would it bother you..

Not really. My children are not particularly fussy eaters, they will eat decent stuff or they will eat nuggets and chips, so I wouldn't mind at all.

No, as a one off, but I think it depends on the age of your children. Mine are 11 and 3. When they were babies under 2 I probably would have fed them from my plate.

I'd ask for the kids menu.

Nope, once isn't going to kill them.

You know, i can't even remember what we had for kids. I think it might have been chicken and veg. there were only 3, so didn't pay much attention.

Depends what you mean- If I had a kid its not the sort of food I'd like them to eat, but I wouldn't dream of saying something! If it were an actual choice you coudl make I'd say its a bit unhealthy, although by no mean terrible.

I would rather the children had small portions of our food but at our wedding we had lamb for main and none of the children ate lamb.

Not from the point of view of nutrition as it's only a one off , but if the adults menu was a 5* banquet I'd feel a bit sorry for the children! It depends on the rest of the food on offer for me really.

As a guest, no it wouldn't bother me. It's not a big deal for one meal.

As the bride, I asked in advance what the children there would prefer to eat and all of them except my son went for the sausages/nuggets option rather than the child's portion of the adult meal.

I think I'd probably guess the couple knew kids fairly well and had gone for a meal that would not cause noisy protests / those wonderfully clear, but pretty rude comments that some kids can produce when faced with something they don't like or are unsure of!

I might grimace a little, but tbh once in a while shouldn't hurt. Just watch out for the ketchup and the bride's frock!!

I would inwardy sneer at the total lack of imagination of the bride and groom.

we didnt have children at our wedding, and weddings without them are always so much more fun in my view

It wouldnt bother me from a nutritional pov but it would bother me that there wasnt a choice for him really as I assume there is for the adults? I wouldnt say anything though. B might kick off if he sees us eating something different that he prefers, like Roast Beef though which would be my biggest concern.

I can't imagine why any would get worked out about it to be honest. Like everyone said it's one off so won't hurt (or something you feed your kids all the time in which case you definitely can't whinge about it).

I don't really like the idea of "kids' meals", at weddings or otherwise. And nuggets and chips is a hideously uninspired choice. If I had a child I wouldn't say anything and wouldn't stop them eating it, but I would be pretty judgemental about the wedding couple ?

It wouldn't bother me, although I'd find it very surprising. (Hmm, actually homemade chicken, chips etc could be lovely- I assume the OP is talking about some sort of grim version though.)

I quite like to see children at weddings. I then quite like to see them all sod off by around 7pm ?

Assuming the bride & groom knew that there weren't any vegetarian children, then wees. Not the most thrilling food, but then wedding food generally isn't anyway.

Well I suppose if there are lots of kids at least you could expect most of them would eat it even if the parents internally sneered. Whereas giving child portions of adult food may be approved of by some parents but met with "but I don't liiiiiiiiike it" whining from many of the kids who decide that guinea fowl with polenta is not their idea of a good time. And who would then try and eat everyone's dessert and then run around screaming off the sugar rush.

WMAS, we only had 5 children total at our wedding so asked each set of parents what they wanted. The venue offered either a 'kids meal' or a half portion of the adult meal, and the parents were 50/50 on what they preferred. This is probably not practical if you know more children than us though ?. Our guests didn't get a choice of food either as the venue didn't offer this as an option (because they weren't a big hotel I guess so didn't have huge catering facilities).

Sounds a bit dull, but not the end of the world.

We had 2 children at our wedding (6 and 8), and they just had what everybody else did. I would hope that gammon and champ potatos wasn't too challenging for them.

I had the option of a kids menu or smaller portions of the adults meal. I went for the small portions but I'm sure I saw at least one of the kids with nuggets and chips - was too busy to ask about it then and can't be bothered now.

I arranged chicken nuggets and chips for the 6 odd young children children at our wedding... mainly because I don't have any children, I don't really know any children (my nephew was only 6 months) and I went by what I would have wanted to eat as a child!

It hadn't occurred to me that the parents might have been sneering at me, this makes me a bit sad.

Perhaps in hindsight I should have asked what people would like for their children.

I had a little chuckle at Jade's wedding on Living as the boys had pizza while everyone else had fillet of beef. ?

I think it's a case of know your market and as a one of, it wouldn't bother me. I did cry age 7 when I was a flowergirl as they wouldn't let me sit at the top table and then again when I had to eat a special childrens' meal when I wanted what the adults were having. My mum threatened to take me home. ?

Sparklywug, I don't imagine for a moment that anyone would have sneered at you.

Thank you for that, much appreciated ? It's just that it hadn't even occurred to me when I arranged the food that some parents might not have approved, it'd hadn't really occurred to me until I read this thread!

Wouldn't bother me as such, but would think it was a very dull choice for the children. at my wedding the children just ate what the adults had (the price was the same and I was b*ggered if I was paying that much for nuggets and chips!)

We wnt to a wedding in a castle in scotland last year and..tbh I was a little surprised that this is what came up for the children. Mostly because they tasted absolutely gopping. My kids just ate off my plate. It's not an issue, I guess it's nice that the b&g considered that children might prefer child oriented meals. Mine just don't.

Nah, wouldn't bother me at all what they chose to feed the little horror darling. He probably would just piss about and not eat it anyway. Or preferably he'd be at his gran's house geting whatever gourmet dinner she was dishing up while me and his dad enjoyed ourselves without him there ?

MY children are vegies, so it would be a bring a sandwich job for me - he he, but as long as none of the kids you have going are - it is probably a safe bet. Quite frankly you cant guarentee everyone will like what you choose anyway, nutritionally balanced or not!

I can only actually picture you with a sneer now, Nick. ?

As for kids at weddings,it all comes down to how you feel about kids I think. I adore my niece and nephews and there's no way I'd have excluded them from my wedding day - I wanted them there.

Nope. I'd be happy to be invited and eat what I was given. Likewise for my daughter.

I want to know if the OP was the botherer or the botheree.

I had 6 kids at my wedding (20 people in total). Didn't want a huge wedding and chose to invite some lovely kids over the not so lovely partners of some of my mates. I still wonder why I got such a bashing for that and it's perfectly acceptable to not invite kids. 2 chose smaller portions and 2 chose the kids meal (the other 2 were 2 weeks old and happy on milk).

The thing that always surprises me on threads like this (see also pay bars, children invited/not invited, chocolate fountains etc) is why anyone would sneer at a friend. If one goes to someone's wedding, one is presumably a fairly good friend of the B or G. I can see how you might be surprised by someone's taste but to go along and have a good sneer at things (especially if it's just for the terrible crime of having been "unimaginative") seems completely incompatible to me with the idea of genuine friendship.

Hear hear KN.

FWIW we had a hot buffet so there were various options anyway, most of which were fairly kiddie-friendly (pasta and mushroom stroganoff, spinach & ricotta crepes etc.). I think the younger kids got a separate starter of cheese and fruit on sticks rather than spicy tomato soup but there was a lot of choice anyway with the main so we didn't bother with a separate meal.

But if I go to a wedding it's - by definition - someone I am very close to. I am also usually aware of various constraints e.g. money. So I never get this b*tching about them that happens on here and IRL. I'd be gutted if any of our mates spoke like some people do on here about our wedding day.

I know! Assuming you only really go to the weddings of people you like and care about. I tried to post something like that earlier but couldn't word it without sounding like a sanctimonious old biddy, so left it ?