Bridesmaids

So your H2B has 4 women friends and its 3 of those that you want to be your bridesmaids ?

What about asking the 4th to be a grooms -woman or even a joint best woman with his best man.

I see plenty of weddings with all kinds of combos like that.

If they're FH's friends why are they YOUR bridesmaids? As Bill says they can totally be his groomswomen!

Or, if you really want them to be bridesmaids, please just have all 4 - it honestly feels really sh*tty to be cut for the aesthetic of having a certain number. Unless there's another reason you don't want this 4th girl, you should include her if she's just as important a friend as the other three. If she's not as close a friend then that's another situation but you need to figure out if it's because you don't what her specifically or if it's because you only want three.

View quoted message Thank you for your advice only reason they will bridesmaids is that there are already 7 grooms men

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Its up to you what you want is the only advive i can give you x💗

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So when you say that your OH already has 7 groomsmen, does that mean that you have 4 bridesmaids of your own choice and feel you need another 3 so that the sides match? Or is there something about the fourth girl that you really don't like? Or are 3 of your husband's friends also good friends of yours but you don't know the fourth?

If you're worried about having matching sides, don't be - nobody is going to notice at all. I've been to weddings that had far more ushers than bridesmaids and other weddings that were the other way around.

If it's a case of not knowing the one girl as well as the others, I'd either split the group equally between bride's and groom's side and have two of the girls you know best as your bridesmaids. Or don't have any of them in the wedding party, but find another way of involving them, i.e. doing readings, being a witness.

If you just don't like the 4th girl, then she shouldn't be in the wedding party at all. But to avoid causing upset, it might be easier to leave the other girls out (or only include 2 of them, so that she is not the only one to be left out)

View quoted message I'm not wanting it to match I have 2 flower girls MOH and yough bridesmaid already the only thing with the 4th friend is that she doesn't seem to put the effort in like the others do but I was just thinking of asking them all has I don't want anyone to feel left out and that they wasn't good enough if you know what I mean

I agree - I'd only ask your own friends to be bridesmaids and it really doesn't matter if your husband has more groomsmen!

In practice smaller wedding parties are easier to manage too.

From what you say I would suggest that you just leave things as they are and do not have any of them as bridesmaids. H2B has chosen 7 groomsmen before the 4 women friends, are you feeling that it is now upon you to include them in a special way by making them bridesmaids.

I agree with the others that you cannot exclude one of them so the best thing is to not have any of them. But you could make sure that the photographer gets some special shots of your H2B with them and also add them to a groom and groomsmen shot and maybe your H2B can include them in his speech.

I agree with Photography by Bill Haddon. If they are so close to your OH, then traditions aside they could have been grooms person/women. Don't worry about offending anyone, if they want and can come to the wedding then they will.