Would you give???

Hi

I think this is a lovely idea and it shows that you are thinking about those that didnt make it, and that you are doing something to support your hubby to be.

sarah x

No I wouldn't be offended in the slightest. My brother is in the armed forces too ( the RAF) think it's a lovely idea. Every little helps those who are or had been serving!

Being a forces wife myself i would def put in (know how you feel as my hubby has been and come back from afghan too many times, but luckily he does come back) but the people that dont want to put in dont have to, if you just put a note on the bucket (or whatever your using) to say in better words than i am going to use now

as such and such is so close to our hearts we would be grateful if you would make a small donation however it is not compulsory to do so. then a thank you at the end.

i think most people would put something but if it tells them they dont HAVE to then it will make peeps that dont want to feel a bit better for not doing it and feeling forced to.

hope this helps

We are doing the exact same thing for the British Heart Foundation as OH dad passed away of a heart attack. Its our subtle way of honoring him throughout the day so obviously I am in support..

I think it is a lovely idea, very thoughtful Jx

I think this is a lovely idea, and yes i would most def give, x

My daughter was born at 28 weeks and we are having a collection by our sweetie table for the neonatal unit that looked after her. I work as a student midwife at the hospital she was in so alot of or guest will know the cause anyway.

I think its a fantastic idea and such a great charity.

x

Brilliant and lovely idea - I doubt anyone would or could be offended in the slightest.

Sure people will give, and generously too with it being at a wedding - I think that is a really nice, subtle way to include something in your day that you both feel strongly about! x

I would'nt be offended at all, i think its a really great idea, good luck and i hope you raise lots of money, i think that you will find people will become more generous towards the end of the night too. good luck with it x x

I think that is a lovely idea, i would give, because you are leaving it up to the person themselves to give or not

my niece's other half is in the army and i know she does alot for the army.

please let hope they all come home safe and sound.

I think it is a lovely idea.

Are you having favours, if you are, have you thought about charity faviours, maybe putting a note on the placecards telling people that you have donated on their behalf and maybe putting them in memory of your H2B colleagues who have been lost??? Just an idea.

Ditto x

It's a great idea. Its part of your relationship so why can't it be part of your wedding?

x

i think its a lovely idea!! why not!!

Lovely idea, i wouldnt be offended at all x x

Hi,

I love the idea and think it's a great personal touch. I wouldn't be offended at all and I can't imagine anyone would be.

Sorry to here about your h2b's friends/colleagues. ? It's tragic to hear sad stories.

I'd give. I think it's clearly it's a cause important to you and all your friends and family would see that.

Similar for me, I'm thinking of having a cancer collection as that's something that's touched me.

I think it's a lovely idea, and like others have said - a collection on the bar is optional, they don't have to donate if they don't want to!

Also the people who are invited to your wedding know you both and know why it's so important to you and close to your hearts!!

Good luck and hope you raise a lot of money!!

xxx

We are doing the same. As we had asked the Vicar about splitting the collection, but he wasn't so keen!

I think it will work well as most of the people in the room will understand the cause. All your H2Bs family will support, a lot of the army guests will support the cause and your family will be more aware.

Thankyou very much for all the replies ladies

xx

I think its a lovely idea and shows that you care. Obviously like you said, its an optional thing so you wouldnt be offended if somebody didn't put anything in!

Great idea i think, anything to help the men who are helping our country!

x

WSS - I was going to suggest the same thing. We're making donations to Cancer Research & MS Society

I think it's a lovely idea and I would definitely give a donation if I was at your wedding x

I've already sorted my favours out but might buy a few charity bits and put them on the table for people or maybe give them to both mums as well as flowers ?

Definitely! Such a worthy cause. We have a friend who is in the marines and it's shocking hearing the stories of people he has lost in his company whilst he's been on posted in Afghanistan.

I'd love to do something similar to raise money for the local hospice who cared for my Nan and Grandad in their final days, but as we're having a paid bar I don't think people will have change x