Big wedding or runaway wedding?!

Is it not something that they can sort out ? Things might be raw now but hopefully it can be sorted and you can have your day x

As Marcie has said is this something that will settle down over time or irreconcilable between your mum and fiancé?


As is said a lot on here remember the day is about you and your fiancé, your relationship and commitment to each other. For some people it is super important to have their family and friends involved in this but for others not so much, so I think it’s worth talking to your fiancé and working out how important it is to you both who is there/involved
Best of luck

View quoted message Thank you! He called her some nasty words after the way she has treated him since we’ve been together (it was honest but came across the wrong way) there’s no going back they hate each other xx

View quoted message I’m really sorry to hear that, hopefully time will be a healer in the end.


I would therefore say you need to decide what you want more, having family there and asking that they be civil for the day or if that won’t be possible will you be happy to have a wedding day without them?

View quoted message I really want my family to be there, it’s a tough one! I just wanted to see a strangers views on this as of course families have opinions! X

We have something similar with my future mother in law. My partner fell out with her and they’ve not spoken for nearly two years. Currently debating whether to invite her to our wedding. We’ve decided to have a small wedding so it’s whether there will be an atmosphere. I’ve said I do not want him to regret not inviting her in the future.
If you have a big wedding, will there be enough people to distract from an potential atmosphere? I’m sure both of them can put aside their angst with each other for one day, for you. Good luck! X

This is the reason me and my partner and doing it without family my family is really loud and like a party so when i met my partner he calmed that side of me down which is why i love him so much my family has already said if we marry without them they will never talk to us again. I am 43 not sixteen do what you and your partner feel best for you both x

The last thing you need on your wedding day is that kind of stress.
If your mum isn't mature enough to manage a single day without fighting with your fiancé then I'd consider, if possible, not having her there.