Having the same reception venue as your friends

i'm sorry, im thick lol ive read that sentence over and over and dont understand.....

Oh and to ansa the question... we wanted to avoid places we had been to before as wedding guests - if it were possible... we succeeded. Just depends really on whether you think it will matter or not...

We are having our reception at the same place as my SIL2B but I dont see a problem with it. To be honest if that is where you want to have your reception then go for it.

The majority of ppl going wont know it is the same venue. Plus no doubt you will do it different and make it your own!

It is what you want that matters, the rest if irrelevant - that is my view!

Hi,

Whilst I did avoid looking at 2 venues because my pals had been there I knew already they weren't what we wanted however had they been they I would have just gone ahead and booked it. You can't not have somewhere just because your friend got married first. Wouldn't bother me in the slightest if my friend used the same venue as us.

Maybe talk to your friends and see what they say but if they said 'no don't use the same venue' I wouldn't think much of them as a friend.

Lynsey x

Personally I wouldn't really want to use the same venue as a friend, especially if we were having a lot of the same guests. But, that's just me, and I wouldn't judge someone else because they were getting married where a friend already had, if that makes sense. What I've found more awkward is a friend who's getting married at a place that we saw and rejected...she keeps referring to it as our 'second choice' and asking why we didn't choose it...I've found it really awkward to answer as 'We just really didn't like it' isn't going to be what she wants to hear!

Sorry, bit off the subject there! I wouldn't discount a venue straight off just because a friend had got married there (we actually looked at one place we'd been to as wedding guests) but I'd be hoping that I liked somewhere else better, iyswim. I'd also mention to the friend as a courtesy that we had chosen the same place as them - but I wouldn't expect them to mind and would be pretty annoyed if they did make a fuss.

It would'nt bother me in the slightes but I'm not really into one-upmanship or being different for different's sake. Your wedding is unique because it is you and H2B getting married. If anyone were to be sitting comparing weddings I'd think they were a bit sad tbh.

FWIW we often work at weddings where the bride/groom's - friend/sister/brother etc. had previously booked us, the same venue even florists and the like because you often get a referral discount. These people are always the most relaxed and fun to work for because they're not bothered about what anyone thinks.

x

Not a lof of our friends have got married locally so its not an issue but if they had it wouldn't bother us. You choose somewhere because you like it and its the best you can afford. And if other people chose it then it means it must be good !

WSS.....I went to a wedding of a friend 2 yrs ago (and not with my h2b) and now we are not only having our reception at the same place but using the same church too. What does it matter? It's not like anything else will be the same. I just liked her venue and when I took my h2b to see it he fell in love with it too. The fact that its cheaper than everywhere else we got brochures and the service they off is so personal, also we will be the only wedding there that day.

Originally it hadn't bothered me in the slightest, atleast I know the service that venue offers is good otherwise we wouldn't have been considering it! I just thought it rather bizaree that Friend A sent this sort of a text! We were looking at having a different suite to our friends though as we can not afford the style of wedding they had and would not be inviting the large amount of guests so the weddings would be different in many ways!

I think different suite makes a difference. If the 2 are fairly close together in date (I'd say within a year) it will be inevitabel for guests in common to both weddings to make comparisons and personally I wouldn't want that.

(PS Does Friend A love Friend B a bit too much or what???!!!!)

Why would it bother you though? Even if those people thought someone elses wedding was 'better' than yours, who cares? There will literally be hundreds of weddings taking place, across the country, on the same day, that will be 'better' but by whose standards?

Actually, I suspect friend A sent the text to friend B just to give her a boost sort of thing. I recently worked in Purrfect Gem's venue and will be at her wedding next year. It was a good wedding, despite a couple of operational issues but I probably said something along the lines of "yeah it went quite well but not as ace as yours will be" It's the sort of thing friends say to each other isn't it?

I think it comes down to what's more important to you? Having the right venue for you and your H2B or worrying about other peoples pettiness.

x

It wouldn't bother me if one of my friends got married at the same venue as us (as long as it wasn't on the same day!), and I can't imagine why it would cause a problem for anyone.

H2B's cousin got married at our venue, she is delighted we are getting married there, and one of our best friends suggested we look at their wedding venue when we announced our engagement as they knew how much we had admired it on their wedding day, but unfortunately it was out of our budget.

These people need to get a life!

The days will be totally different for 1 major reason...Its you getting married, not your friend!! So I don't see it as a problem.

If you had to find a venue that none of your guests had been to before it would be really hard, if not impossible! Don't worry about it x

I think it would be strange to care!

My friend is gettting married in the same vanue as I did next year. I'm already looking going back to the venue for hers next year!

This shouldn't bother anyone particularly as in some areas there are only limited venues anyway.

The days will be totally different anyway.

It wouldn't bother me but TBH I didn't look at one local venue because everyone seems to get married there, including two of our cousins [not to each other!!] and my SIL2B, and the venue isn't that nice or what we wanted. I didn't really want to use the same place as my sister either but that wouldn't have been big enough anyway. But yeah I am glad a lot of our guests haven't been to our venue before. But if I really liked a venue it wouldn't bother me if any of my friends had been married there.

I think you friends text was a little bit silly and IMO I think she was just making a point to your friend that did get married there so she didn't think the other wedding was better IYSWIM?!