Very cheeky Honeymoon gift list question..

I do not think there is anything wrong with the idea in fact we are doing the same, not expecting presents but if anyone want to contribute anything to the honeymoon great. We already live together and have everything we need so dont want our guests wasting money on things we dont need or dont have space for in our home.

But I do think it is wrong to book a honeymoon based on what you think you may get as a result of contributions. I personally would only book somewhere you can afford now or wait until you know what contributions you have and book somewhere last minute.

We're doing a honeymoon donations gift list. We have to pay the balance way before the big day though (I think 4 weeks, but I can't remember off hand). That means we'll probably end up getting the money sent to us after we're back. We're not expecting any particular amount - anything is a bonus and we're discouraging gifts anyway.

We are doing kind of the same. We are asking for money to put towards our honey moon. We are going to book a last minute holiday after the wedding depending on how generous people are and how much we have managed to save x

I agree. We are most likely going to set up a Honeymoon fund instead of a traditional guest list. My brother and SIL did it for their wedding and everyone was quite happy to put into the fund, even though they did get some cash/cheques in cards on the day. But we won't be booking a honeymoon that we know we can't afford without contributions. We're just going to look at it as if we are lucky enough to receive money in the fund, it will be a bonus.

We have done a honeymoon gift list, and we have just paid the balance off, so anything we receive from now until the wedding will be paid to us after the wedding. We booked a honeymoon that we could pay without receiving any contributions, and anything received will go towards paying for treats on the honeymoon.

I think it's a bit risky to book a honeymoon based on an assumption of how much you might receive.

It is definitely wise to go for something that you could afford without help. We've gone for a honeymoon giftlist, and our guests are being so generous that it looks like it isn't really going to cost us anything. But there's no way of knowing that so err on the side of caution!

We went for a real variety in terms of the amounts we asked for different 'gifts' and we had real variety in terms of what people chose to spend.

Our original plan was to do this. We would just see what people gave us and how much we had saved and book something a few days after. We wouldn't have asked for money though. My uncle kindly offered to pay for our honeymoon and booked us three nights four days in New York. Not something we would have been able to afford EVER.

We had saved enough money to pay for our honeymoon but lots of people were asking what to get us so we opened a honeyfund account through Thomson. We didn't need to book anything in order to set up the fund and there is the option of allowing guests to just deposit money instead of choosing actual "gifts". The gift money will then be used to allow us to upgrade here and there and get some extra treatments and go diving when we are there.

We have booked a honeymoon that we can afford to pay off ourselves, as the balance has to be paid 10 weeks before departure date, we wont be mentioning anthing in the invites, most people who know us already know that we would like to do some trips on our honeymoon so we expect them to give us some money on the day to take away with us.

My OH and I have been contemplating one too. My parents aren't too keen on the idea but they are also convinced that most guests who would happily give money will do that anyway, so I think we might just do a Debenhams or John Lewis gift list for a few items or maybe just not put anything at all and see what people give? Its such a minefield! x

I think a honeymoon gift list is a great idea. My OH and I are considering it, as like lots of couples we live together and have everything we need for the house. When we are spending so much money on the wedding, it seems sensible to lower some of the costs in this way. It will be ideal for us as we aren't going to be able to go away immediately after our wedding because of work committments. However, I agree that you should probably book your honeymoon on what you could potentially afford, and then if you do get contributions towards your honeymoon, view this as a bonus. I think some guests like the idea of gift lists/honeymoon funds as it takes away the hassle and worry of trying to find something that you like and want. I went to a friend's wedding recently. They had specified on the invite 'no boxed gifts'. I asked whether they had a gift list, but they did not so I did not really have any direction. I found it quite difficult trying to find something suitable (I have not seen my friend for a couple of years, and had never met her OH, so did not feel I knew them that well as a couple). I ended up going for vouchers, but would have preferred to have got them something that I knew they would have used and wanted. x

I think it is a great idea. When we got married these kinda things didn't really exist. H Gran spread the word that we were hoping for money to put towards a honeymoon and we booked our dream honeymoon 4 weeks before the wedding! I think we got around £2000 and our honeymoon cost £2200 although H has a huge family. Once we knew where we were going other guests gave us currency. We went to Thailand and bought handmade cards there to use as our thank you cards. H thanked everyone in his speech as we wouldn't have been able to afford to go to Blackpool on our own!!

I wouldn't mind contributing to one, would be cheeky of me not to! We are going to H cousin wedding in a few weeks and we are giving £50 as a gift. This will go with money from H Mum and sister so prob £200 all together.

I agree with everyone's comments. Honeymoon gift list is a great idea - one that I will be doing! We have no idea how much guests will donate but we won't be booking a honeymoon that we know we can't afford. Any money we do get will probably be used as spending money! :-)