Date of wedding

If anything, I think it’s a lovely way to turn a sad memory into a happy one x

I think it’s quite an inappropriate comment really! It’s not like you’re marrying on the exact date, and even if you were, I’m sure you’d have your reasons that are nobody else’s business. I don’t think most people will take the same attitude as your family member, and if they do ask/mention it, hopefully it will be in a more sensitive way. And you can be as free to share your reasons as you want, after all, it’s not their wedding. As Kirsty said above, there’s an even an angle of turning a sad date into one with positive memories too

I really don’t think it’s inappropriate at all! I think it’ll be a lovely way to remember your mum and I think it’s quite rude of them to have asked!

Thanks everyone, I just wanted to know what other people thought and I feel a bit better about it now, I’m still annoyed at her cheek at asking and I really wish she’d of just kept her mouth shut. I replied back to her that it doesn’t matter what day I get married I will still notice my mums absence!

I think you should stick to the date you said i think your mum would just be happy for you and will be watching over you on your special day x good luck x

Reading between the lines it sounds like it being a Monday is her issue and she's using the date as an excuse to make you feel bad and change it! Sorry they were so insensitive to suggest you wouldn't be thinking of your mum. Hope the planning goes well for you xx

That is such a weird thing to say! Especially the bit about 'you do know it’s when your mum passed" - like there is any chance you would have forgotten the date! So tactless!

Like you say, whatever date you choose, you are going to miss your mum being there. And having it close to that anniversary will give you a good memory of that month in future, as well as a sad one.

Some people are just odd - ignore her and carry on wedding planning.

I wouldn’t of even made the connection as it’s not the same date?! Even if it was, I think it’s lovely as a way to include your mum and help you think of that time each year with happy memories rather than sad memories.