Micro wedding and managing guests

You 'manage' disappointing people by realising that whatever you do for your wedding, someone is going to think you should have done differently. And having realised that, you go ahead with the plan that works for you.

If you have an elopement followed by an after-party, then I would plan the party at the same time as the elopement and have it very soon after. I know so many people who have eloped and promised a big celebration 'later', but 'later' never happens! So to save disappointment, I would either determine to have a micro-wedding and make it clear that there will be no party later on, or have the party planned & booked before you elope.

View quoted message Thank you so much for replying!! Some good advice there!

We are having a micro wedding (15 people including us) and we managed people’s expectations by being very clear about what we wanted. From the moment we decided what kind of wedding we wanted, we told people that it would be tiny, making it very clear that it would only be immediate family and closest friends. We’ve also been clear that there will be no after party! We have found that everyone has been very supportive and respectful of our wishes for our wedding, and even people who aren’t invited are still excited to hear all about it. Please don’t worry about how people will react, because those closest to you just want you to be happy, and anyone who complains doesn’t deserve to be there anyway!


Good luck x

We had just 6 people at the ceremony, including us! While covid was a issue and weddings were cut back it was fine, once the restrictions were lifted it caused some issues and I was made to feel guilty. I stood my ground and kept it small but then had a party a couple of days later to get everyone involved. I was really peeved that people couldn’t respect my wishes and couldn’t understand that we wanted no fuss because the day was difficult enough not having my dad there! I think if I was to do it again I’d not tell them!

View quoted message Yes that’s what we’re thinking - maybe just throwing a party and explaining we want it to be small. I don’t have my mum around anymore as she passed when I was younger, and I’m not close to her family, so it would save any awkwardness there too. Thank you ..

View quoted message Thank you!! Sounds like you’ve managed the message well. Hopefully my friends are as understanding :-) Enjoy your day!

I think only you and h2b can make this choice but be prepared for a fall out sorry not being mean but this is me now we plan to do it alone with our kids but family and friends don't talk to us now because of this I would suggest a chat with them all see what the reaction is you could do a party when you get back just remember it's about the two of you X ❤️

I think it's your day and you have right about how you manage your wedding. If you think you disappoint your guest then that is such a weird thing because, in any event, guests are not fully satisfied with anything. So don't be scared of any such foolish thing and enjoy your wedding day with your loved ones.

I had problems #1 and #2 for my 40 person wedding. We ended up adding 8 people, which including us meant it was a 50 person wedding. It’s frustrating when people assume (or ask) they will be fine to just bring extra people, and that even though you haven’t invited certain friends to keep the list low, you may end up allowing these extra people to keep the peace. I ultimately decided keeping it drama free was worth allowing those handful of extra people, but you know what’s best for you. It can be frustrating, and I think it’s regardless of wedding size. If you have a guest count in mind, a number agreed upon with the venue (we did), and a hard deadline for vendors… size is irrelevant and these issues are common. Sorry it’s frustrating! Once your head counts are due it will be over at leastI had problems #1 and #2 for my 40 person wedding. We ended up adding 8 people, which including us meant it was a 50 person wedding. It’s frustrating when people assume (or ask) they will be fine to just bring extra people, and that even though you haven’t invited certain friends to keep the list low, you may end up allowing these extra people to keep the peace. I ultimately decided keeping it drama free was worth allowing those handful of extra people, but you know what’s best for you. It can be frustrating, and I think it’s regardless of wedding size. If you have a guest count in mind, a number agreed upon with the venue (we did), and a hard deadline for vendors… size is irrelevant and these issues are common. Sorry it’s frustrating! Once your head counts are due it will be over at least

• I had problems #1 and #2 for my 40 person wedding. We ended up adding 8 people, which including us meant it was a 50 person wedding. It’s frustrating when people assume (or ask) they will be fine to just bring extra people, and that even though you haven’t invited certain friends to keep the list low, you may end up allowing these extra people to keep the peace. I ultimately decided keeping it drama free was worth allowing those handful of extra people, but you know what’s best for you. It can be frustrating, and I think it’s regardless of wedding size. If you have a guest count in mind, a number agreed upon with the venue (we did), and a hard deadline for vendors… size is irrelevant and these issues are common. Sorry it’s frustrating! Once your head counts are due it will be over at leastI had problems #1 and #2 for my 40 person wedding. We ended up adding 8 people, which including us meant it was a 50 person wedding. It’s frustrating when people assume (or ask) they will be fine to just bring extra people, and that even though you haven’t invited certain friends to keep the list low, you may end up allowing these extra people to keep the peace. I ultimately decided keeping it drama free was worth allowing those handful of extra people, but you know what’s best for you. It can be frustrating, and I think it’s regardless of wedding size. If you have a guest count in mind, a number agreed upon with the venue (we did), and a hard deadline for vendors… size is irrelevant and these issues are common. Sorry it’s frustrating! Once your head counts are due it will be over at least
  

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