What are you doing and what's your oh?

Me - Everything.

H2B - Named the tables and nodded his head at everything I suggested.

Anything involving a large financial outlay has to be a joint decision, smaller frilly bits are completely my domain ?

I've decided on most things lol but that's me taking over, i have given OH jobs like naming the tables and choosing the background music list for the wedding breakfast, he's chosen the suit styles for him and groomsmen. We've both done the guestlists together and seating plans ect, i'm letting him take care of the honeymoon too, (im not fussed where i go) so for me personally it's about 60-40 gotta give him something to do lol ?

My H2B, nods and grunts whilst playing the PS3 whenever i mention anything lol

Similar to Panda and Rebecca with us.

Things he has total control of because he is really interested in those bits are mens suits, his wedding ring, the honeymoon.

All the big stuff e.g. venue, entertainment, ceremony readings, photography, food etc will be totally joint decisions although I probably do most of the leg work in terms of researching stuff.

All the more decorative bits e.g. flowers are more my area. Although he has also taken a keen interest in stationary.

I don't mind doing most of the research etc as I am a control freak anyway. I like that my OH has a definite opinion on everything though as I couldn't handle the pressure of everything being down to me as I am an awful decision maker.

Everything is a joint decision. OH was adamant he wanted to be involved in everything, as it's his wedding too. I'd prefer him to just let me do it myself ?

We both decided on venue and suits,

OH is in charge of:

- organising the bar (we're doing our own bar)

- making our photobooth

- all things churchy - arranging to see the vicar, etc although I guess I'll have a say in the hymns and readings

- he chose what kind of ring he wants

Everything else is me!

He tells me that he's happy for me to plan everything but just to run things by him before I pay deposits etc.

In reality, what's happening is that I spend hours researching something and coming up with a short list and then we decide together from those options.

It's working out suprisingly well!

I'm waiting for AJ to come along and tell us that we're too "Bridecentric" and should let our poor OH's do more.

I refused to do it all on my own, it was our wedding not mine or his.

I did a lot of the research, mainly cos I can quite happily sit mooching on the internet for hours (at work and home). Then we'd discuss it and make a mutual decision.

Not done anything but the majors but:

Together: guest list, venue, DJ, his suits (was keen for him do that on his own - with a colour chart! - but he wasn't comfortable), honeymoon

Him: cars

Me: everything else (invitations, planning food, bridesmaids, cake, gifts etc). But I chat with him before purchasing, well, chat to him as he nods distractedly and tries to keep shooting imaginary people on the TV (sounds like a familiar story?).

I know that nod well.

So far I research things like venue and he says which one he likes best. Think it'll work like that for all of it tbh. He's specified he doesn't want cupcakes and the cake has to have a chocolate layer.

I would like him to get involved but he thinks it's too far away!

NB - That sounds like me and OH!! I have been doing all the research for different areas and then getting his opinion on things, he hasn't really wanted to make any decisions yet as it's still 18 months away, but I have managed to get him to agree to going to a wedding fayre next month with our bridesmaids and BM to see the venue.

He is in charge of a couple of things though - kilt, cake and honeymoon. All I have said is that the honeymoon has to be a surprise whereas the cake needs to have one choc layer along with butter icing and not marzipan icing

Me: venue, official stuff, centrepieces and general decor, invitations, my dress & accessories (obviously), bridesmaid dresses, all florist stuff, seating plan, hair & make-up, wedding cake, thank-you cards & gifts.

OH: honeymoon, all travel stuff like flights etc, band, background music, car hire, catering &menu choices, drinks, favours.

Things we are doing together: rings, meetings with the priest & marriage prep course, all the plans for everything get checked with the other person before booking.

Things other people are doing for us: my mum - paying for as much as we will let her and somehow managing to be incredibly helpful without being at all pushy (we love her), OH's parents - (hopefully) donating money towards wedding fund, CBM - organising hen party, best man - organising stag party.

Fairly evenly split so far. The guest list, invitations, favours, venue and photographer we researched and decided on together. We chose our rings together too. He will choose the suits for himself, the BM and Ushers but I will be there to make sure he doesn't pick something that makes him look like a complete idiot. The car was his responsibility but with everything we always show the other person before we book or buy. Even if he isn't all that interested I make sure that I show him at least once so he's clued up on what's happening.

Our music for the evening will be compiled by our Best man and Ushers, as will the games for the entertainment.

Other than that there is the Indian wedding, and we chose the venue, photographer and caterers together with his parents. Think that's all we've done so far.

We've planned everything together so far, and we're both really enjoying it! I guess it helps that as we're both women there aren't any traditions to follow, and we both like getting involved in every detail. I don't think I'd enjoy having all of the responsibility if I had to organise it all myself!

So, if it's girls that like to organise.... what do two boys do? Nod to each other over the Xbox and hope something magically gets planned ?

In short.

Me - ALOT

OH - VERY little!!

Like most i found the ideas, showed him, he nodded, job done.

The only thing he had an active interest in was the venue (he actually found it) and the suits.

Oh and the table names as their Spurs players.

Luckily he's liked all my ideas so it's just been a case of "yeah if you like"

Ha I don't know, I didn't think of it like that! I've only ever seen one guy on here, which is a shame. I shouldn't generalise so much! :-)

Im bloody glad OH is involved in everyting, as if it was left to me, nothing would get done, literally, id leaveit til oooooooooo a couplemths before to think about it?!

We have an understanding.

I spend hours and hours researching everything, narrowing things down to a few suitable options and he expresses his opinion (if he has one) on these options! I also do all the booking and paying for things (its both of our money, I just hand it over) and all the communications with suppliers.

I don't mind because I am a control freak and he doesn't mind because he's lazy (and would be the first to admit this!)

The only things he has had strong opinions on so far were the cake, the music choices and the colour scheme (I had narrowed the main colour down to either blue, turquoise or pink and he INSISTED on pink!)

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Im quite lucky that my H2B likes a say in everything and even asked me for a job list so this is what we agreed he would do,

Choose bridesmaids hair style

Give suggestions for my underwear

Sort suit fittings for your dad my dad youself and best man

Buy thank you gift for best man

Closely supervise your stag do

Source kilner jars for sweetie table

Decide on flavours of the cheesecakes x 3

Decide red, white and mulled wine to have at reception

He has also had a hand in loads more things but they were what he wanted to do without/little input from me. He also wants to come dress shopping with me but im not sure if I want that yet...?

My OH has the responsibility of absolutely nothing! I run everything past him first and luckily he trusts my opinion 90% of the time. On the odd occasion were we have disagreed, I have listened to his opinion, thought about it, and then over-ruled him! lol I have far more taste then he will ever have....

Oh sorry, I lied....he was allowed to choose the first dance and he will get to write at least part of his speech on his own (left completely to his own devices I know the speech will be 4 lines long and he won't thank anyone that needs thanking lol)

Oh you absolute stars, this is so helpful! ?

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When we first started planning OH wanted to sort out the cars - then we chose an all in one place venue so didnt need them

He has taken it upon himself to sort out the cake, and to his credit he has completely, I have no idea what it is like. OH said he wanted part of the wedding that I had no idea about which I really like as an idea. He has also sorted out all the suits, came up with the main and dessert course for our meal, came up with the brilliant idea of having mulled wine instead of Champagne after the ceremony (it will be Feb and so freezing) will be hopefully catching some fish for us to either have as canapés or have in the buffet and has trialled round countless car boots and charity shops for me to find all the tea cups etc that we need.

Actually having written this I will give him his due he has chosen quite a bit. He still does my head in because I wish he had had more in put!

Lol! This is my situation too! ?