Budget wedding issues

It is tough when you have a small budget and you have to really think about what is important. Regards the bar, honestly, people are used to paying for their own now, it is very rare there is an open bar now at weddings. that said, I seem to remember you are having a home reception, so could you maybe start buying some drinks on your monthly shop and store them until the big day, as you have plenty of time. If you really are not able to pay for the dresses I think you should have the conversation with the BM's and just explain that you are struggling with the cost, as there is also hair and make up to consider, but you could do DIY to save costs. Maybe suggest they can choose their dress if they are paying and as long as it fits your colour scheme and you like it then they can go ahead and will have a dress they can wear again so will be more likely to be happy to pay towards it.

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Love the drinks ideas will 100% start after xmas with that one.

As for the dresses most of my bridesmaids wont even be able to get benefits with their ages. So I doubt they would be able to pay for their dresses and it's a lovely idea them choosing their own dresses but the they'll all end up choosing different ones and it wont be how I want it to go.
I was thinking maybe asking them to put money towards the dresses do you think that's a good idea? Maybe?
I mean probably wont be able to ask for much but I can ask right? That's not being rude is it?

Also hair sorted my bestfriend same with makeup is doing mine everyone else is doing there own and nails I'm not really much of a nail person so I'm going for a cheap nail salon
Also thanks for the idea of buying the alcohol I'll talk about it with my h2b see what he thinks

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At the end of the day you can try and ask, they can say no but then at least you know. As your wedding is a few years away they have time to save a little and you don't know what peoples circumstances will be by the time the wedding comes round so is worth asking. I see your point about them choosing different styles so get it you would prefer they chip in, but just be mindful f they are contributing they will likely be more opinionated on your choice! have a look at JJs House, their dresses are good and much cheaper so you can save some money there. good luck

View quoted message Thank you I'm going with heboes found a beautiful dress I want them to wear and 100% they will judge it anyway due to it being the color green but if they are good friends they will be okay with the dress I'll connect a screenshot to this and you can tell me what you think

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I love this! The colour is stunning, I don't see why anyone would have an issue with this, it is very flattering and different from the norm, if it is what you want then they should understand and agree

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It's a lovely colour, but I'd check with your bridesmaids that they are happy to wear something so revealing.

Regarding payment, you've already offered to pay for the dresses, so it's a bit late to ask them to pay now. If you really can't afford to pay for them, then the best thing is to ask if they can buy their own, keeping to a set length (e.g. floor length) and picking from a set range of colours. I know this may not end up being exactly what you wanted, but when you are trying to balance a small budget, something has to give!

View quoted message I'm not allowing them to choose there own. And I can sort somthing like a cardigan if it's too revealing but I think I have the right to ask them to pay even just a small ammount right? I mean I'm never going to wear the dress as none of them will fit

The dressid perfect colour same as my daughters bridesmaid dress which was also from hebeos x💗

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Catering 300 do you mean 3000? As 300 won't get you far. Skip the bar, just do a welcome drink. No one expects more and use the money you save somewhere else.
I don't think you can make the bridesmaids pay and not get a say tbh. Its either 1. you buy the dresses you want them to wear or 2. sit down and find a affordable compromise they like. Sounds like they wouldn't pick this one themselves. I let my bridesmaid choose her own dress and just picked the colour (option was deep purple or forest green) and asked that its long. She picked something she liked and would wear again within her budget(only 40 pounds bargain). She showed me to confirm I am happy, so everyone is happy. The dress you picked is super pretty but not something they are likely to wear again and it's pricy taking into account that they will need shoes etc. too. Putting friends in that position wouldn't be nice I think, especially after you said you pay it and mentioned its not their style. After all yes it's your day but they are your friends, so you should take their wishes into account too if you expect them to financially support you with it.

View quoted message No its 300 were doing a bbq and have a small wedding paying 3000 for only about 25 people to eat a burger or 2 is a rip off.


Also with the bridesmaids dresses I understand what your saying but in all fairness my bridesmaids have well paying jobs alot more then I get a year within a month least they can do is spare £110 were not expecting gifts