Thought this would make me fuming mad but ...

You would think having had their own wedding this year they would be aware of how much it costs the bride and groom to invite people to their day, I certainly think differently about being invited to a wedding now I know how much time, money and deliberation goes into planning a wedding breakfast. I am glad you have been able to replace them but they should have let you know ages ago if they couldn't afford it.........Enjoy your pamper day and best wishes for the wedding at the weekend xxx

I'm glad it hasn't upset you. Unfortunately things happen and circumstances change, so i wouldn't be angry at all, disappointed perhaps but not angry at them. At least they told you they weren't coming!

Enjoy your day of pampering!

WSS. This is rather inconsiderate and I'm sure they're well aware that you took holiday too.

Not long to go now...enjoy!

How far do they have to travel? If they are local then it sounds like they are just using money as an excuse. Maybe there's something else going on they don't want to talk about.

You will probably get the full story in the end, but glad it hasn't bothered you and they could be replaced. I am hoping I will have an equally calm outlook as the day gets near. Guess there's nothing you can do about them. Very odd though so near the day surely you know if your Skint fairly in advance unless something major has happened. Anyway have a lovely pamper day. Not long to go now!

I agree with Eclair, unless they have to travel far or take the day off work then I don't think I have heard of someone not coming to a wedding due to having no money as as you say pretty much everything is paid for.

If they have just paid for a wedding themselves though and have a baby on the way then I'm not surprised that money is tight for them. It's annoying they have left it so late to let you know though.

Glad you were able to replace them and aren't too bothered - it does sound odd. I would agree that perhaps there might be something else happening.

I had a fairly close friend not turn up on the day, without telling me before. We only had 45 guests and tbh I didn't notice until the wedding breakfast when I saw her empty seat. I thought perhaps she might be ill.

Later, during the evening reception, a friend came up to me saying randomly one of my friends had just commented on his photo on facebook saying he was fit... it was her. Commenting on my friend's pictures, while she should be at my wedding! Later, I saw she had updated her status, tagging me and H saying how ill she was on the sofa, gutted she couldn't come, and all her friends had commented saying "aww poor you, get better soon".

I was FUMING to be told about it indirectly through facebook. No apology or anything. Obviously the extra catering was wasted. GRRR. Oops sorry, that turned into a bit of a rant!

Even though everything is paid for, and the wife wouldn't be drinking, it is absolutely horrible going to a wedding or event when you have absolutely no money. You might be expected to get a round in and they can't really sit and drink water all night. It's also travelling and stuff - and perhaps they tried to borrow money or burrow their heads in the sand in the hope they'd sort something out. I've been so guilty of this in the past - when I was with an ex who didnt work and we literally had nothing spare - he was also an alcoholic and drank most of my money! I had to miss most of a friends wedding due to this and was mortified.

It's an embarrassing situation to be in and perhaps they felt embarrassed which is why they couldnt talk to you directly.

Totally what ruby firecracker has just said. We are totally broke at the minute. And by broke I mean not a penny in the bank. It must have taken a lot for them to say they had no money.

Thanks for all your replies!! I do think there is another reason they are not coming & most probs due to her being 7months pregnant! But when they got married in the same venue as us in may they new the costs & final payment date so a little notice would have been nice! Luckily the new people coming are excited & over the moon & this won't affect the day!! My pampering morning went to plan until the lady doing my nails screwed them up & I had to go home & redo them myself as I was so mad! They were really really bad especially the wedding finger! Then as I got to my mums after my bridesmaid fittings my friend rang to say she couldn't come .. So 2 more guests down!! This time with a good reason!! Sooooo tomorrow I will be spending time redoing place cards but I'm leaving the table plan as it is as no time to change it! on the plus side I've had a nice night in with all friends & family (girlies) having drinks food & opening bridal presents!! Sooooo let's hope for a positive day tomorrow & the best wedding I could ever imagine on Saturday xx

I think maybe you are right then, they maybe do have other stuff going on! It's lovely that the replacement people are excited!!i know it's easier said than done but try and relax tomorrow. Your day will be amazing and wonderful. Xx

I had a friend announce on FB that she couldnt come to my wedding ON THE DAY. She didnt bother to text/phone me until my CBM had a go at her, I think she was just going to not turn up! I didnt care on the day and I don't care now so you have reacted the same way that I have. Will you be going to their wedding?

I think it is appalling behaviour. No excuse for that 2 days before the wedding, particularly after you put in effort for their wedding. It is also cowardly to not tell you direct. I wouldn't bother with them again personally, as I think it is such rude behaviour. Panda and Pompey: that's appalling too! I think weddings can bring out the worst on people unfortunately. There is etiquette, and then there is inexcusable behaviour.

On the day though you feel as if you are floating on air and nothing gets to you! Most amazing feeling in the world!

I think its appalling to to leave it until two days before as I assume they had the standard notice and earlier opportunity to decline and some idea of their funds when they said they could come. If anyone does that to me I'm seriously tempted to send an invoice for the per head my venue costs! OH has relatives (a family of 4) that have previous form of dropping out at the last second for no good reason and I'm worried they'll do it to us! It's soo rude. If you don't want to come fine, just be honest before you RSVP!

It's good you got replacements though