We are not having a wedding party with official parents/MOH/BM roles so we are not having men in matching suits. At my Dad's request we showed him what suit my OH was wearing but we were clear that we didn't want people to match and for everyone to wear what they want instead. A few weeks later and my Dad has now bought his suit and we've realised it's the same one that OH also has on order. He says he bought it because he likes it rather than because it's what OH is wearing and has offered to wear something else if it's the exact same.
Now my OH is doubting whether he wants that suit or should change to avoid the awkwardness with telling my Dad not to wear his. OH is concerned that even if he changes the colour of his suit, the
style and fabric will still be the same so people could tell it's the
same suit.
We also worry that even if he doesn't wear this new suit to our wedding, my Dad could still wear it to future family events so OH feels like he could never wear the suit again for fear of them matching. I feel ok to tell my Dad that he can't wear that suit because it's what OH is wearing but I don't feel like I can tell him to return it so my OH could get future use out of his.
It took us so much searching to find this suit that OH and I both like, I don't want to start that all over again and potentially compromise on what OH will wear.
Do you think I can tell my Dad to return this suit or to just not wear it to our wedding or I can't say anything and OH will have to look again?
