Why our wedding is not the most important thing in our lives anymore

Oh honey all the 'issues' i am having at the mo seem so trivial compared to this, i just wanted to say that im thinking of you both and your families, and that it is encouraging that it doesnt seem to have spread, and that my race for life (although its deemed a predomenantly 'ladies' run) and 10k run this year will have an extra 'dedication'

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Oh fancyfree I am so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your OH. ?

If you ever need to talk, please do not hesitate to speak to us on here or PM me. Stay strong!

OMG really really sorry to hear such sad news and hope he makes a good recovery. Cancer can be beaten so stay positive.

Take care of each other

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Thinking of you both and wishing your honey a speedy recovery )))

My heart goes out to you and OH and your families fancyfree. What awful news so close to your wedding, but be strong, and our thoughts are with you. Please share anything you want on here, we're all with you.

God bless you both at this time, thinking of you,

take care xxx

Jeez....I am not sure what to say except my thoughts are with you both, you seem to have a brilliant relationship and will be able to stay strong! ?

I really don't kow what to say that hasn't aready been said. My heart also sank when I read your post, you haven't had the best start to the year. Positive thoughts comng your way, they say bad things happen in threes, so fingers crossed this is the last. Stay strong and get through this together ?

So sorry to hear your news..... Thinking of you and H2B..... (((HUG)))

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My thoughts are with you both. Hope all goes well xx

Thoughts are wth you ff, keep smiling. xxx

Gosh i don;t know what to say, have a very inadequate hug ? xxx

Didn't want to R&R. Have a hug and i'll be thinking of you ?

FF I'm so so sorry to hear this - stay strong, you'll both be in my thoughts, xxxxx

Awww hun.. My thoughts are with you both.

Debbie

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So sorry to hear your news. Thinking of you both and your family. xx

Oh FF, there's nothing I can say that hasn't already been said here - but here's a big ? to you both. We're here if you need to chat.

So sorry to hear your news, but see that there are lots of positive stories on here that will hopefully help you feel more positive yourself. You will need somewhere to vent as it is a lot to go through.

Fancyfree, I'm lost for words...really don't know what to say but didn't want to read and run.

Thinking of you and will be sending you lots of positive vibes

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I must admit I read the second part of the post and my mouth gapped open. You poor love!!!

Im hoping everythin at the end of the tunnel will be bright and beautiful again for you... You're right it will make you stronger

Tc

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Fancyfree I'm so sorry to read this - massive hugs to you both. I've not been posting on here so much now I'm an OM but, without going into any details, I have direct experience of this and just want to say a couple of things you might not hear from elsewhere. I appreciate at this stage it won't be the first thing you're thinking of but it might help in the weeks and months to come: make sure you don't stop taking care of YOU - as well as your support your OH has the support of all of your friends, families as well as all of the medical support available. The unfortunate truth is that people will always ask you "how is he?" and very few will ever ask "how are you?", not out of nastiness it's just that they rarely think about or don't fully understand the impact it has on the patient's partner.

Don't be afraid to vent to or to cry your heart out to someone (patients sometimes become grumpy, selfish or unreasonable - it's not really them talking, it's the illness) - if there isn't anyone you feel you can do that with IRL get it off your chest to a bunch of internet weirdies.

If you feel you need help with boring everyday stuff do ask people - they will generally be more than willing to go and get your shopping in, help you clean the kitchen, run the hoover over the house for you. These things will be the last things you want to think about but as they build up they can start to get you down. Life goes on hold for the patient and they only have to concentrate on getting better - unfortunately the diagnosis doesn't come with a grocery fairy so you end up having to do all your normal everyday stuff as well as deal with this. Make use of friends and family.

I can't really add anything else about the medical side of it that his consultant won't have gone over with you and hasn't already been said here. Take care and I'll be wishing your OH the speediest recovery possible.

You r so strong, im welling up reading this, he sounds as if hes going 2 be ok, good luck xx

Big hug! I completely agree with what almostMrsP said. Sending out warming vibes.xx

Just wanted to say a massive thank you for all the kind words.

fancyfree's H2B

I haven't thought about anything else since Tuesday. I'm so sorry for you both.

Sending all the good karma I have for tomorrow.

You have a wonderful fiancee there D!

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Just read thru all the posts and there are 5 pages of people behind you. we're all thinking of you & ur H2B.

As one post said (sorry can't remember who) don't be afraid to ask for help, whether it be a shoulder to cry on or help round the house.

hope everything goes well tomorrow.

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FF - I am so sorry that this has happened to you and your H2B. Thinking of you xxx

Havent been here for a few days but just seen your post and all the amazing support the hitchers give. Didnt want to r&r, good luck for tomo xx

I haven't been on here for a few days and only just read your post.

I am so sorry to hear your news. Last year we discovered that my mum has cancer and I truly know what an awful worrying time it is. We particularly found the early days after finding out and the period awaiting for further info and scan results extremely difficult. It was very strange but once chemo actually started it was a bit of a relief, perhaps just to feel like something was being done about it. Be there for each other, talk about how you're feeling and chat to family and close friends. Don't bottle up your worries.

My thoughts are with you and your H2b. Sending lots and lots of positive vibes and big hugs xx

So sorry for you both, but very glad the news is looking as best as can be & which is the silver lining to get you both through. Going through things like this are very hard parts of life, but you sound like you have a good relationship & will support each other through this & im sure come out married & even stronger, ? to you both xx

Thinkining of both of you for tomorrow ?....hoping for an extra speedy recovery x

Massive cyber hugs to you both my lovelies x