Guestzilla requests?

RSVP reply had option of chicken or vegetarian.."what if we eat meat but don't like chicken?" Simples..,vegetarian is is? "Will it come with chips?"...when was the last wedding you went to that served chips as a main?!

"Oh I don't want to sit next to so and so"... Really? Like it's your bloody choice. How about a table on your own then?

Met up with a few girls I went to college with the other day, we used to be quite close but no so much any more, they're definitely on the evening list but still in two minds about the day (although it became apparent they're all expecting to be invited to the day, so expect they will be to avoid awkwardness, as we have room/factored them into budget) anyway I digress..

Told them we'd confirmed the venue/date.. 10 September 2016 - cue amazement that I'd book my wedding for that date when I know its 'insert name of girl from same friendship group' 's 24th birthday... err so?! It's also the anniversary of the day I met OH which I why I chose it, not to inconvenience her. If she doesn't want to come as its her birthday I certainly wont lose any sleep!

I'd love to have a big event to go to on my birthday, that I didn't have to arrange or pay for!

Unless this friend throws a massive birthday party every year, and is known for doing so, I can't see why they were so shocked that a wedding might clash with a birthday. The only time I can imagine needing to avoid a birthday date is if either of the bride/grooms parents or grandparents were having a big family party for their 50/60/70/80th etc.

Nope she doesn't really do parties (we usually just go out for dinner somewhere, if anything) it's not even like its a milestone birthday! To be fair the girl in question wasn't actually present so I dont even know if it bothers her (I dont actually care anyway as I'm probably least close to her out of the group!) It just made me laugh!

Oh my word... only a month or 2 into planning as wedding not for another 16 months.... cant beleive some of these things I've read!!

Aside from my MOH no longer being MOH due to a fall out and things said I cannot forgive (on her part) which of course affects the wedding plans (it wasnt over the wedding) I havent had any funny assumptions or requests. Sure I will though!

Pre-invitations I'm already starting to feel like a bridezilla for wanting only people I know there! Firstly FFIL tells me that his niece's boyfriend is invited - of whom neither of us had heard of, and now one of my friends is saying that 'if the invitation is just for me I'll have to decline as I don't feel comfortable travelling on my own." It's nor a major problem if she does, but guilt trip or what?! I have invited people she knows so she could organise to go with them - or is that too presumptuous of me?

My guestzilla seems to think her son will be driving her to the wedding. She does not quite get that he will be a little busy! If I am to play a bridezilla card this will be it.

Is your guestzilla your FMIL? That's ridiculous, she can make her own way there, surely...

No, my nan! Forgot to say that. My dad will be with me on the day.

Oh my God, that's even more ridiculous!

Still pretty silly! Is there someone else who can take her?

No one lives nearby but we will sort her out. Not that mean!

So I thought I'd revive this for one final rant... we got married just over a week ago, so there couldn't possibly be anymore guestzilla requests, surely. SURELY??

This morning I got this email, from husbands side of the family:

Just a note to remind you that neither [guests husband] nor myself are giving permission for our photos or any including us to be
uploaded onto any social media site e.g. Facebook, Instagram etc. I cleared this with [MIL] before the wedding.

I can't... even...

At the very least, tell me or my husband before the wedding so we could've told the photographer! I've no idea how she expects us to control the social media uploads of everyone who was at the wedding with a camera (i.e. every guest).

Wow..that really is special. Would it it be wrong to reply to her saying she shouldnt worry as she didnt really look THAT terrible?

With a magic wand? There is no way you can police that, I would have your husband or mil speak to them

Haha that just made me laugh out loud! You know what I would do? Put the photographs on Facebook and maybe even zoom in on a few to spite them. What are they going to do, sue you?

Then she shouldn't have stepped in to be in them!! By standing in the photos - she gave her tacit permission for them to be used by the person who took them however they see fit. If I'm right, then the copyright belongs to the photographer and they can use them however they like unless they have written requests not to.

Ridiculous request!!!

Your relatives clearly are spies, working for MI5.

That, or criminals.

That's my vote actually. Total crime lords.

? Totally do it.

That's surely the BEST. RESPONSE. EVER.

? You lot are brilliant, I'm so glad I'm not alone in thinking this is mad! I'm very tempted to follow all of your suggestions!

I do think this is preposterous generally but to play devil's advocate, could it be to do with their jobs? My FMIL works in the probation service and they are told not to use social media, as the offenders they deal with are on there and outside interaction is prohibited. This has caused family issues before with my H2B's aunt over-sharing on facebook. I agree that the way they've worded it and gone about it is horrible, but that could be a possible reason.

LOL, it kinda still makes me laugh - he might well have done it on purpose, you are right!

Funnily enough, my partner emailed him more than a week ago to check the Guest and his Wife's arrival plans (as we're collecting all the train-journey folks to transport them to the venue), and he still hasn't replied. I'm getting ready for those air-punches as I'm absolutely convinced they aren't going to come now we stuck to our guns about the 'no kids' rule ?