Freaking Out About Wedding Dress Appointment This Saturday

Oh bless you, the worry is often worse than the actual experience

Hopefully, when you arrive, the bridal consultants will make the experience so special that it'll be an instant mood booster as soon as you walk in!

Whenever I go shopping and I'm worried about the changing room mirrors or my mood making me hate the way I look, I wear something that I already own and like myself in. So if you have a dress that you typically feel confident in/like yourself in photos in, even if you don't feel that way about yourself on the day, use it as a frame of reference - i.e. do you like yourself in this dress more or less than the one you've tried on?

Also, think carefully about who you're bringing with you. Bring someone kind but honest. This is wise anyway, but especially so when you have PMS brain! You want someone that you'll trust to tell you if a dress looks wrong on you, but say it in a way that won't make you feel bad about yourself (remember it's never you that's wrong, it's always the dress!!) and someone that you'll genuinely believe when they say it looks good, rather than someone who'll just say anything looks good because they're trying to be nice (those are the outfits we regret when we then see a photo of ourselves in it!).

Good luck, I really hope you enjoy it in the end!

Oh I get this! It can be quite nerve wracking, even if you’re not PMSing!


Chloe’s right, remember that the people who work there are pros, they know what they’re doing and know what might suit you and how to make you feel relaxed and positive. I know you have an idea what you want, but I’d encourage you try other things as well, esp if the staff at the boutique are very engaged and suggest it - I would never have picked my dress off the rail or from photos, but the woman at the shop really listened to me and came back with this dress that actually was just the dress for my figure and preferences, even though I’d thought my preferences were something else!
Yes sample dresses are often small, but a good fitter knows how to pin it to show you how it’ll look on your body so don’t worry about them not fitting. One thing I would say is choose a dress that feels great now (and how it feels is *at least* as important as how it looks!). Yes, you might lose weight between now and the wedding, but you deserve to feel and look fabulous now, and at any size, and a dress can always be taken in if need be. You’ll feel so much more positive and confident in a dress that looks great now, and not one that might look good on some future you.
The point about bringing someone honest but kind is very pertinent - definitely *don’t* bring lots of people, and don’t bring someone just because you feel obliged to invite them. Bring someone you can trust to know your taste and style, and who will be honest with you if something doesn’t suit (but who won’t be rude about it!).
Good luck and I’m sure you’ll have a great time - just think of all those fabulous dresses you’re going to get to twirl about in 🤩

Thank you both so much for your support and advice. I'm feeling a little bit calmer today, though I'm still apprehensive... I'm not much of a people person and I'm worried the staff might be a bit much for me if they're overly enthuisiastic, and I'm worried I might make a daft decision just because I want to please them (I know that sounds insane but I have a tendency to do this).


I'm bringing my mum with me, who is very honest and quite blunt, but who had quite similar taste to me so hopefully she'll be the right person to help me stay a bit chill and not lose my head...
Definitely going to try on lots of styles instead of just what I already know I like, cos I'm quite straight up and down (aside from a big ches) and about a 10/12, and the skirt and bodysuit separates I was looking at flare out quite a bit at the waist and I don't want to look super frumpy because I don't have much of a waist...

I hope today has gone the way you wanted and you soryed all your worries out xx💗

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It was definitely not what I was expecting. I'm fairly introverted so I was hoping it wouldn't be a lot of people and staff fussing around me - and it wasn't, thankfully.

Actually, when we arrived the shop was closed. It seems they only open up for appointments, so when the lady arrived ten minutes later (we were early) I was freezing a desperate for the toilet, which might not have given the best impression of me...
However, the lady was lovely, I tried on the two skirts and bodysuit I was interested in (I definitely wanted separates) but that was all.
She didn't recommend anything different to me, but she talked me through the variations I could have and adjustments and her recommendations for length based in my shoe choice and several other things.
All in all, even though I didn't feel great in myself and was uncomfortable and bloated, I loved what I expected to love and I put my order in then and there, so it was a success.

View quoted message Im so happy it went well and you made your decision xx💗

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