Would you get into bed with your mum and/or dad?

I wouldnt because i'm not close with them and they both snore! I have no issue with what other people do though.

Yes I would get into bed with my mum (not to sleep though cos she snores for Wales) but to chat and watch TV or whatever. Up until I was about 25 Id get into bed with my gran after a night out on the tiles and tell her of my exploits, we had great chats in bed!

I dont see anything wrong with it personally.

Personally no, we don't have that sort of relationship.

But it seems they are not making a distinction between the different reasons for doing it. I can see that it would be a parenting issue if you had a child that insisted on sleeping with his parents (because of some underlying problem) but that is a completely different situation to yours or JB's. A rather strange issue to make a blanket judgement about, IMO.

I probably wouldn't now (not least because my mum snores dreadfully!) but I did up until I left home (at 18) - particularly if there was a thunderstorm.

Our children come into our bed most mornings for a cuddle before breakfast and in the night if they've had a bad dream or are feeling poorly. I love our morning cuddles and would be sad if they stopped.

I don't, but then I rarely stay over at their house, and I think it would be a bit wierd.

At weekends my sister (34) hops in with mum while my dad goes and makes the tea.

This is one more thing I think I have filed under "different for girls".

I slept in the same bed as my mum a couple of weeks ago, we're not really a family that stays in bed but if mum was ill or something I would certainly hop in next to her for a chat. Hmm, not sure I would get under the covers with my dad actually, but I would sit on top of the bed with him to watch films and stuff.

Odd that I feel differently about the two of them. Food for thought.

For a cuddle? No, I'm not that tactile.

For warmth? With Mum, yes probably.

Because a double bed was the only one available? Yes. I've travelled with Mum, and in that circumstance, as I would be with pretty much anyone else, necessity prevails.

(I'd add that I'd have to be last-stand-desperate to be in bed with my Dad. Actually I find being tactile with, or in fact physically close to, men I"m not having a sexual relationship with very difficult anyway. Weird I know.)

I woudl share a bed with my mum, not my dad as he'd probably have a breakdown if it were even suggested bless him.

Quite often at my parents my Mum will get up first and I'll go and lounge on their bed for a chat with Dad- I don't see that as any different to us sitting on the sofa though- I'm not particularly close (space wise) to him in a king size bed and we're both clothed.

I have a picture of my mum, me age 12, sister age 9, auntie and uncle in mum and dads bed killing ourselves laughing and watchin TV, it's V normal in our family. When we used to stay over at our grandparents me and my sister would always invade their bed on a sunday morning and grandad would do his bed monster thing ie dressing gown over the head to make us squeal - when I think about it he did it at easter when we were on holiday when we we all sat on their bed in our PJs

H thinks its a bit odd, his family have never done it past he and his sister being toddlers. They aren't touchy feely people though my family are.

I'd share a bed with both if I had to (like travelling and there only being one bed) but I wouldn't hop into bed with either of them for any other reason.

I'd share a bed with my mother if it was called for, but I'd rather not. I'd rather sleep on a spike than share a bed with my dad and I imagine he feels the same.

I wouldn't get into bed with them for a cuddle and we're generally not that tactile- we hug hello and goodbye but don't generally sit around cuddling.

That's positively gushing compared to my family. ?

My mother did hug me briefly last month.

It was probably the first physical contact I've had from my family since my father shook my hand at graduation (in 2001)

I've never had a dad around so I can't comment on sharing a bed with dads.

I've just remember about staying over with my grandparents and I used to crawl into their room, under the duvet and up the middle of the bed, inbetween them. They obviously had no idea I was doing it, with an 8 year old lump moving up the duvet. ?

It's interesting to read replies, thanks!

Exactly WSS.

Definitely. I'd rather not share a bed with them to sleep unless absolutely necessary - but that's because mummy's a terrible sleeper and daddy snores for England - but if that was the only option I wouldn't have a problem with it.

Tbh, if we stay there at the weekend (not very often these days) I'll go and get into their bed on a Sunday morning for a chat while H is still asleep. They've got a 6'6" wide bed, so it's not exactly a hardship for any of us.

I think it really depends on your family though. We were staying with my aunt the weekend just gone and on Sunday morning her two girls (aged 7 & 10) came and got into bed with H & I for a chat and a cuddle. In the end their mum came in and sat on the end of the bed too - we were looking at all their baby photos as I've just told them I'm pregnant. I don't really see how it's any different to all of us sitting on the sofa in our pjs (as I have to confess we were the previous night).

We didn't co-sleep but regularly all (5) piled into Mum and Dad's bed of a weekend morning, and generally jumped on them until they got up!

I think that probably stopped about age 10 or 11.

I'd sit on my Mum's bed with her now, but I don't think I'd get under the covers. Can't really articulate why. I'd share a bed if it was needed though (on holidays etc). She does snore atrociously - infact when we were staying at my Grandma's a couple of weeks ago my brothers were meant to be sleeping on the floor of her room and both had to leave to sleep in the bathroom because of the snoring!

My dad - no way. Not going there.

I can't remember the last time I did get into bed with either of my parents but I imagine I would.

When I lived in a small flat we watched tv from our bed and on at least one occasion H was squished into our double bed with me and two good mates because it was cold and we wanted to share the duvet ? I don't think it would be different to that. Amazingly enough we managed to watch Northern Exposure while resisting the urge to have an orgy ?

My son is two this week and he only moved into his own bed/bedroom a few months back and still comes in with us quite often over night and he can do so for as long as he likes. I don't see why bedsharing is a problem, it's only in very recent years that bedsharing was anything other than the norm.

Rhys spent all last week coming into bed for a morning cuddle with my parents too - I think it's utterly pathetic that people sexualise cuddling a 2-year-old in bed.

Erm, there was a time, probably up to the point when I left home, which was when I was about 24 that I regularly climbed in with mum and dad, actually usually dad had got out to let the dog out but I'd hop in with mum and have a cuppa and chat.

I probably would now, but maybe not in the bed, maybe just on top of it. Depends on the situation I suppose. I love my parents to bits to certainly wouldn't wretch at the thought.

My parents didn't used to be - it certainly wasn't how I was brought up - until suddenly one day, with seemingly no warning, kissing and hugging everyone was de rigueur. Disgusting ?.

Prior to that, beyond the age of about 12, the only time Dad and I had intentionally touched was the day my brother died when I was 15, and the day I married (for the first time). The trip in the car was mortifying, with us both trying desperately to maintain the personal space boundaries on a slippy leather back seat.

I was with them both recently at their house in Crete. A positive touchy-feeley-fest. Vile. Eventually I insisted that their ex pat friends stop mauling me. I can't bear it.

Zebra, apparently the only reason older children sleep in their parents' bed in other coutries is poverty and as we have more space, children should always sleep in their own bed.

[sigh] Wouldn't it be lovely to live in thier perfect world? Not!

No I wouldn't. We never hug or kiss anyway. We have a weird relationship. We talk when we need to.

Our children are 5 (boy) 3 (girl), they end up in our bed most nights. I don't see anything wrong with this. Well I do, more room would be nice. ?

I'd think nothing of laying with my mum (I did on my hens night because we had to share a double bed). I didn't think anything of it TBH. If she is ill and I pop round I'd lay next to her in bed. Not sure about my dad though. The last time I remember him cuddling me was my 15 birthday, I know he has told me he loves me since (my wedding day being one of them - whilst telling me it wasn;t to late to change my mind ? if only I listened ?).

Same here JK. It's now fashionable in my family to suddenly hug at every opportunity like when saying hello and goodbye, and sometimes you almost have to pry people apart. Before that, there used to be just a pat on the shoulder or the back, like when I left for uni or when I graduated. How times have changed ?.

Saying that I'm still repressed and couldn't get into bed with my parents for any reason - I even found the title of this thread funny in a childish sniggering way ?. If they were ill I might sit on their bed to chat but that's it. I grew up having to share beds with sisters but can't do that anymore either. I just wouldn't be comfortable. If there was no choice, I'd sleep head to toe but preferably I'd rather sleep on the floor and let them have the bed. I think it's just me though as the other sisters still don't have a problem bed sharing.

This is why I don't watch daytime TV, I don't want to start taking blood pressure tablets.

So, how do these people explain culture in Japan where it's normal for families just to add an extra futon on as the family grows? I mean, it's not as if Japanese are poverty stricken as a whole....

Grrrrrrr

Very short of space though. (I agree with your general point 100%)

I wouldn't myself, I don't have that sort of closeness with my parents. However, I don't find it at all odd and thinks it's sad that anyone would think it was 'wrong' in some way

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Mum, yes. No problem at all.

Dad, nooooooooooooooooooo. Wrongity, wrong.

Zeb, it's the only daytime tv I watch, honest guv! ? (I actually record it to watch the news/topical bits and (mostly) fast forward the loony bits. ?)

I completely agree with you, it's nonsense.

I shared the bed with my mum on Sat, the last night of her holiday here. I didn't have a problem with it at all, in fact it was nice not to have to listen to my OH snoring!!

We were both pox infected too so we were able to tell eachother off for scratching!

I would never, under any circumstances, share the bed with my dad. Apparently when I was younger I would always crawl into bed for cuddles but like so many of you have already said we don't have as tactile a relationship as my mum and I. Infact, the closest we got was a fortnight ago when I went up to his to bury my cat. I was distraught and had a hug.

The sexual organs reasoning is bizarre. I used to sleep in the same bed as a male friend a couple of years ago and no sexual thoughts ever crossed our minds, we were just two mates sleeping off a night out. We did have a hard time convincing other people that there was nothing going on though.

I work with a guy (hes 20) and his mums our boss, She said to another colleague "Jon wasnt well last night, so he came in to bed with me"

We were all pretty shocked, its not something i would have done but i suppose theres nothing wrong with it (......kinda).

I am close to my mum but at 23 I would not get in bed with her - its just not how I was raised and certainly not with my dad either - that would give me the plain old creeps - I think maybe I shared a bed with him once in France as we stayed over at his friends house - I was about 15 at the time - I didnt think anything of it then so I wonder what has changed now...

Would I have our LO in our bed? Sure, I don't see anything wrong with the reverse but then I am actually really affectionate with my daughter... hmmm...

I wouldn't but then I never have any reason too! I'm also still scarred from being told that I fancied my dad when I was about 12 because I would give him hugs and walk around with an arm around him showing him stuff ☹️ I still can't give my dad a proper hug now because of that ☹️

However I don't mine my children jumping into bed with us but they're 9 and under at the moment.