How to invite adults only to our wedding???

I wouldn't worry about a poem. I just put the adults names on the invitation. All the parents with kids understood we were restricted on numbers and said they're glad to have a day to themselves

We have the same issue and I'm putting a hand written note into all the save the dates for people with kids telling them they can't come and why.

Will have to wait and see how that goes down!

As a mum myself, i prefer to have a nice day out by ourselves and not having to worry about the kids. Personally just the adults names alone is enough, i dont think you have to explain any further. I personaly wouldnt be offended, and besides our own children no young children will be invited to the wedding

We specified on our invites

"please note that both the ceremony and reception are adult only events"

We said: Due to limited space and the nature of our venue we are unable to accommodate children at our wedding. We hope this doesn't cause you inconvenience and that you will still be able to share our wedding day with us.

We were prepared for one family in particular to decline for childcare reasons but they didn't. If people had a problem with it, they didn't mention it and we ended up with a deliciously raucous, adults only party, just as we wished!

We are having a child free wedding so before the invites went out we made people with children aware of our plans. 2 of our friends gave birth in December and they have said they are happy not to bring them. I think they all appreciated that we came to them first.

Our wording was as follows: Parents please note: It is our wish to have an adult-only celebration. We hope that this advance notice means that you are still able to share our big day.

We are doing the same, most of the guests that have got kiddies we know anyway and know that we having kiddies so we will just say adult names on the invites, do you think its out of order to have no kids kids there but to have a flower girl? i really wanted my partners god daughter to be flower girl but we have 2 other neices aswell that we went going to invite, im starting to think if u invite one kid u have to invite them all, what do u think?

This, my friend got married last year and had a no children rule but her nephew was coming then she let another friends 2 year old come and it just went up from there. We approched our friends with children before and whilst some werent happy we really had to stand our gorund as if you let one in the it opens the gates.

When I was talking to my friends about the wedding, one fo the first things they asked was if we were having children, when I said no they were relieved as they could have a nice break away ?

We popped a note in with our Save the Dates which went out about a year in advance saying we would only be having family children which is a total of 4 all of whom are in the wedding party!

All of my friends with toddlers have been pleased, I have one who is expecting in June so may or may not be able to come - but has no real idea as it is still a bump presently and its her first.

I don't go with the if you have some you have to have all - if we had all of the children of our guests it would have totalled another 25 people all of an age where we would have to cater for them so made it impossible.

I agree. I really want my godson and his brothers there - they've been through a lot recently and want to be there. They are very well behaved and used to interacting with adults and have never been brought up to have separate "kids food". OH's godchildren are the same.

However, OH has friends with children and last year they were at a wedding we attended. They caused havoc, ripping down the balloons that were the decorations, eating all the cakes from the afternoon tea before adults had had chance to eat the sandwiches, and then picking at the sandwiches, licking them, and putting them back because apparently, according to the parents "well you can't expect a 7yr old to eat prawns". WTF???!

We decided there and then that these children would not be invited. Saying "godchildren only" means they won't be there, and also my cousin's over-pampered little lord fauntleroy brats won't be invited. The only slight downside is that OH's nephew can't be there, but his parents are happy with that and are looking forward to a night off!

This is an interesting topic....we are doing exactly the same (as in adults only) - and I'm a bit odd in that all my friends have recently (in the last 7-10 years) had their kids, whereas I had my only child nearly 18 years ago. This has actually caused a bit of an issue with my friendships as they are all at different stages of parenting their children - but mine's about to go to university!! So, on that basis - my OH has no children - we wrote the following on our additional information sheet that came with the invitations:

" A reminder that apart from children related to our immediate families, our wedding is a child-free zone - so if you can, make a weekend of it!!"

Have had no complaints so far....I made a LOT of effort of making the point that it was going to be a child-free wedding which seemed to work. However, as my god-daughter is one of my flower girls, it then seemed churlish to not invite my god daughter's two brothers if mum and dad (my friends) were also coming. This could be academic though, because my friend has failed to give me my god-daughter's measurements for the dress I want to buy her - despite me asking since January - so for the second time this week I'm about to let another person know that I no longer need her daughter's services...Sorry I've gone off topic!!! Hope this is helpful laurajane66!?

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I completely understand why you'd want a child free wedding and as a parent myself I wouldn't be offended at all! J will be 3.5 by the time we get married and will obviously be there along with our nephew of the same age and my cousin's 2 children that will be around 1yo. That's it hopefully for kids as I don't want loads running around causing havoc. The adult to child ratio will be huge so I'm hoping all the kids will be in check!

My MOH has 3 kids, all of whom are brilliantly behaved and I'd be happy to have there but she's told me she wants to be able to relax and enjoy herself so they won't be coming. Most parents think like this past the baby stage tbh!