I hope you don’t mind me posting but I would love some advice/opinions from you lovely hitchers .sorry in advance if it’s long or ranting but I’m at the point I’m going to explode but I don’t know if that’s just me over reacting.
Brief history: H has been divorced 7 yrs. now but has a 10yr daughter with ex, H and I have been together 6 yrs. and married last August. His parents never got over the fact that H and his ex divorced , When I did meet his parents (h didn’t seem to have much to do with them as they took ex side she told a lot of lies which we proved in black and white she was a liar) it was about a year into our relationship I got a few snide remarks from his mum but let them slide, was called by his ex-wife name etc. so I kept my distance from them , a few months before the wedding I tried to give them another chance , called me by ex-wife name a few times ,I let it slide may be its an age thing (65) they seemed to being nice to me.
Hen do and wedding day went well, no slip up of ex-wife name as my mum and friends were waiting for her to do it, but nothing .so I’m thinking maybe we have turned a corner in our friendship .Not seen or heard much of them since the wedding just the odd pleasant phone calls even though they only live 10 mins drive away.
Christmas: had to do the visits all was good apart from the odd slip being called ex-wife, bit my tongue its Christmas .Was invited round for tea the week after as it was his dad’s b/day and they were going away for 2 weeks. Got called 4 times by ex-wife name , then I noticed they had put our wedding pic up in a frame I almost burst in to tears it’s the worst pic ever I’m pulling a strange face as someone must have been talking to me and H is looking up with his eyes shut , they then showed us all the pics from our wedding and yep she framed the worst pic she had .(this is for the ex benefit as I do know ex go round and they talk on phone a lot).
Then she got out H and ex-wife wedding album to show me (whf) bear in mind they have been divorced 7 yrs. and this album was stored on a side table in back room not in an attic out of reach or stored away, I had seen album on the side many times just didn’t know what was it till now .Now Im hurt ,H had a look of shock on his face.
They go away for 2 weeks, Monday H gets a txt from ex-wife telling us we are at his parents for tea on Saturday and to pick daughter up sat am for visits.
So I blew my gasket!
1) So I take it h parents are back from holiday nice of the ex to lets us know
2) I will not be told of h family arrangements that involves us by the ex-wife (which has happened a few times now )
3) In fact I told h I’m not going at all, not going to sit there to be called ex-wife name and have to look at that hideous pic of us and that I’m done with those people .
Do you think I’m over reacting and what would you do, I said all this to H but just got the usual response, nothing.
Thanks in advance.
