Cancelling Wedding. Anyone else?

Yes, I frequently question my decision to have one.


Mine is a bit further away than yours, but I've had different setbacks in terms of people attending, the guestlist and difficulties planning things abroad. I find that I feel like that after something happens- disagreements predominantly. For example yesterday I had guests being difficult, which ended with me crying and questioning everything.
I've given it a bit of time and I feel better, however my plan is to take some time away with someone l, maybe a spa day, to just take my mind off.
So not much advice, but I feel for you and you're definitely not alone!
p.s it's always people that cause issues in weddings (relatives who you'd hope would be understanding), makes me feel like eloping!

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Thank you so much for validating my emotions, Ali. It's nice someone understands, as I feel a bit bratty even expressing this! It just feels like the whole event has become about something entirely else, when all I really wanted was to celebrate finding my soulmate.

I hate people! 🤣

And Breathe! I am so sorry your family have been this way, I really dont understand peoples sense of entitltement when it comes to a wedding, that said, it will work out and the main thing now is that you and FH are married, that is all it is about. It is so hurtful when people behave this way, you dont need the stress and I have been like you at times and thought why are we bothering! ee have had several suppliers pull out last minute, venue building issues, my mother thinking it is her wedding and being very vocal and spiteful with her comments BUT we, like you , are 4 weeks away and Ihave finally realised I have to let go of the negatives. My FH has helped me stay grounded and see that WE are all that matter and sod anyone elses. Please try and not worry, you have planned the day you want and that is all that counts. Hope you can manage to relax a bit and enjoy the build up and have a wonderful day X

I can only really echo what Charlotte says, I have actually had a very positive experience in planning so far and only mild irritation with his family which he seems to share so we have just laughed about them. It sounds like your sister has a lot of issues to be causing such a fuss though.

I do remember your posts about the MOG as well and that is totally unreasonable especially the behaviour over the honeymoon. I just hope you can put it behind you and move on in the last few weeks, I am sure when you collect your dress you will feel more positive. Try not to put too much pressure on yourselves and remember it is only about you and the FH. Hard I know but it is just a day (albeit an expensive one!) and you have the rest of life with your soulmate.

Hi thinking of you this is the one reason we chose not to have a big wedding becuse there is so much pressure of other people what you need and need to pay for. But you have to forget all the negative things especially being so close to your wedding and concentrate on the positive your both get to say you do which is the most important thing we dont speak to family because they want it to be a big wedding but its about what you want not others sorry if i havent helped much xx💗

Sending lots of love

Remember you and FH are the only ones that matter on your wedding day, so take a deep breath and don't let anyone else's negativity get in the way of you having a good time x

View quoted message I've been trying to put together how I feel and your message describes it perfectly. I do talk to by htb, and he says 'its just about us, don't worry about other people', which I appreciate, but it's hard when you have setbacks, especially when other people are being insensitive.


It doesn't help that I think it's just me, he doesn't worry or stress as much and I'm like a ball of nerves, so any significant problems make me want to stop planning and give up😅 I'm sure in the end we'll both have amazing days though 🎉 (Never organising another event like this again though! 😛)
I second the hating 😅

I think the reason he doesnt stress is probably because you have done most of the planning hope im right xx 💗But it will be an amazing day and i wish you all the best for your special day xx. CONGRATULATIONS TO YOU BOTH xx💗

Sometimes, I find it helps me to remember that I can't change what has happened but I can change my reaction to it.

When someone has been difficult, it's really easy to concentrate on that person's reactions and behaviours until they dwarf everything else. It might help if instead, you think about other people who will be there (who haven't been causing you hassle) who you will look forward to seeing. Concentrate on all the things that have gone well and all the people who aren't giving you grief and remind yourself that they are the majority x

I think some people forget that this day is about two people not about everyone else.

Offer an opportunity for these people to be part of your day and if they dont just offer those places to someone else.

Oh wow nice to hear I’m not alone either. Why is something that’s meant to be about love and happiness cause nothing but stress, worry and upset.


If the stress of organising it all isn’t enough with waiting on replies, updates, paperwork etc etc.Family and friends can be a nightmare an I found show there true colours at times like this.
I have fallen out with my moh/best friend of 15 plus years, she was initially excited but then got a new man an every time I tried to catch up with her she was always too busy an would never even suggest a date just always too busy an never asked about the wedding or offered to help. This happened on 10 plus occasions. During this time she said she suddenly couldn’t come to the wedding (abroad) for multiple made up reasons that were not an issue before the new man. Then I found out she got engaged and didn’t even tell me until 3 weeks later via text! I finally had enough an said how I felt. Sometimes in life people are not meant to stay forever an you have to remove the negative or you’ll continue to let them drag you down when they should be building you up.
My sister has also been a nightmare too still don’t know if she’s coming an the weddings in June!I was so close to cancelling everything just a couple weeks ago but things have started to look up so fingers crossed. Good luck to every bride out there and remember your not alone.

What I will say is, do not let other people impact your special day. Message everyone causing drama telling them bluntly they either stop adding added stress to your day or do not come!