Embarrassed about lack of friends

I have no friends coming to the wedding. Anyone who counts as my friend also counts as a friend of my fiancé. We have approximately half the guests each, but all of mine are family and almost all of his are friends. It does mean that my “hen do” (which will be incredibly low key) will just be my mum, sisters and possibly a couple of Moreno distant female relatives.

I used to be a bit embarrassed by my lack of friends too. But no one will notice at your wedding because they will be so busy socialising. If anyone were to ask about why you have so few bridesmaids compared to groomsmen, I would say that I would rather just have two people close to me that I could rely on (assuming they are adults - I’m having three children as bridesmaids so that doesn’t work!)

Don’t feel embarrassed. You have to remember this day is for you and your partner and you can do it however you want to. I have quite a large family and my fiancé is only inviting his mum and siblings, so he’s mentioned feeling weird about the guest list being much longer on ‘my side’. But ultimately once everyone is there together, they are there for both of you, so try not to worry about it. It will all work out okay ☺️

I don’t have lots of friends, I moved around loads and get on with everyone but never enough to develop close relationships. BUT I love this, I look at people with 20 plus at their hen and I think mannn, I bet you’ll hardly speak to those people in 10years time. There’s this social expectation to have loads of friends and be really “popular” but at what cost. Friendships that won’t really stand the test of time! 75 friends to me seems crazy!! How can you keep close meaningful friendships with 75people? It’s lovely that he feels he has a close enough to connection to 75 people and I say this to my partner as he’s similar. I love this about him, his ability to make friends so freely but what’s more beautiful is having one or two true real friends. Real value and relationship.


No one will notice on the day. Don’t do the whole bride side seating and groom side. Mingle away alongside your husband. I bet your day will be amazing.

My family is really big where has my h2b only has his dad and sister i think what matters is its about you and h2b getting married who cares how many people are there as your friends just enjoy the day when you say yes good luck x💗

Don't worry about it all. It's about having who you want at your wedding not who others feel should be there.

I have the same problem. I have a small family and a few friends due to moving around a lot and never really developing a group of friends.
My other half has a big family and a group of friends who have all now got married/engaged.
It upset me when my bridesmaid starting asking who I wanted to be there. I felt embarassed to say I don't really have anyone but you and family. But then I'd hate to be in a room of people who felt obligated to be there and it be awkward and no fun. So me and my best friend are having an afternoon tea together and I'm planning a spa day with my mum for after the wedding.

I am the same having few friends and family about 20. Two bridesmaids, one flowergirl and two witness but most of them are coming from London to mid Wales l don’t have not no family live in Wales. I am happy happy of having a small one save me money also am getting too old.

I would never have compared the number of groom auto bridesmaids. I know you see pictures with even amounts but I often think that’s more advertisement photography than the norm. You have who you want.


I don’t have many friends & one of my (many) panics is that actually, we’ll hardly have anyone there if people decline as we’re only having 60in the day to begin with. I opted from the outset for no bridesmaids, only a flower girl, my partner has a best man & 2 ushers. It’s never bothered me particularly. I have felt uncomfortable with the why no bridesmaids but never felt a comparison to the groomsmen. I do try to brush it off but completely sympathise with how you feel.

Lots of people have a smaller group of friends; it’s a good thing because it means you don’t have a bride tribe who are riding off the back of your wedding for their own reasons. If you get questioned just say that you are focussing on your intimate circle. It’s your day and the focus is on you; not your bridesmaids xxx

We only have 24 guests at our wedding, one bridesmaid, and I think my hen-do is just going to be with my mum.

Don't worry about it, just have the day that you want to have, and get numbers out of your head, they mean nothing. Everyone will have a great time together, no matter the ratio.

I'm in the same boat. Friends that I did invite pulled out and showed little interest. The friends I invited to my hen all said no for whatever reasons. I had my two sisters and one friend for my hen (my mum has passed away and my soon to be step mum lives abroad). It was actually quite nice not having all the challenges with so many people. It was both fun and chilled. I know that on the wedding day I won't even care who has turned up or not, the ones that do matter.


You're not alone in this 😊

Quality over quantity.

I have a large family, H2B doesn't, we both dont have very many friends either. Nothing to worry about as long as you enjoy the day. I am only having my sister as maid of honor no other bridesmaids and my H2B may not even have a best man. But we are doing us and if people don't like it they don't have to come 🙂

Hey 👋 my heart is just 💔 reading this. Remember it’s quality and not quantity! ❤️ You’re having what is right for you no need to be ashamed. I was worrying about having no family at mine and how H2B will have more than me and no bridesmaids and no father to walk me down the aisle too. Just me and my daughter instead. But you know what - I’m ok with that because it’s true to me. It’s who I am and I don’t care about the judgments of others (however well meaning or unintentional) because it’s your day do it your way. It’s all good 6 is plenty. Bless you. Sending you huge hugs and love ❤️ X

My cousin got married with 3 bridesmaids and her groom had 6 ushers - it really doesn't matter - nor does the number of friends & family you have at the wedding.

If you're worried about the 'sides' looking uneven, then just ask the guests to sit wherever - I've been to a few weddings where one partner has been from abroad, so had far fewer family & friends present, but no one noticed because everyone mingled together.

I agree with the other ladies, quality over quantity. I’m in the same boat too so glad I came across this post. I’ve fell out with all my friends over the years and don’t speak to any of my family apart from my grandad, mum and brothers. My h2b has quite a few friends and a big family. We aren’t doing separate hen & stag dos, we are having one party instead. We’ve got 4 kids, my eldest son (will be 14/15) is walking me down the aisle giving me away, my youngest son (will be 5) is carrying the rings, my second eldest son (will be 10/11) is h2b best man and my daughter (will be 6/7) is the flower girl and my h2b sister is the bridesmaid and one of my brothers is the brides man. I was going to have my beast friend as another bridesmaid but she decided to block me for no reason with no explanation when I told her I’m getting married. At the ceremony we will have a nice sign that says something like “” you are loved by both the groom and bride, don’t take a side”” for where people to sit.
The people who im closest to will be there that’s all that matters x

Please don't get scared of this, I only have 67 guests coming, two bridesmaids which are my nieces, my sister is my maid of honour. And my one best friend and a coworker is coming. Our friends that are coming arent my bridal party, in my bridal party I only have about 7 people.


I'm not ashamed of this, I just have a close family and dont believe I need to make all my friends part of the hen do or bridal party. At the end of the day, having little friends isnt bad, it just means you care about those closer more. You're not the only one.

I’m sorry you are feeling this way. I’m sure it will be fine on the day as there’s no point inviting people just for the sake of having more numbers. Just have the people that you really care about and that care about you. Your day is about you are your partner and not counting who is there for who.

I can understand where your coming from. My partner has 6 groomsmen and I have a grand total of 1 man of honor. My hen is is literally me and my man of honor as I have no one I can call a really good friend and not an acquaintance. It doesn't matter how many people you have what matters is that the people who are there mean the world to you. Quality not quantity remember xx

I understand where you're coming from but please don't be embarrassed would you rather have people that you can 100% rely on or flakes just to keep up appearances. My h2b can't pick his best man so atm he has 4 and I have 2 adult bm and 3 kids... Your day will be special please try relax and enjoy it!

My family is huge and H2B has 4 people from his side. We have around 20 mutual friends we are inviting so our numbers are at 55 total. Regards the Hen, I have lots of friends but only want my closest friends at the Hem 7 people, in all honesty, am not bothered about having a Hen at all! The main thing is to have people you want at the wedding and it doesn't matter how many are from each side, as long as they are people who matter to you both. We really looked at who we wanted and cut numbers to have a more intimate day with those who have been part of our journey and supported our relationship. Please don't stress, as long as there is love on the day that is all you need

I can imagine how you're feeling but nobody on your wedding day is going to question this. Hen dos can be so hyped up, just enjoy something small together....it's less drama and stress, too! Remove the negative thoughts on it, don't let it ruin your wedding build up

I know exactly what you are going through! I have about 5 close friends going my future hubby has about 20! I have 3 family members and he has 10! I honestly don’t think anyone is going to notice on the day. They are there to celebrate you both. I’m only having a small wedding of about 50. I always think it’s better to have a few real friends than a load of people that aren’t really. Your wedding will be perfect x

Oh, and my hen got cancelled thanks to Covid, but if it had gone ahead, it would have been a max of 5 people, including me! Numbers don't matter. Quality of friendship does x

It’s the opposite for my fiancé and I, he has
15 people and I have 50. I don’t think any less of him for having fewer people. He has great close friends and a small family. Sometimes I actually envy him because I am juggling with a lot of ‘politics’ on my side. So long as you have people by your side that you know truly just want your happiness above all else, it doesn’t matter how many of them you have. As so many people have mentioned, quality over quantity. Build your day that fits you both the best you can and focus on your love for each other. I’m confident that’s what others will see, not how many people are standing next to you!

Don't be embarrassed or ashamed! Sometimes it's easy to get lost in the numbers or the optics but your guests will be having too much of a good time celebrating your love to be counting heads.

Also, don't be pressured into throwing a Hen if it isn't your thing. Most of my friends are guys and I'm very unlikely to have the pink feather boa party experience and I'm so okay with that. Every bride is different - do what suits you and you're most comfortable with.

Don't worry about it. I'm inviting about 5-7 friends to my wedding too because they are the only ones that i feel are important enough to be included. Some of us just don't have a multitude of friends and THAT'S OK. Think about the cost were saving.

Awww darling, nothing to feel ashamed about. Some people have lots of friends and some people don't, nothing wrong with either.
I'm pretty much in the same boat, I have 3 best friends who never ever socialise together but that's because they speak to different parts of my personality. My partner is having two grooms men and I initially decided not to have any bridesmaids as I couldn't choose between my friends and I'm not that close to my sisters. In terms of family mine are pretty flaky too so they may not come as it's a destination wedding so most of the wedding party will also be my partners family and friends.
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I was initially concerned his side of the wedding party would be bigger but tbh, everyone I love will be there, I'll be able to spend quality time with them and frankly I'm too old to care anymore.
Have a lovely hen night and wedding xx