Would this be mean?

I think it's entirely unnecessary. It's likely that your Boy will not be particularly interested in what dress you wear, until the day. And even then, he will see "white/strapless/train", that's it.

This is so true. On the day he will see you looking (hopefully) fabulous, and not even notice much about the dress - just that your look good in it.

With regards to the magazines, he will probably 'grumble grumble another of her silly wedding magazines left out. Why can't she ever tidy up after herself!'

I don't think it's mean particularly. I just think it's pointless.

He won't notice the dress pictures you leave around. Believe me.

I have a picture of a wedding dress stuck on our fridge to try and help me with the diet and my OH hasn't even mentioned it or asked whether its mine or not. We worry about the dress a hell of a lot more then they do.

Rach xx

I agree I doubt he'd notice, so don't worry about it! I've shown my OH a couple of dresses I like and he know what style I'd go for.

Agree that it's pointless. If you say that you're scatty, you'll have to make a point of thinking to leave the magazine open on a particular page, so you might as well think to close the magazine if you're that worried, but as others have said, men see long white dresses, not the detail that we see.

Agree that it's not mean just a bit pointless. I was a bit worried as my dress was blue so I said different colours and styles to throw him off a bit as I always wear blue!! He knew we were joking with him but didn't think it was blue! He got a shock and loved the dress. I was so tempted to show him though as I was worried he'd be expecting a white dress originally!

Unless you put a flashing sign saying 'this is my dress!!' I seriously doubt it will even register in his mind for longer than 2 mili seconds.

I agree he probably wouldnt even notice...

My OH probably couldnt tell you what colour the invitations are and the sample has been lying around the house for weeks.

I have a wedding folder where I have cut out pictures of dresses I like and put them in a plastic wallet, you could do the same, its unlikely he would think to venture into a folder.

I don't think its mean but I don't think you need to do it either. Men don't seem to have much idea when it comes to dresses. While watching dont tell the bride, my OH will comment that hes choosing the same dress as the man on the last show. The fact that one was a line strapless and one a one shoulder fishtail didnt seem to grab him lol.

All he will notice are white dresses, I really dont think you need to worry.

Not mean, just a bit pointless.

Actually he's worse that i am. I haven't actually got any magazines myself, it's all been him. He's super involved to the point last night he made me sit and sketch what i think centerpieces and our cake should look like so we could compare his and mine.

I think in our case it's going to be more groomzilla than bridezilla lol.

I see what you're all saying though that it will be pointless but H2b is a bit of a control freak and HAD to see my dress for our engagement party before the night.

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Um, why?

I agree not mean but not sure if its necessary, if he's really that interested there are probably other ways of him finding out and he probably won't care that much anyway, he'll just see you looking beautiful on the day.... my dress has been hanging up in my wardrobe (in a coloured non-see-through bag) since Feb and will stay there until the wedding next year, no idea if OH has looked at it or not, i doubt he's that interested really!

I was sitting next to h2b flicking through a wedding magazine the other night, I turned over the page to come face to face with a full page pic of my dress and had to slam the magazine shut quick in panic! He didn't even notice, was too busy playing FIFA on the XBox lol

Do you not think this draws more attention to it than nonchalantly continuing to flick through?

(Not that he noticed anyway).

Definitely, but it was a knee jerk reaction that I couldn't help! Luckily he was oblivious.

Also left a pic of it up on my laptop one time and realised halfway to the gym. Luckily he rarely uses my laptop so didn't come across it. I've banned myself to only look at it in work now after that little scare...

I jokingly made a few comments to OH about big fat gypsy style wedding dresses with moving butterflies, but wouldn't have bothered leaving actual pictures lying about.

As many have said, it isn't mean but it is pointless - he won't notice.

Why did he have to see your engagement night dress?

He wanted to make sure he liked it lol. He doesn't really like suprises and he also isn't very good at pretending he likes something when he doesn't. He would never tell me what i could or couldn't wear ever, he just likes to give his opinion. Our engagement party was hosted by our families and he didn't want me to walk out into a room full of people and see him not wowed by my dress.

I've had the please don't get a big fat gypsy wedding dress conversation from him already.

I guess i wasn't overly pleased by the idea because if not i wouldn't have asked for others opinions. Just maybe a few drinks with my best friend not the best time to be planning anything.

To be honest you could create an entire moodboard of dresses you like but it doesnt guarantee you'll end up with one anything like what you've been looking at. I always thought I'd get a corset style, tight to the hips & I've ended up with empire line!! And Ive got a train I never thought I'd go for and straps!!!!

My H cant describe my wedding dress now and we are married and its hanging in the spare room. I asked him when there was a thread a while ago on the subject, he did a few hand gestures to indicate long, said no sleeves to indicate strapless, said shiny (it wasn't) white, (it wasn't) a massive train (it didn't) Basically they havent got a clue, a wedding dress is a wedding dress to them and they will love you in it. The magazine thing is a waste of time.

of course- what every relationship needs!

Is this about putting him off the scent or wanting a say in your wedding yourself. The post above makes him sound quite...full on (for the want of a better phrase)

haha WSS xx