how do you all wait so long? I am so impatient!

I don't know how people do it. I started planning 6 months before, lol

Trust me when you get to this stage (check out the ticker!!) you r wishing for more time!! ;-)

We got engaged at new year, thought about planning in April, set a date in June and get married in February. I couldn't drag it out further as would bore me to death!

Whats the reason for waiting until 2015? I'd definitely try and pull forward if possible

No idea why the long engagements. If money is an issue, then have a cheaper wedding. We had a 19 month engagement only because work issues meant my cancelling the earlier wedding which would have been 14 months. We couldn't have a super-short engagement since we didn't have a house together until 9 months after we got engaged.

In the old days (I'm thinking Pride and Prejudice sort of times), weddings were a matter of weeks after the engagement. Not sure when/why/how that changed.

I have just under 7 months to go and i wish it would hurry up! Im such an impatient person anyway, couldnt imagine waiting till 2015 x

Yes feel your pain too, we wanted to get married this year but with the Olympics taking over London and my 2 besties away travelling we have to wait until next year. Its driving us crazy because everything is ready its now just a waiting game.

I will remind you of this thread when time moves closer....

Oooh I feel for you! Thats such a long time! We're having a 14 month engagement... and at this point in time with 4 months to go, I am so bored and have been a while now! I just want christmas to hurry up and get out the way so we're then doing things like dress fittings, hair and makeup trials, giving photo lists, confirming menus, and know who's coming and who's not! Everything that can be done is done now, even the evening invites are made way ahead ready for end of Dec/early Jan posting. Its rather frustating!

I will say though when we first got engaged and said we were getting married in a 12-13months time when we booked the venue, some were shocked at how quick we were doing it. I have no idea why, as I really dont see why an engagement has to be so long.

What she said!! xx

We are planning 2015 too ! We done it so we don't have to rush planning, we can take our time and make sure things are done how we like. I'm rubbish in rushed situations. All my family live away also so it gives them all time to find somewhere to stay so they can be with us on the day.

I've waited so long to get engaged, there's no way I'd have a long engagement! There is a 9 month gap for us wich is just fine by me. Long enough to prepare and short enough for that panicky excitement!

We have done a 6 month engagement.....couldn't have waited longer than that! Only 2weeks to go now! We don't live together or anything yet so maybe that's why we wanted it sooner

Well girls, heres a doozey for you ...

been engaged for FOUR YEARS. Yup, by choice though. it was of a 'commitment' things than a 'plan to get married' deal. we kinda had a battle plan set up when we got engaged, and it was get a house first!! we didnt want to blow all our money on a wedding and not be able to afford to live somewhere comfortable. we rented our we were saving and bought our house in may this year, since then we've been researching and looking at venues

it was frustrating, i tell you but i couldn't get excited about wedding stuff until i knew we were secure in a place. Also i needed him to be more involved (his head was in house buying mode) because despite the the wedding industry marketing its not MY day, its not the BRIDES day. Its OUR day.

Ooh, I couldn't do it!! Our engagement is 8.5 months, would be less but wanted my son's GCSE's well out of the way

I disagree! I was counting down the days and wishing they'd speed up for the last few weeks. Surely I can't be the only one who was wanting my ticker to speed up rather than slow down??

I think I most be one of the only brides to be that does not mind the fact my wedding is still ages away. Whilst I'm really excited about it and love thinking about my wedding day, it's a lovely feeling to know you have it all to look forward to, and I am just making the most of it. Brides often feel quite low after the day is over, so although I can't wait in some ways, I am just enjoying this time. Also having more time, I am finding means there is less stress. Someone suggested having a cheaper wedding and getting married quicker. Our time from engagement to wedding day will be about 16 months. The reason we didn't do it quicker was because of various things. This was the date that suited us better with jobs, other people's weddings and our venue. Although, we've been lucky with financial support from our parents, we are still paying a significant amoutn ourselves, but having this amount of time, has meant we could save a bit each month and hasn't been particularly painful, and have still been able to buy our first house and go away etc. Also, for us, we are engaged so the committment is there, and we know we want to get married, we don't want children for another year or so, so I don't see the rush in bringing it forward a few months earlier!

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I will have been waiting for 2 years and 8 months by the time ours comes, it was mainly due to getting the dates and suppliers we wanted, August ws the only month that worked for me really because I teach, and I wanted to have time off before and after, but it also gave us time to save. I am getting fed up of waiting now but I think once Christmas is over the time will fly by.

Ooo see i'm the complete opposite on that one. If we were not able to afford the things we wanted, I'd rather wait it out a bit longer and save.

That's probably the perfectionist in me talking though.

Having to book so far in advance due to work commitments was a bit of a pain initially, but I do actually like the idea of having the wait now. (2015)

I like the idea of the build up and having something to actively look forward to over the next couple of years, rather than jumping in feet first and it all being over in the blink of a eye. That may not be the reality, but I think that's how it would feel to me if we had say 6 months to plan and one thing was happening off the back off another. I'm so used to waiting a year + for weddings to come around, that anything less than that would be a bit quick for me to get my head around.

I like the thought of having time to properly research and meet suppliers, especially since we're not getting married in area county we live in. Having time to save and pay for things upfront is a bonus too. I hate the thought of "debts" and deadlines looming so getting chunks paid for various things every so often is massively appealing to me.

I think i'd probably feel differently about it if I didn't have much to keep me occupied, but we moved into our new home a couple of months ago so have lots to get sorted out over the next year or so.

We've got a few reasons for our 2 year engagement.

Both of our parents will be celebrating their 30 year anniversary so we think it's a good sign and my baby brother is moving to China in May 2013 for a year as part of his University course. It'll be too expensive for him to fly back for a wedding so we're getting married 6 weeks after he gets back to England.

But honestly, I'm bored of waiting now and if it was up to me it would have happened late this year or early 2013

I only had just over a year to wait and even that was too long for me!

Ours will have been a 7 month engagement - I really wanted a Christmas wedding, so if we didn't do it this year, I felt that waiting a year and a half would have driven me mad! We'd been saving hard anyway, so we felt it was financially viable. For the whole time, I've been thinking there is NO way I could have waited much longer - but now the time is really flying by, and I sort of wish it would slow down! I have social events for the next 3 weekends (with my hen being one of them!), so I think it's only going to fly by even more!

We got engaged in May 2008 and planned to get married in the July of 2010, unfortunately H was made redundant so we had to put back the wedding by a year and got married July last year. I don't think I could knowingly wait 3 years, but we didnt have a choice. The thing is no matter how much time you give to plan whether it be 3 years or 6 months, you'll have lull periods. The next thing you know it's the eve of your wedding day and you wonder how it creeped up so fast.

I agree with this to an extent. We have about 18.5 months between starting planning and the wedding (starting planning is different to getting engaged IMO, some people do both at the same time, others don't even consider the actual wedding bit for a while). We had to give it a certain amount of time, partly due to finances yes but also due to work and practicalities.

I did find myself rather green eyed recently though when a friend planned the whole thing it 4 months and it was a great wedding!

Having plenty of time to spread our the planning and stress is great but it also means you can dilly dally over stuff. Now I'm getting much closer it's just a case of needing to get on with stuff, no time for fannying about.

From engagement to wedding for us will be 17 months by the time wedding comes around.

I personally wanted to get married at the end of this year but OH didn't want to, he didn't to have to rush, which is fair enough, it's his wedding too (not that he's done all that much but there we go!). We've also been able to save more which is nice.

I have actually done quite a lot already but that's mainly because so many of our friend are getting married, when they are looking in to something, I help them out, and then end up finding stuff for us! I'm also determined to get stuff done so I'm not stressing out. Stress can cause flare ups of my condition and that's something I would rather avoid!

We got engaged in April and were originally planning on a 2014 wedding as we werent sure if we could afford one next year. Within a month I had decided I couldnt wait that long and we started looking for better deals (still the same venues) and then moved it to next September.

From engagement to wedding it will be 17 months, we booked the wedding at exactly 15 months. I have most of my stuff done or in progress so I am getting a bit bored now but I think I would rather have the option of taking my time over things than rushing into decision making.

I could probably have done it in 6 months but you never know what things will crop up, perhaps it would have taken me ages to find the right venue/dress etc.

We got engaged in April and are getting married September 2013 so like 18months engagement. It's purely due to finances. He had a graduate job and i was just graduating and was unemployed until February so there was absolutely no way we could have done it any early, we had no money and would have meant we were borrowing it from his parents, who would never had let that fact go and would want a say in everything! I would rather do it alone, and if that meant long then that's what had to happen.