Marrying abroad

For me personally, and fully honest, I genuinely couldn't do it. As they have been so strong and supporting of you it would seem odd to make a decision that excludes them, and truthfully am not sure why you would consider it. Am not judging at all, is your choice but you need to really think hard before you decide as once you have there may be fallout and there is no going back. A wedding should be full of your supporters and closest family and for me that would mean your grandparents should be part of it. Also, bear in mind others ability to attend a ceremony abroad as it is a lot of money and for some this may be too much and you dontnwany anyone to feel pressure, especially with the current financial recession looming, it may be a few years away but you just don't know peoples situations. Wishing you luck, fo nnow just enjoy being engaged and explore options so when you are ready to book something you have considered all the pros and cons and ensure you are happy with the choice

I do think that having them at the wedding is most important based on the relationship that you describe. You have to think how you would feel in years to come when they are no longer here whether you would have regrets. Have you considered getting married in the UK and maybe doing a blessing abroad on either honeymoon or at a future anniversary? X

Totally agree with the other posters on here. If they have been such a huge part of your life then they need and deserve to be there on your big day to celebrate with you. I wouldn’t do it personally. My FH mum is very elderly and doesn’t drive and that was a big part of my decision to get married down south where I now live and she lives about 40 mins away. My parents who are very active and visit us regularly are 5 hours away but they totally understood my reasons for getting married down south.
As you are no doubt young and active and don’t mind travelling you can go abroad anytime. Your grandparents can’t so they should be excluded on that basis.

Meant to say grandparents should not be excluded- you can't edit your posts on the phone app!

I think you should not exclude someone who has been there for you so much xx 💗 dont want you to think im critising but i have always planned a wedding with just our kids and told my parents when i met my partner nearly 20 years ago this is what we always wanted it didnt go down well but we are not close like you are with grandparents please enjoy your planning and think about would you really want for the future them there or not xx💗