The Non Fluffy Random Wedding Chat Thread

Ditto this!

And then offer congratulations on your engagement followed by telling us that getting married is a waste of time and money because a.) they got divorced after 6 weeks of marriage or b.) because they have lived happily with their partner for 10 years + 2 kids without getting married so don't see the need for it. I don't care what you do thank you, and I certainly didn't ask for your opinion on my life choices!!! Argh!

At least you wrote 'I' in capital letters.

I don't like cadburys purple either, mainly because every other person seems to choose it and I don't think it actually suits everybody!

A friend of mine had to wear a cadburys purple bridesmaid dress and she told me she looked like the big purple one out the quality street box!!

@ Snuggle Bum - yep, even my dear old 89 year old nan asked at the weekend. I told her £20 ?

OHs close friend also asked and OH obliged in telling him only for another one of the lads at work to comment we had wasted our money - erm, hellooooo? Is it you earning it? No... So shut it!! OH laughed at him and moved on.

I was just kidding, I'm enjoying reading this thread.

Down with the fluff!

Why do people think thier kids are invited? "oh we need to arrange a highchair with the venue" No you dont because your child is not invited. I am friends with you, not your baby and if I wanted kids there I would have gone and had some myself.

Thanks.

Tell me about it Tricks, my Mum keeps going on about butterflies... I will not give in!!!

(Though, on a fluffy note, I do like the idea of them if they have a special meaning to the couple)

On the subject of "cadbury" purple WTF is that about Cadbury is a brand not a ****** colour please use proper colour names!

I seem to be well overdue a rant as I can agree with all of these.....

I've heard my cousin commented to her Sister (my BM) that her daughter would be needing the best of the best dress and was looking at a £170 monsoon number for her 5 year old as our wedding would be posh?! WRONG! She is assuming this as I have a (I don't want to be boastful but) good paid job and go to "posh" places a lot... Do you not think that puts me off the posh manor house / formal dinner / same stuffy affair I go to every month kind of do?!?! ?

The only thing I dont get is now Im married to my OH everyone (EVERYONE) assumes were going to have children then they look at me like Ive grown another head when I say we dont actually want children! That winds me up!! lol

Ooooh I want to rant (however disclaimer my spelling is horrific so if it's spelt wrong I'm sorry)

The fact that everyone and his dog thinks they are allowed an input in my day. My h2bs 2 nieces and my step daughtwer 2 b are being bridesmaids, that seems to his sister (not any of the bridemaids mum) to email me with 'concerns' about dress styles and making sure i get something to suit them sending me pictures and disapproving of my colour scheme excuse me they are MY bridesmaids and it is MY wedding and if you don't like it you can go boil your head!!!!

If one more person tells me its a waste of money because "you'll end up divorced anyway" just because you got divorced doesn't mean i will.

Oh and the best one...your h2b doesn't seem very interested...are you sure he wants to marry you? He isn't doing it to just shut you up? Well be flaming asked me!!!!!!

Let it all out fellow hitchers...

Argh. If one more woman brings her baby into work and says "ohhh it will be you next"

No it wont thanks. Ive been succsessfully avoiding getting pregnant for the last 12 years I think I can probably carry on for another 12 ta v much.

Silly me - if only I had gotten the memo before we had got married.....

LMAO as if getting married renders you incapable of contraception!!

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Second that!

Oooh this is a GREAT thread! I hate how everyone tries to stick their nose in when I don't even ask them to, then they say what they think you should do about any wedding planning problems you have and then when you don't do what they see they're like why?! This is my chief bridesmaid who drives me insaaaane. When dress shopping she said I like this dress, I said well its £130 over budget ?! Well I am chief bridemsaid she says and it would look so nice with this tiara, she says placing it on her head. I said I will think about it and she's not stopped texting me since, GO AWAY!!

That's another thing the assumption that the minute you get married all contraception fails and you are pregnant...oooh a honeymoon baby would be lovely bet you can't wait to start a family....er hello i have just spent a fortune on my wedding i will not be having a child any time soon. Then the assumption...you'll change you mind when you're married. Yes at some point i probably will but don't assume.

And thought of another....I am in a fairly fortunate position where my parents are comfortable with money so can help with costs infact they could pay for it all if they wanted but neither me not H2B were comfortable with that it is our day and we want to contribute so we are splitting the costs 50/50 yet EVERYBODY assumes my parents are paying for it all and can't understand why we need to save money etc...grrrrr

LOL my parents have been told by me since the age of about 9 that I didnt want children and Ive never changed my mind - in fact having a 4 year old nephew just confirms I dont want them whilst hes lovely and I love him to bits Im sooooo glad when I can hand him back!! lol

OH parents live 200 miles away so I only have to dodge that question afew times a year!!

I love this thread. Stepped away from my phone and came back to 30 email notifications. I am fed up with certain bridesmaids thinking it's THEIR day and time to shine! no you can't wear White and no I won't be hiring a limo for you!! Or just wanting to do the fun stuff dress shopping etc but not asking if I need help with anything else.

I have just 2 bridesmaids. And one of them is completly disinterested. When I asked her she didnt sound like she wanted to do it at all but accepted anyway.

I have hardly heard from her since.

Am I allowed to be annoyed that the only people who seem interested in our wedding are my fellow hitchers?

OH is happy for me to research away etc but doesn't want to talk about it everyday, sister (bm) isn't interested much as has new bf and is considering moving away and my Mum lives away and v busy so I love coming on here to chat. Centrepiece anyone?

I have to say this thread is my favourite so far!

The constant question I get is "how's all the planning going?" they really don't want to hear all the things that are stressing me out right now so don't bother to ask then! I wish I could respond with a long list of everything that is on my mind right at that moment but instead I smile and just say that all is going fine rather than go into the detail of the 20 tiny things that are on my mind right at that moment!

My faveourite too Monkey_nut!

No one apart from my MIL seems interested in our wedding.

Not even going to bother mentioning to my BM's that I am going to a wedding fair to look at the dresses soon. They have shown no interest what so ever

I'm hating at the minute, " God your wedding is NEXT year, you have ages to plan. why are you doing everything now?". Erm because its our wedding and if we want to plan and book things now then we can! If your aren't interested then don't bloomin ask!! Grrrrrrr....

WSS!

We had someone tell us as soon as they heard we were getting hitched that they had to bring their kids as they wouldn't be able to get a baby sitter - er excuse me, you've just this minute found out, you haven't even asked anyone yet, and you have a year to sort it - now p1ss off and get your horrible child out of my face!

Agreed....you can't expect everyone to love your ideas as everyone has their own taste...If we all liked the same things the world would be a boring place. If you don't like critisism (sp) then don't ask for hoest opinions ask them to lie to you. There was a thread not so long ago about all the things you would hate at a wedding and i had a few of the things has it made me doubt my wedding no because it is just that MY wedding done MY way, and that is exactly what i want.

(well H2b wedding too but hes not too fussed as long as i turn up!!)

Hope this doesnt mean I cant join in!!! ?

Ive just had my first bridezilla moment with a friend trying to get her very new bf upgraded to the day time!! I havent met him and No Im not bothered if you are willing to pay for him!!! Just drop it!!

Totally agree - If you like something say so, if you dont tell me. You're the one's who have to wear them all day!!! ARGH!

I sometimes do feel like shouting at my BMs, just bloody pick something that you will wear!!! I actually dont care anymore!!

Ditto!!

AND to certain friends and family just because I am having different aspects to my day which may seem different or OTT to you, I am not competing with your wedding day which I thoroughly enjoyed and was beautiful but has now long gone, and if I hear one snide comment or see a raised eye brow on the day this bride will be whoopin' someone!

Also when I mention my wedding do not keep bringing up how everyone says your wedding was the best they ever went too, who are you trying to convince, me or yourself? Repeat after me it is not a competition.

Aah thats better?