Bridesmaids dilemma

I guess it depends what responsibilities you want your bridesmaids to have. So, for example, arranging hen do, helping with decorations, helping with dress choices. Some women don't want to be dolled up in peach with 3 other grown ups- or don't feel they could afford a dress and hair and makeup. Othere women may feel they already have alot going on in their lives to commit to it, ie, babies, new job, caring for parents etc etc.
However, some women are totally up for it amd love all the wedding arranging and are 100% wanting to support you and be your no 1 go to.
I'm not having bridesmaids, but my sister and SIL have both said they will help me get ready on the day. Neither live locally and it took us over 2 months to find a Saturday we were all free for wedding dress shopping!
Maybe have a chat to your friend about whether she'd be interested and what it would entail. You don't want a close friend to say yes out of obligation and then let you down as that won't be great for your friendship. Good luck x

Maybe you could just send that one message explaining how you feel at least you can see if she has read the message my friends dont talk at all anymore not because i got engaged but because their adults who are pathetic my plan was elope always has been but they ruined that if you dont hear from her then you have done all you can do x💗

Thanks for the replies.


Tbh I do think she would reply, probably just me worrying about it haha, I’ve just noticed in the last few months she’s kept our conversations quick blunt and was beginning to think she’s doing that so I think “oh I’ll not ask her, we are not as close anymore”
I don’t live at home so having to ask my bridesmaids from afar, planning to send out proposal boxes rather than a text message/phone call. I suppose that way if she doesn’t want to do it she can always have a little time to think rather than being put on the spot

Totally its hard when your not sure where you stand hopefully sending the proposal boxes will help hope you sort it x💗