Why should we feed our Photographer

We are feeding our photographer.

What about the cake maker?

I'm also feeding the cake maker as she is one of my best friends and also a guest.

To be fair whilst we have a professional photographer who does weddings etc for a living, he is also a very good friend too.

Yes, but I don't work from 8am to 10pm normally!! That was how long my tog stayed with me on my wedding day.

What is the point of your post, are you just ranting or wanting an actual answer?

It is quite common in professions where you are working intense days to be fed 'on-site', actually. I wouldn't want to work a 14-hour day on a few sandwiches so why should my photographer? If he was only covering the ceremony then yeah, fair enough, he should bring some sandwiches but when they are working from getting ready to first dance it is a LONG day. I thought it only polite to offer some hot food.

My Tog said he will feed himself on his website but I am more than happy to feed him again a bit later, or allow him to have some of the buffet etc...I actually dont want my TOG keeling over because he is hungry. Its a very long day with travelling in between.

Ours is coming down from Leeds to Sheffield and although I know he is prepped for it and will sort himself out, I will still be offering him food/drink etc before he travels back to Leeds (it takes an hour)

You sound like a wedding supplier, cant understand why you would still be on a wedding forum. Get a life

Of course, they can help themselves to the buffet, thats more realistic. I think its a little unprofessional for them to sit with your guests

You've had answers.

? I'm definitely not a wedding supplier, and I have a life thanks. Why are YOU on a wedding forum if you don't want to listen to what people have to say, especially when they've been through it before and might actually have some good advice for you?! Don't be so bloody rude.

Our tog didn't eat with our guests, he ate in a side room, which also allowed him some space to sort out his gear before the evening. And I was polite to him firstly because I'm a nice person and secondly I wanted good photos and figured I'd have a better chance of getting them if my tog was happy. Why would you want to piss off the person doing your photos?

Ours didn't mention it but I don't think I would want them sitting down to our wedding breakfast with us! Although she is lovely, that would be a bit weird. I am guessing if she requires food then we could ask our caterer or venue to provide a meal she could have in the bar. Nothing wrong with looking after people who are doing a job for you, and in the whole of the day it will be a very minor additional cost. Why is it bugging you?

Judging by your reply to this old thread which you have bumped just to bad mouth a TOG https://www.hitched.co.uk/chat/forums/p/253835/2747717.aspx#2747717 I'd say you just want to have a rant about TOGs in general.

If it is in their contract that they require a meal then you provide one, if you don't like it don't book them, simples! My TOG does not request a meal but my venue provides meals for the TOG free of charge anyway so he'll be getting one.

One of the great things about this forum is that we do have suppliers that contribute to posts which is very benificial to those of us planning a wedding.

So what is it you supply then? just out of interest

Who are you asking?

Why should you feed the photographer? because its a nice thing to do, like when ure mates come round and u offer them a brew or ask if theyre hungry.......seems some of the answers have pi$t u off, if u dont like the answers people are going to give u, dont ask the question!!!

What did u seriously think people were going to say?xx

Our tog was also my OH's brother in law, so he was sat on one of the tables but our vog was given a pack lunch (provided by us) and he ate it in another room. We told the vog to help himself to the evening buffet too. The vog never demanded food but we offered because it's a long day (not like a day in the office where you can nip off for tea breaks), we wanted the best service from him and the additional cost was minimal. Our band had a form with questions on, and one of the questions was "Will you provide any food?" We could've said no but we provided hot paninis and wedding cake - once again, we wanted the best from them and the additional cost was less than £25. Surely, it's no different to offering your plumber / gardener / electrician a cup of tea and a biscuit? You don't have to but you want the best service from them.

Btw, I have a life too...I flit between Facebook and Hitched, even if I am married now.

Because it is polite to do so. They would not join you for the wedding breakfast but have a bar meal or similar outside or in a different room.

If you really do not want to feed them then provided you inform them that you are not able to offer them any food, I am sure they will bring their own food with them.

I am providing my photographer, his assistant, 2 x videographers and the toastmaster with a bar meal which my venue are doing for me at a normal carvery rate. I will be spending much of my wedding day with these people and it is my way of thanking them for being part of my big day. Fair enough they are charging me for their services, but the cost of their food is minimal so I am more than happy to do this. They are there to provide the memories of my wedding day for the rest of my life and to me it seems very unusual to be so shirty about feeding them! What happens when the plumber comes round to service your boiler? Mine got a cuppa and a bacon sandwich last time!

Our venue referred these meals as 'crew meals' & the TOG, band etc had a seperate room to sit & eat in. It included a 1 course meal with softdrinks, but no alcohol for them. From memory it was in their contracts, that if they work more than I think 6hrs, we had to include a meal.

If you don't want to pay for a meal, then dont hire them!!!

Never mind feeding the photographer, don't feed the troll.

Exactly. Rude little b itch.

Totally agree with the comments here. What a jumped up cow!

Totally agree with the comments here. What a jumped up cow!

Totally agree with the comments here. What a jumped up cow!

I think it might be a bit strange for them, being alone and not knowing anyone, plus having to sit through speeches about a couple they have no personal interest in... and also still being on the clock so to speak so might not be enjoyable to eat anyway.

Not an issue for me though, I am happy to provide whatever is asked or contracted. Katie why are you so angry just because you 'had a bad vibe' from one TOG?

Exactly this!

We received the contract from our 5 piece band, and in their terms they have stated that we are to provide them with food and drinks (with a promise not to take advantage of a free bar!). We were surprised as they will only be playing for the evening and there 5 of them. Personally, I don't feel we should have to - we are paying them in access of £1000 to play music. Our venue are charging is £15 per person for the evening buffet so that's an extra £75 which could put towards something else. I'm going to speak to the venue tomorrow to see what the deal is. If we have to we will, but I am of the opinion that it shouldn't be expected.

While the poster posted her original post in quite a rude and ignorant way, I can see where she is coming from. Especially if its not in their contract. However, I think it would be polite to offer, even if its not the full/expensive 3 course meal and is instead just a bar meal, like others have said or the evening buffet.

Its the kind of thing that not many people think about or put on their list of to dos. I know I'd forgot about this until not long ago!

I also think it depends on the hours they're doing. Like one poster said, they need a hot meal if doing 13+ hour days. But if its just ceremony to reception/speeches then I think a packed lunch would be fine.

Each to their own and all that ?

And as for the photographer - my best friend is a photographer so obviously we will be feeding her, but to my knowledge she doesn't expect to bed fed at wedding shoots. I hope my hair and make up lady isn't expecting breakfast!

I thought it was strange that my venue states that is provides free meals for suppliers, TOG, DJ etc. But I'm not going to complain and I'm sure my suppliers wont (none of which have requested feeding)

I suppose the thing to do would be to question them as to why they require a meal.

I personally feel that you shouldn't have to if you don't want to. A wedding is expensive enough as it is.

But

As one couple mentioned to me, 1 extra meal is insignificant to the rest of the cost.

I have a box on my contracts that just say. Will you be feeding me, you don't have to e.t.c. It's just nice to know so I can bring lunch or summit...

Oh Gosh

I didnt even think of this! Havent booked TOG yet!Are they usually happy to eat away from guests as dont have room at tables!! I will be having 2 TOGs proabaly

Our two togs and our vog had bar meals away from us then came back to record the speeches after. Total cost £15.

I don't think it is too much to ask to feed them during what is likely to be a very long day!

WSS

To be honest I didn't think about this either. We are meeting up with out TOG one month before, and TOG is only doing 4 hours, but I will add it to m list of things to ask about. Our TOG gave us a very good deal so I'll be quite happy to ensure he receives a meal :-)