Hi Everyone! I'm probably jumping the gun a bit considering we don't have a date yet, but we're hoping to get married in spring/summer 2023, so time is limited!
I have 1 sister and 6 close friends who are a big part of not only my life, but my FH as well. My FH also has an older sister. I was her bridesmaid a couple of years ago, and she paid for everything except for shoes (including a bridesmaid box full of bits and pieces).
In an ideal world, I'd have all 8 of the lovely ladies as my bridesmaids, but with flowers, dresses, shoes, make up, hair, gifts, and everything else associated with bridesmaids, it would definitely go over budget. I also can't choose between and friends, and I wouldn't want to. Likewise, although I was her bridesmaid, I wouldn't want to have my FH's sister in place of any of my friends.
So! What would you do? My head says to just have my sister as a bridesmaid and then suggest my friends and FH's sister are 'usherettes'? If I did that, would it be rude to ask people to pay for their own dress, and do their own hair and make up. Then I'd just get flowers for each of them to show their still part of the wedding party and a gift/jewellery to say thank you? Do you think FH's sister would take offense at not being a bridesmaid?
Heart wants them to have the best day possible and go all out, even if it means making some cuts elsewhere or pushing the budget up (although FH may take some convincing!)
All opinions/advice/suggestions welcome because I've gone back and forth on this for weeks now and I just can't decide!
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