Feeling like i will never had a good girly dress day experience

Oh Sarah, I feel for you, it is so hard when you have people living so far away and then to feel they are not engaged and invested must really hurt, I do feel your sister is being a bit selfish by not giving up one day with the new fella to come and support you, or you have to have the child theire which will distract, as you rightly say he will be bored. If he does come could your OH maybe have him while you are at the appointment so you can then have your sister and mums full attention. I get you want the experience, but it is not the be all and end all, focus on the fact you have found your perfect dress, and actually now, you could keep it a secret totally from anyone, but I get you want to have others opinions. Maybe tell your sister it is fine not to attend the inital appointments but you really value her opinon and want her to be part of it so you want her to commit to bringing your mum to the final fitting without her son so you can have a nice girly momet with them so she can see it and learn how to do it up, also tell her that you would like to have lunch with them after, just the 3 of you so you are giving her enough notice to find childcare and you hope she can support you . Regarding your BM's can you maybe order online and then have a trty on session at home with drinks and nibbles? Order a few styles and then return the ones that dont work. Try not to get too down and focus on the fact you are marrying the man of your dreams, that is all that matters in the long run X

This is so hard when all you want is that special day with them if she is moh she should be putting more effort on you not her new partner could you not ask your MIL to take your mum or is she to far away as for the bridesmaid dresses i posted some on your other post x💗 I do hope ypu can get the girly day you want even if it doesn't include her xx 💗

I am glad you found your dress xx💗

I am sorry if this sounds harsh but I would be tempted to tell the sister where to go! She is being selfish and unreasonable. Both my mum and my sister live 100s of miles away from me so I do emphasise, my mum does drive but won't do the motorway so my dad usually brings her or she gets the train on her own. Luckily my sister is fine with driving and she has been good with meeting up even though she has 3 kids and her youngest is only 3 yo. It is all about priorities and I don't think your sister has got them the right why round at the moment as this should be a special time for you.

I think Charlotte's idea with trying on the BM dresses at home is a good plan, we will have to do that as well as my BM dresses are coming from JJ's House online so we think we will organise a try on session at home. Making sure that things coincide with various appointments is a good plan as well so people only need to be away one day or so.

I would however have a word with your sister and say you are not that happy with her lack of participation, there are ways to word it gently but still get your feeling of upset across, especially since she is the MOH as well, she needs to step up a bit!

Totally understand Agree with Charlotte. On this hope you get. to sort things out xx💗

Could you have your mum to stay overnight when you do the next dress fitting? Just thinking that might make it more worthwhile you going to pick her up and it sounds as if your sister is totally uninterested, so unlikely to want to attend any of the fittings. If there are any other details you would like her input on then maybe you could do those at the same time, so turn it into a bit of a wedding planning weekend for the two of you.

Something else to bear in mind is that very few people have the big dress shopping experience anyway. I know you see it all the time on films, but in real life, most of the people I know have been fitting dress shopping in with a load of other things. And those that have had the 'try on in front of friends' experience often end up regretting it because of all the conflicting views! It's easy to feel as if 99% of brides have this wonderful dress shopping experience and you are the odd one out for not having it. But in reality, I suspect very few have one of those 'film worthy' experiences. Especially in the last couple of years!

Seems you have a plan and I think doing the BM dress on the same day would be great idea as you are considering her as well in terms of only coming once. I hope you can get her to come to the shop as is a bit ore of a special moment to see you in it than just putting on at home x

Think you have a plan it will be nice for them and also your stepdaughters to have that special moment xx💗 hope you can sprt it out and enjoy your day xx💗

It might be worth having a chat to your sister and explaining how a girly dress day is super important to you and she might just change her mind. I had the same trouble with my dress I found it and the store had the try on dress heavily reduced and I had to try it on that day or order mine having never seen or tried it on. I was living abroad at the time and all of my bridesmaids were in England so I had to drag my mum sister and brother with me! Hoping I get the crying reaction when my maids see it for the first time at our wedding and make up for the lack of them at my try on ☺️