Is this cheeky?

No, but that's why I paid for their dresses, shoes, cover-up and bags.

I did let one turn up with barely-brushed hair. IF I had minded, I would have paid for a professional hair and makeup lady.

If you mind their cheap fake tan, you pay for the more expensive one.

Not sure why you are answering for me here.....

There's so many more important things to worry. You won't even care on the day but if your that worried about the photo's then you'll need to make sure everyone of your guests look perfect!

I am paying for their dresses makeup and hair to be done

I would really love to see bridesmaids in jeans and converse

Agree 100% with Saisi. I wanted my bridesmaids to wear nice dresses that matched the colour scheme, so I paid for them. I want my bridesmaids to have nice hair and make-up, so I'm paying for it. I don't care what shoes or jewellery they wear, so I won't be paying for that (other than if I buy them a piece of jewellery as a bridesmaids gift). If you don't like the fake tan they use, offer to pay for a proper spray tan. Like others have said, I wouldn't be difficult to paint it as pre-wedding girlie pampering session.

This is why I had a man. Stick him in a suit and give him some gel for his hair, bish bash bosh, job's a good un. Much easier than women.

One of our guests wore a white suit and converse and she looked great. She had heels on for a photo with us, but after that wore her trainers. Nobody cared.

I promise, on the day you will not care at all how orange someone's skin is. But if you're really that worried talk to them about it.

Im really not some sort of bridezilla here one of my BMs hates wearing heels so i said she can wear flats i dont care about that the only thing that bothers me is the patchy fake tan i couldnt care if they turned up with bright blue hair i just think patchy fake tan looks dirty

I think it is a bit really. Are you in a position to offer to pay for her to go to a salon and have one done as your treat for the wedding? She will feel herself then but she wont be patchy!

EXACTLY THIS!

If you can't be bothered to offer to pay for a decent tan for your BMs, don't complain if they turn up orange.

I don't understand why you are getting defensive about this. You asked if you were being cheeky. Some of us said yes, and gave our reasons. If you don't like our opinions, don't ask for them! Personally, I think you're being cheeky/rude by wanting your bridesmaids to get a 'decent fake tan' but expecting them to do so on the proviso they make all the effort to make it happen.

I think i will have to do that now

Hi

I think the concensious is if you would like something a certain way you have to offer to pay. I bought my girls their shoes, I'm buying their dresses, I'm paying for their hair to be done but they are doing their own makeup. I like the way they do theirs.

If I hated the way they did their make up I'd pay for that. If they refused that's down to them. They are all excited to be brides maid but if there was something that fundamentally bothered me about their look I'd say "Comeon girls let's go get this done...my treat!".

One girl bites her nails. I personally hate this habbit, mainly because it was drummed into me as a kid that it's dirty and that's how you get worms (not sure how true this is). Her nails are a bit of a state. I'm thinking if it really botheres me I will say "oooo girly treat let's get our nails done!" or "oooo come round, you can do my nails and I'll do yours". I would never say "I'm sorry but I don't like your nails, can you sort them out".