Do the shades of white or ivory on bride and groom matter?

My dress is a pale ivory and OH is going to wear navy tails. He's having a white shirt and ivory cravat and waistcoat - we'll be a whole host of different shades! I don't think it'll be a problem at all hun

I personally dont think it does matter.

Especially if one of you has a different skin tone to the other.

You can match in details instead - like he can wear a tie/cravatte in a colour that matches your theme.

Some people might think it matters though.

As Jules says, it really doesn't make any difference and I always think, for a wedding, the Groom looks best in a white shirt. There are SO many variations of ivory, it is one of those colours that blends with everything - including white.

I don't think it's noticable unless your looking for it. Personally it bothers me as I want everything to be perfect.

My dress is pure white so I have insisted the tablecloths are also white to match, same for cake icing, Mens shirts, flowergirl dresses, shoes, garter etc otherwise I would be concerned everyone else looks dirty when standing next to me.

Thanks this is partly what I was wondering, if my dress would look odd next to other white shades as I think our linen etc will be pure white. But as others have said not to worry then I will forget about it - unless it looks really awful, then I will just make OH get ivory too!

I've been wondering this aswell. my dress is ivory so ordered h2b ivory waistcoat and cravat but lady in suit hire shop automatically put him & rest of the men down for ivory shirts aswell?? should they have ivory or white shirts??

I think it depends on whether he is likely to keep his jacket on or not.

If there are pics with his arms around you etc and his white shirt is on your Ivory dress, it would be very obvious to me, but then I am very fussy over white being white etc in everyday life.

ETA: This picture demonstrates what I mean about looking dirty (I feel anyway):

Our suit hire place made this point to us. So im going to take one of their white & one of their ivory shirts out to my dress fitting at end of month to see what goes best.

Blimey. I have more important things to worry about than this... but then my groom is wearing a black shirt with his kilt so it's a bit of a moot point.

<dons flameproof jacket> No one is going to be going around on your wedding day checking that the shirts match the dress or the icing on the cake or that the bridemaids knickers match the pocket squares of the bridal party. Chill.

@ Samsam - your so right, but I have to look at the pictures for the next 50 years and it's something that bugs me hugely.

For a start men have no concept of 'shades' of the same colour. White, ivory, cream, champagne and off-white are all the same to them. And don't even think about asking them the difference between lilac and purple and aubergine!

Mind you I'm marrying a bloke who does colour matching professionally, so colours are all a combination of numbers to him. My favourite red is 'red 220/blue 5' apparently.

Shades don't really matter than much in the grand scheme of thing as far as white/ivory is concerned. Nobody will notice the difference, or if they do they won't think anything of it. I'd be more worried if I was trying to match shades of bright colours.

In that case, getting the shades to match will help you relax so go for it. At least you know it's a bit crazy ?

Snap! I want pictures I LOVE not pictures where I go 'sh*t I should have went for this or that'. I hate the thought of my beautiful gown looking dirty or OH shirt & waistcoat looking manky against my dress.

Completely WSS!!

The things wedding planning makes you worry about! ?. Saying that I think this little obsession stems from my moms dislike of "washed out" dirty-lookng white shirts and how finikety she was about it when I was a kid.

No, it wouldn't bother me in the slightest! I'd be worried if anything like that matters to me on the day, or afterwards. There are much more important things I have to concern myself with!

I understand exactly! I just don't want to look at pics in the future and think how grubby looking the darker shades looked when next to pristine white! On the day I won't care but I think on photos it could be quite noticeable. Need to check once I have decided on a dress.

I suppose there does need to come a limit though... there IS no definitive colour that is white or ivory or cream (unless you ask the colour matching dude mentioned earlier) so there will always be subtle differences! And you can only control (maybe?!) what the bridal party wears but you can't repaint the venue and you can't (necessarily) dictate what the guests wear either...

As I said previously, my dress is a v pale ivory. It's not going to match either proper ivory OR white. I bought the dress because I loved it and because it seemed to love me not because of its colour. IMHO it's probably better to go for a *meh* kind of shrug and have a range of shades to blend with because the alternative is that there will always be at least someone or something that you will stand out like a sore thumb next to!

I seriously can't tell a difference between white and ivory, so for me- no.

I ordered my dress in ivory (without trying it on in that colour first - Although I did try on other ivory dresses by that designer) and when I received the swatch its pretty white! Suprisingly so really. In fact I'd struggle to imagine a whiter white (even though they did actually do a white version aswell).

I can't be bothered to faff with stuff like that, so mens shirts and stuff will be ordered as ivory as thats what my dress colour apparently is. (Even though to me its white!) So long as all the grooms party shirts match each other I'm really not bothered if it matches my dress.

I actually worried about this too, when they tried on their waistcoats they are ivory (i think) and red swirls and just ivory with ivory swirls for h2b so i will try an ivory and a white shirt to make sure they look right with the waistcoat but i'm not too fussed if his shirt matches my dress or anything else. Does that make sense??

I don't think your being silly for worrying as I'm sure we have all worried about something little that doesn't really matter to someone else!

When H2B when suit shopping they ordered him an ivory shirt as they said a white shirt would make my ivory dress look dirty. We are also having ivory table cloths. Not that H2B knows any of this, it's a secret so he doesn't know the colour of my dress!