Would You Be Offended...

I didn't know you were supposed to get a buttonhole if you are a guest ?

I think I'd be more annoyed if I was 'forced' top wear one! Pins are not good for nice material!

Seriously though I'd rather not wear one, and I dont think its really done now is it for all guests?

We are only getting buttonholes for the bridal party, and I've never been to a wedding where I've been provided with a buttonhole.

I'm not sure what the ettiquette is for buttonholes but we are going to have them for OH, best man, page boys (our sons) & parents on both sides. I probably will offend someone but if I give them to all siblings & their spouses I'll need an extra ten!! Would give to ushers if we were having some.

I'm also considering getting silk or foam buttonholes as they are very reasonable & from what I can tell they look nice.

In past couple of years, two of my brothers & my OHs brother have got married & we didn't get buttonholes. I didn't mind at all.

Not if I was 'just' a guest. Who are you referring to? I am just getting buttonholes for the bridal party including the dads of course and for corsages the mums and only gran. The step mum and step dad aren't getting anything because they are very new and my OH isn't keen on them and doesn't consider them as step parents anyway. They may a be a bit miffed but neither of us particularly care.

Nowadays, it's really only the groom's party that have button holes, and sometimes the mothers have corsages. I'd find it odd, as a regular guest, to be offered one in all honesty.

This. At our wedding, the groom's party had them, my Mum, Mr S' Stepmum & Mum also. Oh and we gave one to my Grandad & Great Aunt so they would be included.

I think it's an old tradition that all guests have buttonholes. It's certainly not the norm these days. I haven't been to one wedding where the guests have been offered them (and I've been to a LOT of weddings!). OH will often wear his own, as his SIL is a florist, so she often makes them for the whole family.

I wouldn;t be too botheres if I wasn't part of the bridal party, I think its looks better just for the bridal party to have them as well as is distinguishes them from the rest of the guests.

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I've only been to one wedding in the last few years that gave all the guests a buttonhole. To be honest, I'd rather not have one.

We made sure all the men in the bridal party had one and we gave the two mothers a spray each.

You lot are a wealth of imformation!

Why am I being told I should pay £1.60 for each of my guests to have one then. Mmmm maybe it's a North West thing (or the two people are clueless). I'll happlily go with the latter and save myself an extra £120.

Thanks, girls ?

Who's telling you that? It really is a very old tradition, and one I have yet to see at any wedding I've attended. Save yourself the money and don't bother!

The Mil and my other friend (she's 36). I've bought 10, I dunno how I'l divvy them out now ha.

(Ps, they are silk. God knows what real would have set us back then!)

Yea i would be more annoyed if i were made to wear one, dont want a pin or the flower to stain/ruin my clothes and i find it a bit odd actually most guys would not dream of going out with a flower pinned to them so i dont see why there is a sudden need to for it at a wedding.

I'm not at that hot up to date on ceremony etiquette but on our quote we had this.

4 Fancy buttonhole of single hot pink roses with erygnium detail and bear grass foliage £12

5 Fancy Corsage of ivory roses and gypsophilia and bear grass detail with magnet fastening £20

10 Single Cerise Carnation buttonhole £10

10 Single Ivory Corsage on magnet fastening £10

For the sake of £20 I'm going to keep the singles in for uncles, aunts and anyone else who might want one, that said, I might also take them out.

Also, on the ivory rose corsage/buttonhole we're having magnets so fastening with a pin won't ruin anyones clothes. These are mainly for Mum's and Nan's though. A "regular" guest can have one if it's spare but I won't be catering and to be honest, I can't imagine any of mine or OH's friends being bothered.

OH isn't having one at all!!

I wouldn't be bothered at all if I didn't have a buttonhole, I can't remember the last time I went to a wedding that provided one for all.

We are just giving them to the wedding party and mothers/ step mothers.

I've never been offered a buttonhole before when I've been a guest at a wedding. I got married in the NW and we just had them for the bridal party. It sounds like another opportunity for suppliers to try and squeeze more money out of you.

I've only been to one wedding (and I've been to a fair few!) where guests were given buttonholes. They had little magnets rather than pins. It was quite nice, but I've certainly never felt deprived at any of the weddings where we didn't have them, and we didn't have them at our own.

We are only giving buttonholes to the bridal party and corsages for the mums. It never even crossed my mind to give everybody one. Seems like a lot of expense that doesn't need to be spent.

Some people bring their own too, my SIL's Mum wore one that she provided herself.

I think that's quite strange, no?

We do this usually at family weddings. As mentioned above, SIL is a florist, so she makes buttonholes for all the men and then wrist corsages/hair thingies for the girls.

This is a pic of Mr Knees, a couple of his brothers, uncles and cousins at another cousin's wedding a couple of years ago. SIL did the buttonholes for OH and his bros, but the others sorted their own. You can just about see my hair thingie in the back!

My friend, who seems to get invited to a bazillion weddings a year will always buy herself a buttonhole for the day, not to match the colours or scheme or anything, she just chooses what she likes, just because, well it's a wedding I spose!

I myself have never heard of supplying them for guests and it wasn't until I got to know my friend and her buying her buttonholes I've ever considered it.

I have, but i'm only having 5 guests! It's my mum, my brother, OH dad, mum and great gran. I'm using silk ones with magnets on and i've ordered one for everyone and a bouquet for me, but if they didn't want to wear one for any reason, I wouldn't be upset!

S x

I’d find it a bit odd if people brought their own buttonholes. It wouldn’t bother me but I’d think they were a loon.

We have buttonholes for every wedding guest. But the only guests at our wedding will be immediate friends and family which comes to 18 (including us). We made this decision because if we gave a buttonhole to each of the bridal party and corsages for the mum’s there were only 3 people buttonhole-less so thought we’d just get them one too.

Certainly won’t be getting each of the 150 guests turning up for the reception!

I actually think that could annoy people if they're not expecting it. Say, for example, the MOG & MOB weren't wearing one, and another guest shows up in one. They might feel a bit miffed.

I grew up in the North West. I remember going to my cousin's wedding when I was about 15 & another wedding when I was about 20 & my Mum made us all buttonholes so think it used to be tradition to all wear them & make your own but that was yonks ago!!!!!! I think things have changed since.

We're only giving to OH. best man, page boys, & parents (maybe people doing readings but that complicates it as they are siblings & would leave out other siblings & spouses).

I wouldn't expect anyone else to bring their own but wouldn't be offended if they did. I'm hoping we don't offend anyone else by not giving them buttonholes.

Not at all.

I always thought it was just the bridal party, mums, nans, grandads that wore button holes?

I would never buy a button hole as a guest.

THIS!

This. Don't know why this cracked me up so much too!

Also, we're not doing buttonholes or corsages for anyone. I personally don't like them, and the groom's party actually can't wear one on their outfits.

No, I'd find it weird if I was told to wear one. I've been a guest and worn one, when I was a teenager and my mum forced us to. But now I think its quite weird for guests to wear them. I think its more of an older-generation thing for all guests to wear them, though they certainly shouldn't be provided by the couple.

I'm going to a wedding tomorrow - I'll report back on how many non-bridal party guests have worn their own buttonholes!

To me, it's completely normal for people (men) to wear their own buttonhole.