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Lost my mum

Sarah, 27 January, 2023 at 09:43 Posted on Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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Sorry this is a bit of a difficult one. I very suddenly and unexpectedly lost my mum a week ago. I’m getting married in 4 months. I don’t know how I’m physically going to make it through the day without her. She was my best friend in the world. I know she’d want us to go through with the day, she was so looking forward to it, but I just keep thinking of all the moments I’m going to be looking for her face. It all sounds so selfish, but it’s completely changed my feeling towards the day. I’m dreading it. Not marrying my fiancé, but having the day without my mum there with me. Has anyone else experienced something similar and can offer any advice of how to get through the day without being consumed by grief, and actually enjoy parts of my wedding day?

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Latest activity by Sophie, 28 January, 2023 at 19:57

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Michelle · 27 January, 2023 at 11:38
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I'm so sorry about the loss of your mum I think she would want you to carry on and enjoy your special day and to keep your mum with you on that special day you could have a little pic of her for your special day Etsy has some lovely little ornaments with chairs and you can put a picture of her on it but what you need to remember is she wouldn't want you to be sad and remember all the things you did together before her passing x♥️
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Michelle · 27 January, 2023 at 11:40
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Something like this x ♥️
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Sarah · 27 January, 2023 at 17:00
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I’m so sorry for your loss.
The honest truth is that right now, there is nothing anyone will say that’ll make you feel better. The loss is so recent and there is so much to process that there really isn’t much point putting a plan in place to help you get through the wedding day right now.
As time moves on, start to then think about the best way to handle it, but right now, just deal with the immediate feelings.
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Michelle · 27 January, 2023 at 18:02
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Totally agree with Sarah ♥️
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Tiff · 27 January, 2023 at 19:58
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I'm so sorry for your loss, I can't even imagine how you must be feeling

I agree with the advice from others, your mum would want you to enjoy your special day, and I'm sure she'll be watching over you ❤️
We've kept my grandad's space open at our wedding despite his passing last year, to honour him, so maybe this is something you could consider when you feel able to
But definitely for now just focus on yourself and giving yourself time to process what's happened xxx
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Sophie · 28 January, 2023 at 19:57
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I’m so sorry. As you said she would want you to still go ahead, and of course it’s only been a week since she passed I can’t even imagine how you’re feeling, but totally understand why you’re now dreading the day.

Contrary to what others have said, maybe you could push the wedding back a year or so if you really felt like you needed the time out to not plan a wedding etc when it is all so raw. Obviously one year on you will still feel the same but perhaps be able to cope better in terms of your feelings towards the wedding and not feel do consumed by grief (I don’t mean that it will have gone away of course - I just think maybe if it were me I’d need some time process it). X
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