So this is a bit of a random one, please bear with me!
I'm organising my own hen because I didn't want much fuss, and we're not party animals by any stretch! My fiance wasn't bothered about a stag but we've decided to do a day activity each and meet for a big combined pub session inviting lots of friends in the evening. We just want to do something nice and hang out with our mates.
His stag is him and 4 lads (brother, B-I-L, two best friends) doing something like go-karting and pub lunch, which he also organised himself. Mine is just a lovely catered lunch at my house for about 10 girlfriends and the mums and sisters.
So I have a friend who lives abroad and she and her husband can't make it to the wedding because it won't fit with their family visit to the UK this year or their kids' school years abroad. This is absolutely fine, and I'm sad they can't be there but it makes sense.
However. She said she would come to the hen instead, but has now announced that she is bringing her husband. My fiance has never met him. They're expecting to stay at our house (I'd offered for her to sleep over after the night out before this, but we don't have room for many and I'd already told another couple of hens they could stay).
My fiance is quiet and fairly reserved. I'm absolutely not going to ask him to accomodate a stranger and make his own stag activity less enjoyable. The husband in question is a very talkative, slightly noisy Aussie. And I don't want a man, even one I really do like, lurking around my house whilst I try to enjoy my hen - just because my friend has decided that's what she wants!
I think she thinks she's doing me a favour because I get on with her husband and rarely see him. However, when all is said and done he is the husband of a friend I only see about once a year, not my long lost bestie.
I'm angry that she's been inconsiderate. But I am also finding it impossible to think of a way to say no, he can't come. I'm not very assertive, but I'm 42, getting married for the first time and would really like this day to be how I would like it for once.
Please please please, has anyone got any ideas on how I can solve this without seeming like a b**** but without caving and letting her assumptions mess things up?
Thank you!
