Little touches

Little details from other people's weddings have only really stuck in my mind if they have a real significance to the couple.

For example, one of my friends was a rabbit fanatic who had little model rabbits popping up everywhere in all the decorations - it stuck in my mind because it was so typical of her.

Most of the weddings I've been to, I couldn't tell you about the decorations, the confetti, the signs or anything else. The main things that stick in the mind long-term are the overall feel of the venue, the conversations and, of course, seeing the bride & groom get married.

So if there is something you really want to include because it is important to you, go ahead with it - it will mean a lot to you even if other people don't notice it, but the chances are they will notice it simply because it is personal to you. "Do you remember how Anna had ---- at her wedding? That reflected her interest in ----- so well."

So if you really want the welcome signs or the confetti or a particular cake topper/decoration then go for it. But don't worry about adding 'finishing touches' just for the sake of it, because most guests won't even notice them on the day - and certainly won't remember them more than a few weeks after.

Hi Anna,

I wanted a lot of the little things/decorations, but really - it's up to you if wanted it. At one point, I wanted chair sashes (wasn't part of our wedding package from venue), because I thought the chairs looked really plain with their white chair covers. Ultimately decided against it, as at the end of the day, people are just going to look at it for 1 minute and then sit on it for about 2-3 hours of the day. If I really had the budget, I would have upgraded to chiavari chairs, but it cost too much and ultimately wanted to put money towards other aspects of the wedding.

I also DIY'ed my own welcome sign, table plan, order of the day sign and bought biodegradable confetti. Out of those, I would do an order of the day, in case you have any guests who wants to know timings (in particular feeding time!). I just created a quick sign on Microsoft Word with black text and plain design, printed it off and put it in an A4 frame which I already had at home then asked my venue to put on gift table.

As others have said, guests aren't going to remember your decorations, they will just remember seeing you and your H2B celebrate your special day! I had to look back at photos of past weddings which I've attended to see what decorations were done, when I was wedding planning :-)

I think little details only matter if they matter to you - if you're adding a generic favour because you think you should, it's a waste of money imo

Don't stress yourself unnecessarily, but if you want to personalise with little extras - I'd think about what's important to you and your partner, what feels like 'you' and incorporate it. I went to a wedding where they had a whisky bar because the bride was Scottish and the groom loved whisky, and another where they had little personalised lego figures of all the guests (so cute, and I imagine super expensive!). At ours we're going to have a glitter bar - which isn't really significant to either of us, we just think it'd be fun - and fish and chips in the evening, because we're both from sea side towns. We've cut down on signage because I'm not too bothered, but there are so many cute ways to personalise things like seating charts and wedding signage - I saw one seating chart where each table was a favourite pub of the couple