mil dress

Maybe she was joking, hope so for your sake. If not you need to say something as hard as that would be.

My mum has around 15 dresses for my wedding (and she says I have a shopping addiction 😂) but the one she was swaying towards was an ivory one with a yellow flower on.
When she showed me I jokingly said “oh I didn’t realise you were the bride too mum” she didn’t get the hint to start with but then after another conversation about dresses I dropped into conversation that I’d be so upset if someone wore a white dress to my wedding. She’s now brought a completely new dress which isn’t white.

Maybe try drop it into conversation in a jokey way, or say a friend asked if she could wear ivory etc and you said no, then hope she gets the hint. Another way is asking what colour as you would like to match the grooms suits/ties/flowers or something to her colour scheme. My MIL is having the same colour dress as the back of the waistcoats so she feels like part of the wedding party.
I dunno what type of relationship you have with her. But hopefully she would rather you told her than have it cause upset on the day. If you really can’t tell her, then get her son to tell her 🤣 “mum if you try upstage my wife to be then I’ll put you in the worst care home when your older” 😝😉

Definitely unfair of her to be looking at the same colours as the bride... Does your OH have any siblings? Perhaps you could mention it to them and they might be able to broach the topic?

Otherwise maybe offer to look at outfits with her and, if she does pull out anything ivory and nude, gently tell her it's a bit too similar to your dress and offer up some alternatives?

I'd take the route Emma has suggested and try make a joke about it. Maybe say you'd like her to look part of the wedding party with a hint of the bridesmaids colour or something like that. Good luck!

Hi jessica i think the best thing to do is explain to her how you feel or get your partner to speak to her especially if you like one in that colour your the one getting married not her good luck x

I'd let it go. It was probably a joke, but even if she does turn up in an ivory dress, it's not like anyone is going to think she's the bride!

If it really worries you, I would approach it by suggesting you have a day out together to shop for her dress - then you can gently steer her away from anything too ivory, by saying how lovely another colour would look on her, or how this colour would look great against the wedding flowers or whatever else will work.

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This is a really good shout on the day out!

Chances are she was joking but understand the desire to nip it in the bud!