"Young" bride rant!

No idea! What I said was "average education", so places where there's a high density of people with degrees, etc. Generally speaking across the world, that tends to be big cities, I think.

I did attempt to ask this question earlier but you clearly have far more authority than me Tricks ?

So basically, if you're married at 21, it's because you're a thicko! ?

As an average trend that seems about right... If you have a PhD you are likely not going to get married until you complete it for example, whereas someone else the same age might have been working for years by then and have 'settled' into non-student life. Women with higher degrees are also significantly less likely to have children and when they do have children, they have them later.

That's pretty obvious though.

A woman would be mad to plan a wedding at the same time as studying for a PhD!

I must buck the trend then. I had a child out of wedlock, married late at 35, live in a city and I'm not that clever.

I'm amazed at how many brides I've met here (and on Facebook) who are juggling degrees and wedding planning. How do they do it?! I would've gone nuts, I think.

I planned a wedding while studying for a Masters... less involved than a PhD but still felt like I was going mad at times ?

I doff my (measly bachelors) mortarboard to you!

Yep and if you're over 26 you're past it!

I'm depressed now, I'm old and stupid

I'm 19, will be 20 when I get married.

Today I got called a "stupid, stupid girl!"

and every couple of weeks I get asked if I'm pregnant... and when I say no they say... well why are you engaged then?

X

*Phew* I'm just in time then

I'm 22 so is OH and we're getting married in a month. I had a few comments, mainly from work. We've been together 4 years and bought our house last year. A colleague of mine (on her first day!!) told me it was a mistake to buy a house with my OH. We got engaged last June and moved in to our house in July so we have moved fast but we are both mature and I think that's the important thing.

We both have been through a lot together and know what it means to be married and we are both ready for commitment. I don't think it matters age wise, what matters is maturity and whether you are ready to commit to each other.

I have two friends who got married at 32 and 34, they were not mature and got engaged cos I think that's what they should do. I don't think they thought through marriage and what it would mean. They lasted barely a year.

S x

Haha I get the pregnant thing constantl too. From everyone to customers, colleagues and family!

S x

I was pregnant when I was 19 and nobody asked me if I was getting married.?

I'm 23 and have been with my partner for ten years this year. I couldn't care less if someone thought I was too young, I love my fiance and want to marry him and that is all that matters! People use to say, 'you wont last' when we were 14, kind of showed them very different.... so who cares what people say/think, don't let it get to you.

I was pregnant and engaged ! at 18 but I was told i didn't need to get married !!! ? always puzzled me that comment

I always get the "Oh so you're ACTUALLY planning a wedding FOR REAL"

YES. FOR REALS!!

And when I was pregnant It was all "Are you getting engaged?"

There's a 'trend', if that's the right word to use, where I grew up & lived until a month ago that When you have a kid young (****) you automatically 'get engaged' which is usually means updating your facebook status to 'engaged' then splitting up with the father of your child a few months later.

So being 19 When I had my daughter, all my (ex) friends would be asking why He hadn't proposed. And when he did 3 years after we got together, everyone assumed we wouldn't actually tie the knot.

Do you know how hard it is to get people psyched for your wedding when all people have heard of are empty engagements. Hell I tell you.

& the naive 18 years old's that make up my Uni class think I'm mad, as they've only just started drinking, and exploring sex LOL.

I still plan to get wasted when I'm married, Its just less often as I have a child and a house to pay for and look after.

I've just got back from work and haven't caught up on all 6 pages of this thread yet (so I hope there isn't some big argument going on by the time I get to page 6 ?), but this sums it up perfectly for me. I think what I find annoying is the assumption that I'd be having so much more fun going out and getting pissed rather than subjecting myself to the drudgery of marriage. OH and I are both a bit "been there done that" when it comes to going out and getting pissed (OH was "been there done that" by the time he even went to uni...!) OH is also the funniest, most interesting person I know and I have more fun with him than with anyone. "I still plan on seeing the world and meeting new people, just with my husband with me" is exactly right.

I'm 23, about to start my third year of a PhD. OH is 26 and finished his PhD and is now a research associate and part-time lecturer to undergraduates. .

So I, sorry we, (but mostly I!) have planned a wedding and studied for a PhD. We both got paid to do our PhDs (some mad people do it for free) so it was just like both having full time jobs, completely different to being a 'student' student.

But coz we iz young we must be fick, innit?

Moral of this thread, you can't plonk people in categories and assume they will fit the mold.

I should also add, not one person has made a comment about our age since we got engaged. But maybe as was mentioned earlier there is a 'difference between age and maturity.'

Yup! I agree with that! I'm 21, Hauling Ass at Uni, raising a two year old, planning a wedding, working (for free) for a Rape and Sexual abuse crisis and doing all the study and paperwork that goes along with that. Never let age or background lead you to assume something about someone!

Not to open a can of worms, but I hope you're not suggesting those who have recieved comments have done so because they're immature?

It doesnt matter how long youve been together, if you already have children, if your studying, working blah blah blah all that matters is you love each other and want to spend you lives together.

old, young, middle aged who cares

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I hope no one here actually thinks I was saying young brides aren't intelligent/educated! I was merely quoting statistics I'd read somewhere.

I think young brides are immature and thick.

I hope thats a joke

I am 22 at the moment and 24 when we get married. I would like to have children soon after we are married and I have no quarms in telling people. My boss made a comment the other day about how I am only 22 and I am like a middle aged woman and I should be living it up!
All I care about it that me and my OH are happy and we love eachother, and I want to be with him not 'living it up!'

Why not do it young... you are more likely to reach that diamond anniversary

xx

Hahahahaha!!! Calm down Layna Rose. Bloody hell.

Im perfectly calm thanks