Engagement

We only got a couple of cards from close friends. I don’t think people send them so much anymore these days 🤷🏻‍♀️ We had more congratulations over messages. X

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Same for us! Lots of messages, lots of excitement the next time we saw people IRL, but only a handful of cards - don't think it's the done thing really for our generation

Awww don't be so upset ~ You never know people may have ordered some personalised cards to send to you, and that's why their not with you yet. But to be honest even when i got engaged back in Feb we only got a few from immediate family xx

To be honest I don't think many people do nowadays. I wouldn’t get upset if I were you. Me and my fiancé got quite a few cards but only because we had an engagement party. Otherwise we only got around 2 or 3

View quoted message I received cards from a select few - I think the online messages are more of the norm now enjoy the engagement bubble!

I though everyone would be overjoyed that I was finally getting married but you soon work out that’s not the case 😂 not many cards and held an engagement party where people brought a bottle and card but many people didn’t come. I was super stressed early in the wedding planning process caring about everyone else and why they weren’t interested then I learned to make it about the two of us and it’s made me much happier. Don’t stress, just enjoy 😊

The same my h2b proposed in front of my parents they didnt even say congratulations and we didnt even get cards of friends or family x But congratulations to you both x💗

View quoted message Oh Gosh it seems the norm then. Funny really. There is so much sadness in this world I thought people would love to celebrate. First thing I do is buy a card if I hear such news. I think I will concentrate on the two of us as suggested and we can make it special for us. Made me think if I am honest about the wedding. I was thinking about putting so much detail in but you know I think I will make it about us on the day and save the money.

View quoted message I think it is just remember to do what you both want and dont let others tell you what to do its your wedding you and h2b are all that matter x💗

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I read somewhere very early on in our engagement that nobody is as excited about your wedding than you are and that is so true! People will make a fuss now and again but ultimately this is not lifechanging news for anyone else other than you and your partner so try not to take it to heart if you don't get cards etc etc x

I think we are moving to a time where people just don't send cards as much. We received a few but honestly we got most messages of congrats via text messages etc.

We got quite a lot, but they were mostly from older family members and friends. We didn't have any from anyone under 40, and most of the people who sent cards were 70+, so if you don't have many older friends & family, that might explain it!

We got a few but mainly messages I don't think many people really think of cards anymore...

We got quite a few engagement cards but we are older -45 and 50 and I do think it’s a generation thing. I don’t know how old you are but it’s probably the reason as a lot of people do things on text now. I agree it is a shame and I would always send a card but maybe I’m old school! Remember also that your wedding is never as important to everyone else so concentrate on your special day. And congratulations

First, Congratulations. Same as me. I just got engaged to! It’s a big thing. If your stressed, my advice is to go on a nice,relaxing walk with your fiancée and just get all of your stress and worries about this wedding out.I bet your guys wedding is going to be amazing.

Congratulations!! Just echoing what others have said, I dont think its the norm for our generation to send cards. I received a handful of people that came to our engagement party, but I would say 95% of congratulations came via texts or messages on social media. Also I have 4 friends who are getting married within the next 18 months and they also didn't get many cards. I didn't even send one to them to be honest, I spoke to them all on the phone and sent them texts to say congratulations.

Thanks everyone, so helpful. We decided not to have an engagement party due to what seems a lack of enthusiasm but we have planned a meal out for the both of us. To be honest it's saved us such a lot of money..I guess yes we are excited but others maybe not as much. I want to pair down the wedding too now. After all it's one day and we are super excited but if there's a lack of enthusiasm or excitement there is little point spending as much as we planned. I'm not disappointed rather just sad.

Awww Joanna, please don't feel disheartened you haven't received any cards. My fiancé and I got engaged last year and we only received 2 cards, one from my parents in law and one from my fiancé's best man. We did receive lots of texts but in all honesty some people just don't see the point in sending cards but it doesn't mean they don't care. Also, everyone is fighting a personal battle we know nothing of, me and my future hubby have had several unsuccessful IVF rounds and both our mothers have cancer but I've been pretty quite about it and sometimes we just don't have emotional energy which can be misconstrued as not caring.

Nope. Not a single one. Or any wedding ones. We’re not even asking for presents. All I asked for was a card. I love cards!
Sorry you didn’t get either x

Firstly congratulations!! Yes, we had this. We got engaged in February and my in laws were the only ones that got us a card and gifts. No one else had bothered until I had finally posted a thank you post to my in laws and suddenly had some messages saying the cards in the post! With my sister saying that she didn’t think anyone bothered and she was just thinking about the wedding. There was still people who didn’t bother and some didn’t even congratulate us. I think some don’t see the point in cards anymore but I keep everything!

We didn't get any from family, we got a couple from my fiancé's friends hutnI think that was more novelty for them as she is the first one to get engaged x

My partner and I are in our twenties and got a few cards, but mainly from older relatives. I generally find that people my age don't tend to send many cards these days, but find other ways to celebrate. You may well find people are very happy for you when you see them in person.

I didn’t get any cards, not even from my parents. However a couple of friends got gifts which kind of made it more special. I think like others have said it’s not really a thing anymore!