Maid of Honour Issue

Hello,

May we ask what industry she works in? is she in the army or something like that where she feels she may be deployed abroad? As I am struggling to understand why she would think she can't come because of work commitments or need to wait till next June to let you know her schedule? or maybe in the entertainment industry on a cruise ship for month at a time?

Other than those industries i don't understand her comments? But from your point of view, if there is a possibility of her not being able to be there I think its good that she told you this far in advance!

Whoa! Before everyone gets too carried away with character assassination on the MOH!!!

What kind of job does she do? It's quite common for companies to write into employment contracts that staff may not book annual leave during certain periods, and if those periods are around things like conferences or open days, then it's more than likely the dates for 2023 aren't finalised until 2022. It's also quite common for companies to book annual leave on a rota system, so that the same people don't always get first pick of holiday dates. So there may be very good reasons why she is unable to commit to a summer 2023 wedding a whole two years in advance.

Why do you need her to commit now? Ok, it wouldn't be sensible to buy her dress until you know she can come, but a year is heaps of time to find a bridesmaid dress, so as long as she can let you know by this time next year if she can come, I think you should just go with it.

I tend to have backup always if one can't make it then got an alternative option and make sure another can commit fully and confirmed. Just don't need that stress on the day and eventually goes well. Good luck.