listening to live music this year. Mostly though, when I think of the past 9 months, we've spent a lot of time laughing (v ?!)

Now we're looking forward to buying a house (once we've saved up a bit more money!) and to becoming an aunt and uncle sometime in February (we're very excited about this one!). H starts his new job in September and I'm taking on more responsibility at work then probably looking for a new job in the next year or so. I hope we'll manage to fit some travelling in too, maybe even a 'proper' honeymoon!

It was our first anniversary last weekend and it has been a very tough year for us both..

I found out the week before we were married that the new contract Id started at a different site of the company I was working for had been cut short due to the new site announcing it was closing down.... My agency were fab about it and managed to get me an interview with the same company but another site straight away - this was the wednesday before we got married.

I found out on teh tuesday after we got married that they loved me and wanted me to start straight away but there were a few issues, because I had gone on honeymoon without handing my notice in I still in theory had to work a months notice but as I had only been at the new site a week and a half before honeymoon it wasnt worth me going back in to be trained up. So my agency managed to negoiate what had previously never been managed by a contractor with my agency - my months notice fully paid but without me having to actually work it! So I got the whole of August last year off paid..

The only down side to this new job was that it was 74 miles away from where we lived and it involved commuting on the M25 through Dartford - so I ended up having to find somwhere to lodge monday to friday and commute back down at weekends - till Dr shoes found a job near my new one... This he managed to do in April..

So other than August we spent the first 8 months of married life living 74 miles apart and only seeing each other at weekends - this was horrendous mostly for me as I had found lodgings with an evil witch lady who hated the sight of me, so I moved again in November, on top of all this i was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia in february so the commuting a lot really was not helping my situation.

As we have lived together since 6 months after we met this 8 months were among the longest in my life, it just seemed never ending and I almost ended up back on antidepressants because of it but H pulled me through everytime

H has now been in his job 3 months and is beginning to hate it, he is really not sure why they bothered employing him as there is nothing to do at his site, he has barely done any lab work and has been mainly sat at his desk - which considering he told them he didnt want to be desk bound at the interview and he wanted to be active and in the lab is a bit odd so he is now looking again we were aiming to try and buy a house when he had got this job as he got a relocation package with it but now that is off the agenda which is a shame becuase neither of us feel settled and we are still a bit surrounded by boxes...

It has been an incredibly tough year, but so far the 2nd year is looking a bit more upbeat! Especially as my brother has sprung good news on - he is marrying his gf of 5 years in March and they are having a baby together due at the end of this month... So we will be aunty and uncle soon!!

Aww thanks for sharing all, its good to know we are surviving the good, the bad and everything in between ?

Great idea for a thread!

I'm not getting married for a few months yet but we've been living together for a couple of years so I'm not sure if anything will actually change once we're married. Maybe I'll let you know in a year's time!

We've been married a year on saturday (ignore the ticker on the bottom of my post, i can't get rid of it)

The last year has been pretty uneventful really. The wedding was a fab day, straight after that we went for a week in a log cabin, and then our main honeymoon wasn't until October when we had 2 weeks in Florida swimming with the dolphins and doing all the theme parks. It should have been 3 weeks but the holiday company went bust and so we had to make do with what we could get.

After christmas we decided that we'd put the house on the market and now we're finally waiting for the contracts to be signed and all being well we should be moving in the next couple of weeks.

People ask how life has changed since being married but to be honest i don't think it has. We lived together before for almost 3 years anyway so if we didn't know what to expect after that time then! Took a while getting used to a new name, still think of myself as my maiden name and if i go to the drs or somewhere then it seems odd to have to answer when people call out my married name.

All in all being a wife is great fun, looking forward to a weekend in warwick this weekend to celebrate our anniversary.

Nice to hear how things have changed and haven't changed: I feel at a bit of a turning point with the new name, I'm managing to get there with recognising it as me.

Hope you enjoy your weekend away Chids: I would love to do something similar, yet we are skinteroo. Have left the rest to Mr Pants to 'surprise' me, but with the house and a manic week in work, I imagine a meal out somewhere and not much else. Which will hopefully be nice.

Can't believe this time last year I was getting my nails done and all. I think I was tipsy for about a fortnight solid from this point.

We've been married 5 years this year and I can honestly say the first year was by far the hardest. My MIL died a week before our wedding so we started off on a very sad note. Cancelled our honeymoon to attend the funeral, then the ex stopped MrKB from seeing his children so we had a huge court case on our hands. He didn't see his children for months and that was so unbelievably hard on both of us as I was there trying to help him through it but he would take it out on me. However, we survived those very dark days and it made us stronger as a couple. We are still battling the ex today, you'd think she'd be bored by now but it seems not. Hey ho, onwards & upwards!

Happy Anniversary!

We've been married 13 months now and it's been lovely but fairly uneventful (this is A Good Thing).

We've been together 8.5 yrs and lived together for 2 years before the wedding, I also haven't changed my name so all in all not much has changed. I do like being married but in all honesty, we've been in a happy committed relationship for a long time now and this year is no different from that respect.

The wedding was absolutely fantastic, I really couldn't have been happier. I wish I could have bottled that day to live over again. Our honeymoon was a great adventure and the Campervan made it round France in one piece, which is a bonus.

I got through my first set of postgrad exams in Feb (ridiculously hard work and Mr R-A was an absolute saint to me) and then very soon after heard that I have got my 'dream job' which I start in October. Things are also going really well for H's work so we are both in a happy place career-wise, which means we're both fairly easy to live with!

Had some really happy times catching up with friends, many of whom have gravitated back to London after studying elsewhere. Had a lovely holiday 2 weeks ago on our own, which was fab, as well as another European campervan adventure with my younger brothers in October half term.

This month we've reached the milestone of paying off all our CCs and next month we should have finished paying off the ODs too (we both graduated fairly recently with lots of debt). This in turn means we are now saving in earnest for a deposit for our own place, which in turn will allow us to start TTC, which can't come too soon for either of us... Very excited about feeling like we are doing something positive towards moving on with the next stage of our lives.