Three random wedding questions - plus ones, ring scratches and favours!

1. We invited everyone's partners if we knew they had one and knew their name. For everyone else, the invitation was "XXX and guest". In other words, I really didn't care if someone wanted to bring their brother / best mate / colleague / random tramp to our reception. More the merrier, and catering wasn't an issue since we had a massive hog roast that I think would have fed hundreds!

2. Yes, you have "new ring" syndrome. It will get scuffed in high-wear areas like wherever you grasp stuff. If you're worried, get it re-polished the week before the wedding. Otherwise just clean it with a soft toothbrush with water and washing up liquid!

3. It doesn't matter. Really, trust me, it doesn't. Order what you can find, and use them. Otherwise, you have a year! Ideas may change, and it only takes a week or so to get stuff delivered. Decide on favours first, get them, and then work the bags round them. If you even still want bags a year from now

We invited the plus ones we had met before (unless it was a family member) on the basis numbers and money were limited so only wanted people there who we knew... and if we didn't invite a plus one we made sure that person was sat with friends anyway.

Unless your ring is heavily scratched I'd say you just have to accept it will get marked being worn, be it now or 2 years away, iykwim

We were quite strict with plus ones - we only invited them if we knew them well ourselves, or if they were married/engaged. We invited the ones we knew less well to the evening reception. But everyone whose OH was not invited knew lots of other people there - if they would not have known anybody else, we might have thought differently.

Hello, 1). We were lucky and didn't have any plus ones we didn't like, although some close friends have got into relationships since having the invite but we haven't said that they an come and they haven't asked. One of my man's cousins did ask if he could bring a new bitvf fluff, I wasn't fussed, but said yes for some reason. Thankfully they have split up now. Double win, I said yes and didn't upset him, got my preference anyway ... Get in )

2). OMG so glad I'm not the only one. I got massive scratches on mine within days of having it. I was so upset about it. I took mine back to the jeweller and have had it polished up for the wedding. Most of the scratches have gone as they are only light. I felt exactly the same, but I have had to learn it gets scratched, that's what happens. I wanted to wrap it in cotton wool too.

3). We got some little spice jars from Ikea, filled them with some of our favourite childhood sweets and got some personalised labels from a website called "The Favour Factory

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1- we are only inviting plus ones that we know / or if that person doesnt know anyone else at the wedding then we will offer a +1 so that they dont feel like billy no mates.

2 - you rring will get scrathced unless you take it off for everything you do, what i would do is a couple of month before your wedding go to some where like h samuel and ask them if they can re dip the ring to make it shiny and new looking again.

Anyone that's married, living with their partners, in a long term relationship has been invited even if we didn't know the partner of our friend/relative. So yes there's some people coming that I've never met or that my OH has never met but I wouldn't expect our friends to come on their own to a wedding, that's not right imo. If I didn't like them then that would be a different matter!

My ring is white gold and isn't scratched despite me having a 3yo, it's not quite as shiny on the underneath as it was though. I'll get it cleaned by the jewellers before the wedding.

We are also lucky in the sense that none of r friends have random plus ones, as they are pretty much all in couples and we all spend time together and the ones that are not, don't have anyone to bring anyway except maybe the BM who has started seeing a girl but by his own description, she seems a little mouthy so he doesn't seem in any rush to invite her!

Ring wise, mine is all tarnished on the underside but it is something that I have come to except 2 years later! Expect I will get it cleaned up before the wedding.

We have also got little jars from Ikea, herb ones, we have got hand made hearts to put on like tags, which will also serve as a name place.

1) We only invited plus ones we didn't know if they were engaged or married or it meant that the guest wouldn't know many people unless their plus one was there.

2) I don't really understand this question. Take it to the jewellers for a polish if you think it's a bit scratched.

3) Something like 3"x4" would be fine I would have thought.

1. Only one of our guests is getting a plus one as all of his friends are coupled up so we dont want him to feel left out. The other friends are all either single or with people we have never met. There is one person who is married and not getting a plus one but we are only inviting them as we feel its polite, they probably wont turn up.

2. Take your ring to a jewelers before the wedding to get it buffed and it should come out all shiny. I wouldnt bother too far in advance or it may need doing again, save yourself money and do it closer to the wedding.

3. I looked at organza bags but couldnt seem to find any tiny enough to house one or two chocolate truffles which I would have put in them. I scrapped that idea as truffles are hideously expensive for what you get. What are you planning on putting in them?

3) I bought white organza bags in Poundland recently (they also have yellow) think it was 8 for £1 and once I choose a wedding colour or two I'll buy some foil wrapped sweets in the right colours and add them in, you can buy these cheap online!

1 - We're not inviting plus ones as such. Spouses are invited and engaged are. I have a couple of friends who are not in particularly long term (yet) relationships, but I don't know their partner. Plus, we have the same friends, so it's not like they won't have anyone to talk to. My sister is having a +2 (if she isn't in a relationship by that point) for her 2 best friends. They've been really good to her over the years and I'd like it if she had people other than family to talk to.

2 - I'm going to have mine polished before the wedding, but not before. In fairness, my ER is from the 1920s, and it has a couple of tiny scratches that will come out in a good polish.

3 - I would think probably 3" by 4" too.

1) We have given most people a plus one. One of my friends has a fiance that we all hate (cheating scum!!) but it's her decision to be with him and we didn't want her to lose out by something he has done wrong, so we've invited him anyway. And another friend of mine is the only girl in a group of 5 without a boyfriend so she's bringing her mum - didn't want her to feel like the odd one out! However, some people we haven't given a plus one, for example a family with 3 grown up kids, both parents have remarried so we've invited their partners but not their kids partners, we don't know them and figured they will be fine as a family instead!

2) My ring is platinum too and I thought the exact same! I hated how quickly and easily it scratched as I always thought platinum was really shiny and perfect looking all the time, but really it's not! I've had it for 14 months now and the scratches don't really bother me anymore. It's bound to happen and it doesn't detract from the beauty of the ring at all. I know it's upsetting but they won't bother you soon!

3) We have individually wrapped chocolate's as our favours so I can't give you much help with this one. but I did look at organza bags that were 2"x3" when they were one of my options, but that's only because we didn't have the money to buy too many sweets etc to go in them!!

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As we mainly have 'groups' of friends, we are only inviting partners if we know them as a couple or if a person would not know anyone else. Partners have then been invited to the evening. All of our friends understand that we are on a budget and are fine with this (we talked to them about it before invites we're sent)

Thank you all for your help & sorry it's taken so long to respond. This week has been crazy busy!

We generally aren't inviting plus ones either - people are either in couples or they are single and will know other people who are invited. There are just one or two who we aren't too keen on but where we have no choice as the friend will not know anyone else if not given a plus 1

I think I'll just get the ring polished before the wedding as I'm sure it will just get scratched again.

Will check out your suggestions for the favours. I love the ones flashed

We are inviting couples that we know with both names, others that we don't know or are single are having XXX plus guest. It is costing more but I would be very annoyed attending a wedding on my own, and have always seen plus ones as polite and necessary.

WSS

For the day we only invited plus ones that we knew well and for the evening it was pretty much the same thing. I didn't really want people there I didn't know well but there were a couple of people who bought their other halves even though they weren't invited but I didn't really care on the day.

I know some people say that you should do plus ones because people would have to come on their own and it would be awkward for them but all our guest pretty much knew each other anyway. I don't think you should be forced in to inviting people you don't know out of politeness.

We only invited husbands/wives/partners of guests that we knew. We didn't want randoms at our wedding and we were already at the 150 maximum for the daytime so had to be strict. For the evening do it was a bit more relaxed but still only named plus ones, so partners etc even if we hadn't met them.

I was like that about my ring at first but you will relax soon. I want mine dipping next year I think ( it will be 3 years old then)

I had boxes for my sweets to go in for my favours and just tied our colour ribbon round them. I think they were £30 for 150 from ebay. You have to assemble them yourself though!