Evening invitations

I think 3 months is plenty of notice for an evening reception. I think some times too far in advance and people tend to forget x

View quoted message This is my worry - will people forget?! With the day ones I'm more comfortable sending them earlier as I need to have all RSVPs back within 8 weeks of the day xx

View quoted message I know what you mean but I don't think people will forget your evening reception, who doesn't love a wedding reception! X

We sent our evening invites 5 months before x

We sent day ones 5 months before with a date to reply by which was 8 weeks out. We chased anyone who hadn't replied after 6 weeks. It also meant we could move people to our day list from the evening when we got day declines. We moved 4 people up and it didn't look like they had been bumped up as we hadn't sent them evening ones already. we are sending our evening ones out this week, wedding is 30th April.


I wouldn't go to early as people tend to forget or think they have loads of time so reply late. It is fine to send save the dates as soon as you have it, but be careful that you may change your mind on people, we have 4 people on our day list that in honesty we probably wouldn't have now as since sending our save the dates we have had barely any contact with them.

I would definitely leave a gap between your day invites and your evening invites, as Charlotte mentioned you may find people can't go and then you'll want to be able to move up your evening invites without them feeling like they were B list.

I do however strongly disagree with the suggestions that people will forget! People want notice so they can plan - especially if they might need to stay over night or use any annual leave. Although if it's on a Saturday, walking distance or cheap taxi away for most of your guests then this isn't such a factor.

The crucial thing is to put an RSPV date for your guests to respond by that's generously early - you don't want to leave yourself panicking that you haven't heard people's food choices, and you need to buffer time to give anyone else you bump up time to RSPV before this deadline too.

Thanks all for your advice 🥰

Hi Kayleigh!

Thanks for your question on the forum! We have a great article here:

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