**Update**

Glad your taking it slowly and doing what you want i truly wish you both the best of luck x

Hi KBS,

Thanks for the update. Sorry to hear about your sister, but hopefully she will come round!

Sending you my best wishes for a happy future. x

Glad things are looking up for you hun!

Everyone will have their own views and advice, but all I can say is what I have said before and that is for you to DO WHATS RIGHT FOR YOU!

Only you know how you feel and no-one can change that. It's nice your mom is supporting you and I wouldnt worry too much about your sis, i'm sure when she realises your happy she will come round, She is no doubt being protective of you but she also needs to realise that you would be happiest with her support, but you will do it without it too!

Sounds to me like your OH has realised what he has done, my only comment would be to make sure he knows that you have taken whats happend as the exception rather than the rule. As long as he sticks to that you'll be fine!

I hope things continue to work out and just remember if your feeling insecure at any point, talk it out! were always here as a sounding board! xx

Now.... give us a flash of your invites! xx

It sounds like you have given this some real consideration. Your decision may not be to everyone's taste, but you have to do what's right for you. Hopefully your sister will come round soon, and it's great that the rest of the people around you are being supportive. I hope everything works out for you both, and that you know that us Hitched ladies are always here for you, x

Good to hear your update is positive and you are both wanting to work through this difficult episode in your relationship. As many of us said you will have support from us no matter what your decision is. Your sister is obviously worried about you being hurt and is probably angry at OH so is expressing herself in this way. I hope she comes round in due course and in time for the wedding, glad to hear your mum is behind you x

Thanks for the update been thinking of you.

glad you doing what is right for you both, and hope this is a turning point for him.

good luck and yes - lets see those invites!

xx

Hiya!!

Glad you're feeling positive and things sound more steady.

Only you and H2B know how you feel and it is really no-one elses business. He has a lot of making up to do so take it easy and KEEP TALKING!! I honestly believe a relationship can survive an affair as long as both parties are 100% honest and communicate.

Either way everything will work out for the best that much I do know.

xxxx

HI KBS,

Really glad to hear that you are doing well. Don't worry about your sister, she'll come round eventually. What is important is how you feel. I'm glad your still going to go for councilling, and i wish you the best of luck with your future, and hope that you come out of this a stronger person, and couple.

You will always have us to chat to if you need us!

Internet weirdie hugs coming your way!

Thanks for letting us know!

I know that some people may not be pleased with your decision, but it is exactly that - yours! Live life with no regrets!

I wish you both the very best in the future xx

Glad to hear that you're doing ok, you sound much happier today which is good.

Hope you can both continue to work things out, your sister will come round x

I think it's hard to understand how someone can forgive behaviour like that. Your sister loves you and will have been hurt indirectly by your OH's actions.

Ultimately it's your happiness that is important, and I hope he does keep this attentiveness long term; after all, it has only been a week since it has happened.

I'd personally still hold back on the WP, for as much as WP is exciting, it is a huge commitment and you want to be sure that you both want it. After all, you've been burnt before. As long as you're happy, then that's all that matters

Hi KBS, I really hope things work out.

As others have said... I really hope it all works out for you.

I think you have shown great courage and strenght in your decision.

Wishing you all the best. x

For what its worth, I think you have taken the tougher option and applaud you for it.

If my OH cheated, I would be devastated, and the easiest thing to do would be to walk away call him all the names under the sun, but I love him with all my heart and would like to thin I would have the strength to work through it.

Keep talking, be open and honest - cry if you need to, shout if you need to, dont think you have to hide any feelings for his sake.

Good luck, and enjoy the rest of your planning.

xxxxx

Agree completely with Sparkles

Good luck KBS x

Thanks for the update. Have been thinking about you and how you were getting on. And as others have said, don't worry about your sister. She'll come round. I've been in her position, and honestly she's just trying to protect you, and I'm sure if it was the other way round (before being in that position) you'd have want to rip the balls from anyone who could hurt her!

Little story about me and my twin sister. Her OH did the dirty on her. I HATED him for it. I literally wanted to kill him. She decided to stay with him, and I told her she'd made a mistake, called him all the names under the sun, etc etc.
This happened not long before christmas, and he'd already arranged to come for the day. Cue me refusing to spend the day at home with "that C Word". Anyway, she talked me round and we all spent the day together (we even watched Eastenders, when it all came out that Stacey and Max had been having an affair - you can imagine how awkward THAT was!).
A few years later, and they've got 2 beautiful babies together, they're engaged and although I still think he's a bit of a kn0b at times, he makes her happy and without him I wouldn't have my 2 gorgeous nephews who I adore!

Anyway, sometimes it does work out!

Hi KBS,

glad that you have made a decision that you feel is right for you,it must have been a very difficult decision.

Hope your OH understands what he has put you through and that with counselling you can come through this stronger than before

WOW I think your nuts but hey like everyone says its your life not mine!

But on a serious note I hope its all you wish for x

Good Luck KBS, hopefully this is the wake up call he needed and he will be the best husband you could ask for.

I know personally I'd never be able to forgive, so good for you for being that strong ❤️

You are a stronger woman that me kbs, I would have kicked him to the kerb! I really hope things work out for you. Wishing you all the best. x

I just wanted to say that I really hope it works out for you. I am not sure what decision I would have made in your position, perhaps not the same as you but I truly hope it works out for you both.

I really hope things work out for you, You have done what is right for you and hopefully your sister will come round but I'm sure she is just worried about you and doesn't want to see you hurt again. Good Luck xx

Thanks for keeping us updated.

I hope that everything works out for you both

x

Ditto to what everyone else has said, good luck with counselling. I would also echo what nurse said, maybe take a few baby steps to see how things progress before continuing any further wedding plans... i imagine it has been a total bombshell to you so you may still be yet to go through a range of emotions, one of which could well be wishing you had a little more time to work through it before committing fully in that way. It is a shame your sister doesn't feel she can support you, but I am glad you have your mum behind you, and a great step taken in arranging therapy sessions.