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Everything going wrong the week of the wedding?

LuxuriousBrownDiamonds69528, 21 June, 2021 at 08:26 Posted on Planning 0 8

Hi all


I'm feeling quite stressed and wondered if anyone could offer me some wisdom. It's just a couple of days before the wedding and 10 people have dropped out at £55 per head. Three different couples have have said that their childcare are having to isolate but they are still managing to go to work etc. Two other individuals have said they don't feel comfortable attending now that the end of lockdown has been delayed. I guess that is fair enough if genuine. The rest have just said they can't make it and to have a great day ...


My fiancé has fallen out with some of the guests who have let us down. I told them that it's beyond our control and we're getting on each others nerves. We've tried to find people to fill the spots but their either offended and feel like they are second choices, or do not want to attend a wedding with masks and no dancing etc.


I had an injury at work several weeks ago and I am under physiotherapy. Fortunately I am now much better but I got a flat tyre en route to an appointment and have had to cancel the appointment at short notice so they do not want to see me again. I've previously had to rearrange due to work not being flexible (they were allowing me time off but if someone calls in sick and they cannot cover then I have to rearrange).


Obviously restrictions are still in place as the road map out of lock down has been delayed which is a bummer.

I don't know how flexible the venue can be with table plans at such short notice and I feel so unprepared.

I also forgot to make arrangements for a meal for the photographer and their assistant.


We just want everyone involved to have a wonderful time and make some lovely memories.


Has anyone been through this?

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Latest activity by Purple Girl, 26 June, 2021 at 18:05
  • Emma
    Rockstar August 2021 Wiltshire
    Emma ·
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    Weddings are stressful and the week leading up to it will be the most stressful time ever!
    It’s hard but take a step back and remember as long as you and your partner are there together, happy healthy and getting married that’s all that matters.

    It’s annoying that’s guests have pulled out and others aren’t willing to take their place but you don’t need them to have a perfect day. Least you can use 2 of the places for the photographer and their assistant.
    With regards to seating plans, just let the venue know ASAP that it’s changed and they may be able to change layout etc. If anything it may help then with social distancing etc.
    I know you want everyone to have a lovely time and they will. ❤️❤️
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    Thank you - I hope so.

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  • Michelle
    VIP July 2024 Cheshire
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    Hi i hope your okay just remember to have a lovely day i know its hard with all the planning you have done then people letting you down stuff everyone else just enjoy the day you could always fill two places for photographer and his assistant x I hope you have a lovely day x
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    Genius July 2020 Monmouthshire
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    Just hang on to the fact that, at the end of the day, you are going to be married! That's the most important thing. In 10 or 20 years time, you are not even going to remember the hassles that are giving you so much stress right now, so don't let short term problems (even if they seem huge right now) spoil your joy in such a momentous occasion!

    As others have suggested, you can use two of the guest meals to feed your photographers, so at least that's one problem sorted.

    Focus on the big picture and have a lovely day xxx

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    Dedicated July 2021 West London
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    💯 totally agree with Romantic . At the end if the day u will be married. You won't care who's there the day is about u and your wife to be.
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    Hi all - just a quick update. Things came together on the day just fine.

    I didn't sleep the night before. It rained all morning. But then temperature stayed warmish and it dried up allowing us to have the outdoor ceremony. The DJ set up outside and people could celebrate in the way they felt most comfortable. It really was wonderful. Thank you all for your kind words.

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  • Michelle
    VIP July 2024 Cheshire
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    Congratulations hope you both had an amazing day x


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    Dedicated July 2021 West London
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    Fantastic glad u had a lovely day 🤗
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