Can't please everyone

Is he dead set against inviting her? If he isn't bothered either way perhaps invite her and if she doesn't come she doesn't come? X

View quoted message Yeah. Doesn't want her there. X

View quoted message I guess the only way to do it is be honest, there's not going to be any other way around it. You might find she's fine with the idea if they don't even speak to each other x

View quoted message Yeah thanks x

I’ve only invited certain work colleagues and not others - I asked them to be discreet about discussing it with others, as we can’t invite everyone (and don’t particularly want to...). Is it something you could do, ask others not to discuss it while uninvited staff members are around?

View quoted message I think so.eone would mention it. Either on purpose or accidentally. But it's something I could think about. Thank you for the tip x

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Maybe set up a WhatsApp group? Then they have somewhere to discuss that is private and safe?

I’m a little worried that someone will let slip at work (think one of them almost gave the game away last week!) but I’m luckily not in a situation like yours - if someone asks, I can blame my fiancé for who isn’t invited - in a nice way.

Do you get on with her?

View quoted message She's OK at work with sly comments with little digs at my fiancé and his family. I let it slide because its at work and I wasn't around when everything went the way it did. So my other half says to ignore the comments. I've heard she can cause alot of problems when she has a drink. And I don't want it to upset any of the in laws, especially not my fiancé. I might just invite a small few from work.

Hi charlotte i am not in the position you are but understand how you feel my sister was in same pisition when she got married she just had to tell her in the end its hard when family members dont talk.My parents have already said that they wont talk to me if we get married with out them but its what i want so we are doing it its there choice x good luck

View quoted message Thanks Michelle. That makes me feel a bit more comfortable. All the best with your big day xxx

View quoted message Same to you do whats best for you and your fiancee thats what im doing x all the best x